finally a BFP! SO why can't i just enjoy it??

[iloveberries]

TTC #2 for 6 months, got my BFP on monday! DH and I are over the moon. We haven't told anyone yet and don't want to till I am 8 weeks. Apart from all you lot of course!!

5 weeks today and no symptoms apart from heavy boobs!

With DS I was unable to stay awake past 6pm by this point.

I am worrying already. If I don't have symptoms yet is everything ok?? I know in all probability everything will be fine and even if it won't i can't do anything.

I am so happy to be PG but don't feel i can 'enjoy' it yet. How did others feel? As only DH knows i can't really talk to anyone else.(please tell me happy stories.....)

Berries xxx

I had no symptoms apart from swollen boobs and tiredness and the rest of pg was symptom free. Worked full time till 38+ and ds born at 42. Don't worry just enjoy xx

I was wracked with anxiety leading up to my BFP but although I was happy, you do realise that what's happened marks a turning point in your emotional state. Your hopes and dreams surrounding the news are so fragile and precious that you start to become anxious about anything that could tear them apart. I think it's actually very sensible to be realistic and accept that you may well lose it, just like loads of women do all the time...but on the other hand why not be excited? It's an enormously significant thing that is happening to you! I ruined my first few weeks with worry and avoiding being excited and had some brown spotting. This led to an early scan in which I saw the heartbeat and the reality of it all really hit me. A baby - MY baby - is growing inside me!! And I'm damn well going to be excited about it!!! If something goes wrong - which it still could I know - I'm 11 weeks tomorrow - I will cross that bridge but until then I am !!! Don't worry just focus on looking after yourself and take NO risks. Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!! xxxxxx

I can sympathise- we were TTC for 16 months and I am 6+6 today with NO SYMPTOMS which is driving me mad. I know I should be grateful I'm not being sick but its so hard to believe I'm pregnant when I feel right as rain.

However all the books say that around 25% of women don't experience many symptoms at all, and of those who do, it is common not to feel any different until 7/8 weeks.

We have a scan booked in for Wednesday when I will be 7 and a half weeks, so we are just really hoping that will put our mind at rest. Is there any chance you could get an early scan? The wait til 12 weeks is soooo long!

Congratulations on your BFP and take care of yourself.

i had no symptoms whatsoever when pg with ds and this time I only had tiredness in the beginning but that was well after 5 weeks, probably 7 or 8 weeks. But in the beginning it is difficult to enjoy as it makes it all a little difficult to believe! Good luck, enjoy as much as you can and try to relax. Oh and congratulations!

Congratulations - welcome to a lifetime of worry over everything - from symptoms, poo, birth, feeding, weaning, sleeping, school, unsuitable partners...

Congratulations OP! Glad to see this post as I feel the same. Second time round for me but very early days (3 weeks) but I have no symptoms whatsover and it is freaking me out - with DD I felt sick and had sore boobs from day 1! With this one nothing apart from some cramping, bloating and constipation!!!

Thanks for all the replies everyone. And thanks for making me feel better. I feel a bit more confident today - POAS (again!) and got a really strong line (in comparison to the rather faint one on monday) so feeling reassured that things must be progressing.

It's weird not telling anyone too isn't it as you can't really 'celebrate'. Although there are a few people who know, my GP, my reflexologist and my lawyer (currently at risk of redundancy). I'd like to tell some family but have none nearby and don't want to do it over the phone.

Thanks for the congratulations too - makes it seem more real
I just keep looking at DS and feeling so happy i will be giving him a playmate!

I think i will just be grateful for the fact I have no symptoms instead of worrying about it.

aworrying - congrats to you after 16 months. Must be even more special :)
I could get an early scan yes, I think they are about £100 aren't they? Hoping it all goes well for you.

steben - 3 weeks! wow! you must have some awesome HPTs!! Congrats to you too!

Thanks everyone. I think I will just enjoy the little secret DH and I have!x

Congratulations! My symptoms didn't kick in until 7 weeks with ds2 - I didn't even test until then.

Congratulations to all you mummies-to-be! I found out yesterday I am pregnant with %232. We have told our mum's & siblings but thats it - oo except for my work. I am anxious & feeling fragile but my only symptoms are being achy & lack of appetite. I can't wait for my bump & being able to share this news!! But I do love MN as I can share in all your happy news as well as my own!

I found myself extremely anxious with both of my BFPs. As others have said, it's merely the start of many, many years of maternal worry. But I think that, when others cannot even see a bump, it can be hard for friends and family to realise that, even if they've got their own DCs.

Thats great you got a stronger line today berries. Yes privately scans are approx £100 I think, we are lucky in that because I was taking a high dose of Clomid to conceive, the hospital where I was having the fertility treatment want to scan me early. I'm not complaining, it feels like an age til Wednesday as it is!

Hope all goes well on wednesday aworrying - I'm sure it will :)