How early do you announce your pregnancy in rl?

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I am 8 weeks and so far have told:
2 best friends
parents
brother + sister
pil
dh's work coleague (a female friend of both of us)

Have not told our children yet and so do not want to tell any of the other parents at school as I think people are quite happy to gossip about other people's secrets (myself included ) and don't want it getting back to ds via his friends. Nor do I feel like discussing it yet with everyone I see first thing in the morning.
However, this has meant not telling a few who I do consider friends and I feel really bad and deceitful about this. For example, I've had to fib about why I'm not going to yoga (at my class you're not allowed to go till 14 weeks) and why I look so peaky! I'm sure in the long run they will totally understand me not telling yet (I'm trying to wait till I've at least had my dating scan) but wonder if they will understand why I chose to tell a few and yet not them. In my last pregnancies I announced it practically straight away but because this is my third and probably (definitely, says dh) my last I am quite liking keeping it quiet.
What do you do?

I didnt tell anyone this time round (except dh) until I had had the first scan at 12 weeks.

Had miscarried prior and found telling everyone really traumatic.

A friend of mine guessed when I was about 6 weeks and I think we told my PILs a bit earlier, about 10 weeks.

I just lied.

Sod everyone else, think about you. I took the attitude that if they guess, fine, otherwise it was none of their business!

congratulations btw!

I did pretty much the same as you, mostly because I didn't want to tell the kids too early. I had to let a few people in on it as I had problems early on and had to go to hosp/arrange childcare etc. I waited 'til 20 weeks, bit I didn't get big too quickly, and that included the summer holidays, so I didn't see alot of people i would have had to lie to IYKWIM.

Everyone totally understood why I hadn't announced early. It's definitely different when you have lder kids to think about - I told the whole world instantly the first two times!

i told a few people but waited till i was 3 months to tell grandparents and other family. my mum was the first person to know. fwiw i think ur doin the right thing. just tell them when u feel ready and yeah im sure they will understand

Totally agree with Enid, I told the ones I had to tell (I was sick morning, noon and night so it was hard to hide!) But didn't tell majority of friends and family till 12 wks, they were all so happy for me they didn't even question why I hadn't told them sooner. There were just a few "oh that explains it" comments!

Congratulations and enjoy your secret {grin}

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thank you. I told the 2 friends because they both knew I was late and trying. And dh couldn't resist telling his colleague (I shouldn't have phoned to tell him whilst at work!). I wouldn't have told my siblings though - that was my mum's fault. And then felt it was only fair to tell dh's parents too. Now it already feels out of control and I wish it was only dh and I who knew.

oh gosh, there's no way I could wait till 21 weeks!! (besides which judging by previous times I'll be so big there'll be no surprise there).

And it's not that I like having a secret they don't know it's just it still feels too personal. And I don't want ds knowing yet.

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that's ok, pruni - I didn't mean to imply that that's what I thought you had implied!
I usually want to shout it from the rooftops - I am being unusually reticent.

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