how to cope when you feel you cant cope anymore...

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Ok so basically, I'm 31+5. And seriously fed up. I actually feel as though I can't cope being pregnant anymore. I'm having extreme nausea, serious pelvic pain and lowe back pains. I feel so down and don't see how I'm going to be able to cope any longer. This is my second and his pregnancy was so easy, no pains or nothing. I've had bleeding and what not in this one. I keep getting really sharp atabbing pains. I really need a good moan...how on earth do I cope till about 40 weeks if not longer! ? I haven't even slept for about 4 nights. Running around my toddler is proving to be the hardest task. I just feel as though I can't take anymore :( and the worst thing is when people say 'not got long left now' well to be honest every bloody day feels like a year!!

You need to not assumepeople know what you ned help with and actually ask outright. I hate doing this, it isn't in my nature at all having been on my own for so long and developed somehting of a stubbornly independent nature, but people aren;t mind readers. If at the end of the day you feel it would be great if someone noticed how knackered you were and would give you a break, then you have to ask. I'm about to relent and take dp up on his offer to take dd to school for me for the next couple of weeks, as I've admitted to myself that the walk up the hill is getting too much now I'm 37 weeks. I was struggling on, and tbh I realised today it is ridiculous to turn it down when he's offered. I've got nothing to prove.
Fwiw, my 3 yo ds has been incredibly poorly this weekend and I've not slept a wink as he's been in bed next to me so I can keep an eye on his soaring temperature and make sure he keeps drinkign his water. It is exhaustign when you have other dc to look after, when you can't just go to bed when you want to. It's come as a big shock to me as up until this week really I've escaped the tiredness aspect of pregnancy but now it's hit me like a brick. I tend to go very overue and the thought of another 5 weeks of feeling that my body is just not doing what it should is depressing. I am used to feeling fit and strong. I feel feeble atm. Bottom line is, if you need help then you need to ask for it, from anyone who will listen. I am even going to ask one of dd's friends mums to collect her from school at the end of the day, as she lives in my road and has done it before when I've been ill. I feel massively awkward doing it, but I know if someone asked me to do that, I'd be more than happy to help. People generally are, you just have to ask.

I second that, sometimes I think the more we struggle the more we try to make up for it, ask for some help and talk to your OH and your family, its ok to feel lousy when your having a rough time let some one else share the burden with you

Hi Hotpotpie I am 31 weeks and 2 days and when I feel like that I remind myself that in a matte of weeks I will be holding my DS1. Also as the other wise MN have said ask for help as people won't know if you don't say.

xx