Nobody's pleased I'm pregnant!

[BoysBoysBoysAndMe]

And I don't understand why?!?

We have a three bed house which we're putting up for sale in the next few weeks and moving to a nicer area.

My dh and I have been married for over ten years. We have a five year old and a seven month old. We're all healthy and my dh earns a good wage - were not minted but we can afford little luxuries and afford another baby.

We don't drink or smoke, we're not bad people or parents, I don't know what's wrong.

I told my brother, he pulled a face and said, why are you having another one?

My dad just said, don't find out the sex -that was it - conversation over.

And my friend looked concerned and asked if I was pleased.

I'm dreading telling anyone else.

Anyone else had mean reactions?

...I hope you have a safe and happy pregnancy!
3 is a great number!

You want to try being updiffed with number 5 - no nice comments at all. Either that or people suggest we get a dvd/hobby/etc. We are delighted.

Thanks MN's, you always help me to put things in perspective!!

I just assumed everyone would be happy for us.

But at the end of the day, it doesn't ,matter if they're not does it? Some lovely advice on here, thanks ladies!

I feel so much better reading these! (in the nicest way possible) I am pregnant with my first child and early days so only told very close family and my best friend. All were absolutely thrilled... Except my dad. Here's the conversation: you're going to be a grandad! (for the 1st time) long pause... Well you've done that the wrong way round... You should have moved house first, we're you just being careless? I would like to add that I am NOT a knocked up schoolgirl, but am 31, blissfully married for 18 months, and a homeowner.. Not quite sure what more he wants!! Burst into tears when I put the phone down and spent the entire evening sobbing (hormones, eh gotta love em)!

Must say am flabbergasted by some of the comments... The acquaintance at the school gates enquiring about financial situations and the poor lady who got a fat face by the time she took the test....! :-)

I think it's the third child and small gap thing. We had a little of this when we told folk we were expecting again when our 2nd was just over a year.

Have to say, we've not regretted it for a second. She is utterly adored by us all!

Try to ignore them (FWIW we still have a 3 bedroom house, kids can share!)

Well I'll add my congratulations! Lovely news!

It's no excuse, but I'm sure it's the small age gap thing and nothing 'personal'.

*fell on DH's penis" - that's brilliant. I think i will use that somehow (although i've been falling on my DH's penis every other day for the last 6 months in a bid to get knocked up!)

CONGRATS to you boys - perhaps it is the small age gap thing that people are unsure of and as others say guaging your response.

pisses me off though - it's no-one's business but yours.

i'm happy for you :)

I'm also stealing 'I fell on DH's penis' - brilliant, but does remind me of the chap in A&E who had 'fallen' onto a ketchup bottle...

And lots of congratulations all round to everyone who has a new life growing inside them :)

Congrats!

I would just ask: were you a bit hesitant in the way you delivered the news? If so, make sure you have a big grin on your face the next time you make the announcement.

My chosen responses to any further disappointing reactions would be one of:

• I think the word you were looking for is 'Congratulations'

• What? That's really rude!

• That's my concern, thank you [with 'how will you manage? etc] I wasn't asking for your permission, I just thought you'd be pleased to hear my happy news.

Vcarroll at your dad's response to first grandchild. I hope you're going to take every possible opportunity to work 'Well, you've done that the wrong way round' into every conversation you have with him for the next couple of years.