They used to wait until after the baby was born and then test the blood from the cord to see what Rh the baby is. My dd is Negative, like me. This time around (in my area at least I'm not sure if it's nationwide yet) they have changed the guidelines and give you anti-d injections if you are Negative during pregnancy that way if there is any chance the baby may be positive then the mother won't make antibodies to the child.
To me it seems a lot more simple if they were to test the husband/partner because if he is Negative and you are negative you are going to have a negative baby. Therefore you won't need the anti-d.
If the father is RH positive then you'd probably still get the anti-d injections incase the father has passed the positive gene onto the baby.
I understand that not everyone would want their partner/husband tested but surely if you specifically asked them I don't see a problem, but who am I to question the Dr's.
I'm sure your blood group is something that isn't in your medical notes at the dr's as I can remember my best friend asking her dr what her blood group was just out of interest and the dr didn't know as it wasn't in her notes. I, like her, always thought that it was something that would be in there but apparently not.
My mother in law says that my Dh is negative like her and Dh's brother but we wanted to check just to be definite.
Anyway thanks everyone and I'll mention donating blood to my Dh, we hadn't thought of that.