When are you telling people?

[izzybizzybuzzybees]

My mum told me today that my cousin is expecting in November. She is very excited.

We are due in Nov also and wonder when to tell people...with our first we told straight away but now I'm not sure what to do!

I'm 12 weeks with dc3 and havent told a soul. feel a bit weird about telling my mum now tbh... i really need to do it soon.

told everyone straight away with all three :)

It is a tricky one and does depend on how close you are to family and friends and for me (also due november) its far too soon having had two mcs in past having to untell people is a nightmare. Izzy come and join us on nov 12 thread in antenatal club thread.

I told my parents straight away with DS, and the rest of the world at 12 weeks. Now I'm due Nov as well, and only told my parents and parents in law. Have no idea when I'm telling people, but as it doesn't feel real yet, I prefer to keep it to myself (I mean, ourselves)

We told after our 12 week scan. With our first pregnancy we jumped the gun and told as soon as we knew, and then MCed one week later. We decided it was better to wait until after the MC rate significantly dropped - it didn't seem fair to put our family through that again.

We told most people within about a week of finding out. With hindsight I wish we hadn't, but we got our dates wrong and thought I was 10 weeks pregnant when I was only 6! Also, sods law meant that it was DP's 30th birthday party about a week after we found out and I'm not usually known to avoid a drink () so it was pretty obvious and one or two people guessed, so once we had told one person we ended up telling everyone!

Next time around I think I will tell my family and close friends when I find out (should anything happen, I will want their support) but and then the rest of the world after the 12 week scan.

besides DH i told two close friends immediately, just because if i mc, they were the ones i would want support from.

told my mother and manager at 7 weeks for practical reasons re: travel arrangements etc. would have preferred to wait tbh, but it wasn't feasible.

telling everyone else, incl family, at 12 weeks once scan is out of the way, and provided all is well. like others, i don't want to have to "untell" anyone if i can possibly help it.

Told family and closest friends within about a week but won't let it go on things like facebook until after 12weeks. I just figured i needed to tell some people as so excited but only people i can rely on for support if something did happen.

we only told my mum with my 1st pregnancy and at my 12 week scan found out our baby had died at 8 weeks , had to go through a D and C , so then had to tell my father , my DH mother and father , my grandparents and so on as it ment a operation , so we have allways told close family straight away in case the same happens again , im now 7 weeks with our 7th baby , and our 2 eldist children knew straight away as i was a smoker and stopped they guessed , would rather they hadnt know just yet .

I am 13 weeks and had first scan on Monday - we told parents straight after the scan and have been telling other family and friends this week.
I was so worried that there wouldn't be anything 'in there' at the scan so there was no way I would have wanted to tell a soul any earlier.
My DM was really quite pleased to find out at 13 weeks - she said now I can be excited and not worry too much for you. So my advice would be to wait. However everyone is different and I haven't had any MS so was relatively easy to hide it from people. Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck with whatever you decide.

Expecting late Oct early Nov. Will know better tomorrow. Told grandparents and boss.

For first pregnancy I kept completely quiet until after the 12 week scan and then told immediate family first and then everyone else.

This time I told immediate family at 7 weeks, as we were home for Christmas, I felt like crap and really needed people to understand that I wasnt just being the world's worst host on purpose. Told a few more people after 12 week scan but I'm not bursting to tell everyone in the world asap unlike last time when I couldnt wait to get out of the doctor's office. I actually told my boss at 6 wks as was about to sign contract and wanted to make sure she was ok with it.

I'm 9 weeks and have a complicated "telling people" timeline!

With my last pregnancy I told the world and his wife and then promptly miscarried. Yes, I would have told some of them anyway as I needed their support but I was way too open about it and it was awkward having to untell people. I had phone calls from work colleagues asking how I was getting on for weeks afterwards and having to tell them was hideous.

This time, we told parents almost immediately and I told my book group girls (we have all been trying and had three MCs between us so no use pretending otherwise with them!) A couple of other friends have guessed and asked and I didn't bother to lie to them but they are sworn to secrecy.

We had an early scan at 8 weeks for reasurrance and told our siblings after that, but it would have been obvious anyway as I have pulled out of a half marathon I am entered in for the second time in two years.

Everyone else we will tell if the 12 week scan is OK. I suspect most of my friends and family will have guessed as I have gone from party animal to teetotaller, given up running and left Weight Watchers!