Ok, I need help. I have been on a diet of no penetration and no orgasm since a bleed at eighteen weeks. I am twenty five weeks now. One midwife said to me that the reason I had a bleed following orgasm is that my womb contracted and since then - and the fact that dh and I had a mc last year with a bless after penetration - has put us into total anxiety mode. Saw the obs and mw yesterday. They emphatically denied that orgasm or even penetration could cause a bleed and said go ahead. My dh has rfused point blank to put anything up there and said its up to me if I want to have an orgasm without penetration. I am desperate, I have not gone this long without one since my nearly three year old was born when I waited six weeks due to tear. But I could not livewithmyself ifanything happened. Wondering if I gave it up forwent would that put me in the clear zone as baby would be thirty wks then. Just need to know if anyone else has had this problem or a strong opinion on what's best.