Going to 20 week scan alone

[Sarahmarie2505]

i have my 20 week scan Nxt fri. My partner couple get the time off and the dept cudnt give another day as they are super busy ! My mums jus had a knee op so she won't b able to come : ( some friends have offered but I feel if something is wrong or not going well it's something i wouldn't want them to know. We also want to know the sex and I feel we should b the only ones to know for a while so we can get excited on our own . Anyone else been on their own before ? I'm kind of dreading it : (

I haven't been alone for 20 week scan but did have to go to 2 12 week ones alone.

Completely understand you might want someone in case of any problems as I had the first time I went alone, although as I said that was a 12 week scan.

Before you worry about sharing news on the sex though, it might be worth asking the hospital if they even give this information. Ours have a policy, like many others, of not telling parents whether they are having boy or girl.

I had my 20 week scan for this pg (DC4) on my own. I didn't mind too much but then he has only ever come to 20 week scans and births, he couldn't come to an early scan after a bleed, or one when they couldn't find DS2's heartbeat with the dopplar so I am kind of used to dealing with things on my own.
As for the sex, get them to write it down and put it in an envelope so you can open it together. I know loads of people who have done this.

Hope all goes well for you.

Yes I went in my own, I was in Australia due to family reasons and my DH was back in UK. It was fine, the sonographer was lovely and chatty, I just tried to think of it as a check up rather than a big deal. I got a dvd of it all and some great scan pictures, not sure if you get a dvd in the UK but could ask/pay if not. We wanted to find out the sex too but just us to know at first. When I got back to UK we watched the DVD which was nice. After the scan I was so relieved all was ok that I went and pottered around a baby shop and bought his first toy. It's fine, you can call him right after and tell him all about it.

They told me the sex of the other 2 not sure if this policy had changed at our hospital or not? Not too bothered if they can't anyway really. I like the envelope idea I may do that xx

I went to my 20 week scan alone. My sonographer was lovely too and talked me through everything in a really detailed manner so I knew exactly what she was looking for and what I'd see, and I found out I'm having a girl, which was nice. I was also given a fantastic, really detailed, high quality scan photo at the end.
I didn't like it when she rammed the doppler into my navel because it really stung, so watch out for that; although you'll probably be too fascinated by what's on the screen to notice it for long.
To be honest, if I knew just how interesting the scan would be, I would have taken someone but more so they could enjoy it as well rather than being sorry I was on my own, iyswim, because I was so riveted by what I was seeing.
Best of luck and I'm sure you'll enjoy it!

Is it possible you could book a separate private scan to go to together to compensate for him missing this one? My 4d scan was amazing

I have been to every scan on my own - I'm single so it's expected, but no family have offered to go. I haven't felt bothered by it at all! Think of it as a lovely time for you to be with the baby and perhaps you could book a 3-d scan later for you and partner to see baby

I'm going to my 20 wk scan on my own as DH travelling for work. I'm kind of looking forward to it, as DH is v nervous about abnormalities and tends to hop around in the background looking angsty.

I went on my own as DH was deployed. I did worry about bad news etc as we live very far from family but had contingency plans and all was fine in the end.