Please someone tell me it'll all be ok....

[caija]

Please someone talk to me about this....please go easy on me. I am currently pregnant with dc3 after only being with DP 2 months. I am now just over 7 weeks pregnant. I have suffered 3 miscarriages to my previous partner. Also have dc2 with previous partner, who I was with for seven years, was a bad relationship. So basically my kids have different dad's. N this baby will have too :( it's not the way I planned it, to have 3 kids to 3 different men..... My hormones have been awful. Over the last week or so I have been distancing myself from DP, making excuses for him not to come over etc as I just feel like I don't know if I feel the same about him now....why am I feeling like this?! I'm praying this is my hormones. I feel soo lost and depressed, I didn't wanna go through having another baby on my own!!! Please someone give me advice :(

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:( Maybe some space is what you need so you can decide what you want to do.Have you told your partner about the pregnancy?
It must be such a shock so of course your all over the place. Have you been to see your GP, you can talk to them, maybe get referred for counselling on this?
3 kids to 3 Dads might not be what you had planned in life, but it certainly isn't unusual and for me doesn't make much difference, I have two sets of half siblings and I love them, my younger sister particularly!

Sorry not much help, but maybe formalising things would help, or perhaps you need to consider all your options, although you sound like your keeping it.

Hey, yes, my partner knows about the baby, I don't know If I'm feeling this way because of hormones....I'm just soo confused we are both over the moon about the baby, but things just reached a point today where I'm thinking ' do I love him? Do I fancy him? ' I feel miserable about it all. N feel awful for him. I've hold him what I've been thinking, he says I'm breaking his heart and that just makes me feel worse I am Defo keeping ths baby, yeh. N Thanku for not being judgemental :) x

I am glad your both happy about the baby. :)
I would just say try and keep your relationship and baby sort of separate, as in just because you are having a baby doesn't mean you need to rush into anything. Keep dating and doing whatever you were doing and let the relationship develop at its own pace. I am sure you can figure this one out. Relationships is a good topic to post in about this I think too :)

Errr, there were quite a few posters waiting with bated breath to hear how your scan went today? As you were so very worried?
Assuming as you have not come back to that thread and now posted this thread, that all went ok, and now you have different problems
Just checking, but glad your scan appears to have gone ok?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1410077-Just-back-from-hospital-got-early-scan-upset
Sorry, caija, I meant this one, as you will see, a few of us have been thinking of you

Awww mince ty I'm sorry, it completely went out of my mind, have updated my thread, everything has just came to a head today. As u can see I'm soo grateful that so many of you care xx

Soooo worried. What if I end up on my own in this pregnancy

Can anyone give me advice please?

Early on in my relationship with DH, I had a wobbly few moments about where we were going etc etc and I didn't know what to do, or where to turn. In the end I decided the best person to talk to about how I was feeling was my best friend, the one person I trusted and who knew me better than anyone. It just happened that one person was him. I had a good sob, told him how I was feeling and he listened, understood, and was patient.

So, that would be my advice really. Be honest with him - even if the honesty is a confused muddle of feelings. Tell him you don't want to break his heart, but you need to understand your feelings, to spill it all out, and to make sure you lay some good foundations to what could be a very promising future for you both.

Aww soozywoozy so you've been through ths too? Think everything with my feelings is exaggerated because I'm pregnant. Aww I liked how u said that you spoke to your best friend n then went on to say that that person was your DH soo lovely. We did get engaged after two months too :) so everything has moved really fast. I was soo sure, and now I'm questioning everything about him he is a wonderful person, treats me like a princess. Never had anyone treat me like he does. I'm scared to see him
Incase I look at him n think I don't fancy him, start doubting everything aww I can't stand this

Yep, and he's still my best friend 15 years later :)

I think it is normal to have wobbles in relationships, but what counts is how you sort it out and move forward.

If it helps, I think it is probably hormones that are playing a big part in how you are feeling. Don't rush into any decisions about your future. I didn't fancy my DH in early pregnancy or mid pregnancy or late pregnancy or for ages after pregnancy but I didn't fancy anyone else either! But I did love him, knew I was in love with him and knew it was worth persevering through the lower points of pregnancy too.

Might be worth talking to your GP or midwife if the low feelings continue, ante-natal depression is more recognised now than ever before.

Soozywoozy I'm hoping it is my hormones this is scaring me I do have a history of both prenatal and postnatal depression.