not feeling excited - a bit long sorry

[HAYLEYMAI]

hi this is my third pregnancy i have two lovely children who are 5 and 7, this pregnancy was planned and i fell very quick. I am 11 weeks pregnant and just dont feel excited at all, my family and friends say how exciting it is and i just dont feel it, im not interest in baby books like i was with the other two, i havent told the children yet as i want to see how the scan goes. I havent told anyone that i feel like this cause i feel guilty i do. I just want to snap out of it and be as happy as i was with the others. I'm hoping i will see the scan and everything will change and then with telling the children it will make me more excited, i dont feel depressed in any sort of way i just dont know what to do please help!!!!!

I honestly think by the time you get to number 3 you are almost too busy to be excited by it. That doesn't make you awful. I have a 7 yo and a 3yo and tbh have been far too busy with them to really wallow in pregnancy like I did first time round. I haven't been ticking off the days, I haven't really been daydreaming about the baby, I've just been getting on with it. Now I'm 37 weeks I've found I'm going into myself more to prepare for the birth and the aftermath, which has made it more real and now I am finally getting excited. Very normal imo, and if anything it'll make the pregnancy fly by if you're not thinking about it every 5 minutes.

Hi Hayley, I can't really offer any advice, but just wanted to say you're not alone as I feel the same way. I'm 22 weeks with DC3 and it seems like everyone else is more excited than me.

By DC3 you've read all the books etc, you know how pregnancy is likely to go and what to look out for. You know how you feel about delivery...in the meantime, I feel like it's just an endurance of pregnancy situation as I HATE being pregnant. It just feels like such a long time!

Anyway, this too shall pass and all that. I'm hoping that, as fuckity says, it'll become more real once it becomes time to make arrangements and prepare the nursery etc.

And maybe it will help you to see the scan - a lovely wriggley baby on the screen!

Hi thanks fuckityfuckfuckfuck and HamblesHandbag yes that must be it i have been busy with the other two and nearer the time it will be the time to get excited thank you again your messages have made me feel alot better
:-)

I've just been to tesco, and I was thinking about this thread, thinking that I need to turn it around in my head IYSWIM. I nearly bought a baby mag, then realised they're all crap , but I might buy a baby blanket or outfit or something, in an effort to kickstart the baby excitement.

Hi HamblesHandbag, I laughed out loud when i read your message, so did you get anything for the baby??? and if you did are you anymore excited???? :-)