What's the gap between your babies?pg again and have 7 month old...

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So I've just found out I'm pg again, about 4 or 5 weeks, due in November. DS is 7 and a half months and at times I struggle to look after him and stay sane! And it's such a full time job cooking for him/ cleaning up after him/entertaining him that I'm just about totally freaking out about ow I'm going to look after two babies! dS only just started sleeping through the night and I'm kind of scared to be starting the whole journey again.
What's the gap between your children and is it possible to cope!?

Just thought of something else... Am I going to need a double buggy? I have a bugaboo chameleon and love it, would be sad to have to get another, ntm cost...

There is 13 months between my two - not planned! In all honesty I was horrified when we found out, but I can definately say it was the best thing to happen to us. It is hard in the early days, but then I guess it would be just as tough with a 2 yr/3 yr gap.

Just think you will get all the nappies/high chairs/messy stuff over with in the space of a few years and your DC will not remember life without the other so no jealousy issues.

Many congratulations

We have 21 months between DD1 and DD2, planned like that. I underestimated how hard the first 3 months was going to be, but now DD1 has mostly stopped beating hugging DD2 so hard and she can talk better we seem to be rubbing along pretty well. I think all the age gaps have their own challenges, am panicking a bit about DD2 walking, I am not ready for her to be able to move independently yet! The best thing about your age gap is that they will never know any different and jealousy won't be a problem.

There's 34 months between my oldest 2 and 16 months between my youngest 2 (I have 3), and the 16 month gap is waaaaay easier, honestly. I think you'll have about the same? Sure, it's quite tiring physically for a year or two, but they are interested in similar things, etc. Makes life easier as they go. Also, you're still not dealing with preschool, school runs yet, which makes life easier. My gaps were a pain, as my oldest started school the week after the 3rd was born, so I had 2 that were too young for preschool and 1 that we had to be on the dot at school with... was hard going.

But I do remember that no.2 was a very wriggly baby, and changing nappies on the floor when I was very pg with no.3 was not fun!

Also, don't know if this applies to you, but I was still bf no.2 all the way through my pg, although only once a day by the end (and as it was colostrum by then, she would break off to have a drink of water before relatching ). But dd3 was the only one I didn't have sore nipples with when she was newborn (and I fed dd2 until dd3 was 3 months too, how the heck did I fit it all in????).

I have 18 months between DD1 & DD2, wouldn't have changed it for the world I live the closeness they have, yes you will definitely need a double buggy, I recommend a Phil and Teds.

I also have 2.6 y between DD2 & DD3 and 22m between DD3 & DS, 4 babies in 5y 10m. The best gap is 18 months, tbh if I could have I would have had 18 months or less between all.

Oh yes, dd2 learnt to go down the stairs (backwards) just before dd3 was born, that was a lifesaver! And I found the first few months ok, it was after 3 months that I found life tough (but I think my thyroid was to blame for that).

And yes, you'll probably need a double some of the time. I used a sling and a single a lot, or if 2 adults we used 2 singles, but for the school run I needed a double. dd2 was too wee for the buggyboard for a while, but proved to be a great wee walker early on. Sling is an invaluable tool with this age gap! I once fed dd3 while pushing dd2 on swing in a park.

My first was 15 months when I had twin girls, was tiring but you cope because you have too. The girls were then 3 when I had another set of twins so I had 5 kids in 4 year and 1 month.

Oh just 18 years

Also wondering how I will cope!!

Omg 'harrygracejessica', hadn't even thought of the possibility of twins! 5 kids in 4 years is some going...
Having one wasn't the walk on the park I thought it might be and now I know what I'm letting myself in for I'm def more apprehensive this time!hoping to see just the one baby on the scan tho, 2 might just tip me over the edge

I'm going to have 18 months between my two. DC2 due at the end of July and DS is 13 months now. I'm totally panicking about it but I'm hoping that after the initial year of hell it will be all good and they will play together while you finally go to sleep! And accept as much help as you can get.

Also a 15 month old is really different from a 7 month old. I keep thinking that it will be like DC is the same as he is now but things will change completely by then.

I also have a chameleon but think a double is inevitable. I'm going to go for a phil and teds but use the chameleon for the new baby with buggy board for short trips, the double if me and them together for longer days out and maclaren and slingif they both need to nap. I think we will use two singles when it's DP and me and them. My house will resemble a buggy showroom

Good luck and congrats!

16 months between my first two. It was hard in the early days sometimes but they have played together brilliantly from a young age.

I bought a cheapy double buggy on ebay but used sling + single buggy 98% of the time and much preferred it to taking the double out. You will need a good sling though - something that is comfy for you both for long periods. It's worth going to a local sling meet or sling library for some advice www.slingmeet.co.uk

hi firsttimer

I'm going to have a 14 month gap between DD1 and DC2 - due in August. I was pretty shocked when I found out, at 5 weeks pregnant even though we had been trying so I guess I should have expected it!

It took a bit of getting used to as an idea, but now that I have, and I am passed the 12 week scan, I am now really looking forward to it and very excited. I do remember feeling very scared though and thinking what have I done!

Obviously I have no practical advice or experience to offer you as I'm not there yet, but there already seem to be lots of positives on the practical side. I'm only going back to work for 2 months before starting a second year's maternity for example. Everything is still pretty fresh in my mind. We still have everything we had for DD1.

Good luck!

Its not too bad - except lack of sleep lol. There are no twins In the family either so the girls were a huge huge shock for us - he took it better than me!!

10 years

I have 4 years 4 months between DD and DS1, 6 years 4 months between DS1 and DS2 and there will be about 16 months between DS2 and DC4 (Due April).

There's pro and cons to large and small age gaps.
It was nice with the first three to have the older DC in school and then plenty of time to devote to the baby.

DD and DS1 are at the ages (nearly 12 and 7) where they have nothing in common and almost constantly bicker, though some of this is down to personality. However they both adore DS2 and are really excited about DC4.

I am finding things very tiring looking after a 1 yo in this last trimester despite having my easiest pregnancy so far.
I am worried about how I am going to manage BFing and meeting the needs of DS2 in the early days.
Our families will I know help out a lot but equally I don't want DS2 to be farmed off to GP's all the time, as he still feels very much like my baby too.
Lot's of mums with small age gaps have told me how close there DC are which I hope will be the same with mine.

WRT pram, I also have a Bugaboo Cameleon which I adore. I wanted the Donkey but my hall is too narrow, so decided to wait for the new I-candy Peach to be released and use the Cam and a sling until then.
However I am now facing the possibility of a CS so am buying a cheap Britax B-Dual to tide me over, until I either get the new Peach or DS2 is a walking and I can use the Cam and buggy board.

congrats! im in the same boat, DD is 7.5 month and im due mid october. fun! i cant wait, i think its a blessing as theyll be so close and i wont have to start from scratch after a few years. i read that it ok to carry some weight in the first trimester and that we should watch out later on. my plan is to encourage baby girl to walk rather early (does that work?) and snuggle on sofa instead of bouncing around on my arms. its gonna be fab really, i'm sure delusional

8yrs when LO is due in September

Fulllife they walk when they walk unfortunately my friend has a DD 2.4 and a DS 10m. her DD walked at 17 months, her DS got up and walked off at just over 8 and a half months, they are all individuals, My DD used to snuggle now she climbs onto the back of the Sofa and kind of sits on my head and neck lol, that should be fun when DC2 arrives.