Fed up of feeling guilty

[waitingimpatiently]

It's been a while since I posted last, been busy with DD who is 17 months now, found out recently I was pregnant with number two.
When I had my little girl, she wasn't planned, things weren't ideal, but we managed and did well and I love her more than anything, but family kept hoping I'd miscarry, abort or whatever and I was made to feel totally guilty about having her. When I told my family that I was expecting, I didn't expect them to be thrilled but again, I was made to feel guilty about having another. I'm only 22 but surely that's old enough to make my own decisions. I know they want me to get rid of the baby, but I'm fed up of being made to feel like this! Surely having a baby is a good thing? Is it wrong what I'm doing? Is having a baby the right thing to do??

Having a baby is a wonderful thing if it's something that you want/something you didn't expect but can love.

I have no idea why your family are so unsupportive. Maybe they had a strong idea of how they saw your life turning out and feel disappointed for you that its not going to their plans. Maybe they are just a bit worried because they know that looking after children can be tough at times and want things to be easier for you (especially if they regretted how young they were when they started a family). Maybe they are just horrid, insenstive gits who should keep their noses out of your life (particuarly if they actually said they hoped you'd miscarry your wonderful daughter ).

Relationships with family members can be stressful at the best of times and when a major life event like pregnancy happens it can reopen old hurts.

The point is this is your life. If you are happy with your pregnancy then don't let their negativity make you feel bad. Talk it out with them if you think it might help, avoid them if you think it will give you better peace of mind. Concentrate on your family, you, your daughter, your partner if he's involved, and your new pregnancy. These are the people you have to look after.

Make sure that you have friends/dp/other mums to talk to about this stuff. If you have no one then try and speak to a gp/midwife/consellor about how you feel.

Congratulations, I'm sure your DD will love her new sibling :)

^^^ What Wolf said

Oh I'm so sorry your family are being so unsupportive! I have a nearly 3 year old, I got pregnant at 18, and I'm now 32+5 weeks with number two. And 22 in 7 days. Family where dissapointed but are supportive. With my first though there where problems with my dad accepting it, it is hard but give them an ultimatum, maybe support u thru pregnancy or not at all when their born. My first wasn't planned but he is now my life, I had doubts about this one, but they've gone now and I only wish I got pregnant again sooner so the age gap was a bit closer! Basically its your life, no one elses, if its what YOU want...go for it!! Not saying its easy because it won't be...kids arnt...but what they certainly are is rewarding. How's the dad about it? Is he happy and supportive?