31 weeks and feel like utter CRAP!!just a whinge

[confuzed90]

Basically as the days go..I'm feeling worse and worse..feel fat and huge, down in the dumps, simply fed up. I go to college, only 21 and studying to be a paramedic. I have so much work to do its unreal. Want to get it all out way before baby comes but I have no motivation due to my toddler being so demanding and my partner not helping much. I feel so unhappy I could just cry forever.everyday is the same. I just want baby to come so I can start feeling normal again. Stop feeling sick and ill all the time. I have SPD but only take paracetamol for it..but its been one thing after another. Bleeding and pains to sore throat and exhaustion. Never felt so worn out. Sorry for the moan needed to say it somewhere..need a shoulder.

I'm feeling very much like this today and I'm not yet 24 weeks, just wish it was over. My toddler is ill and I just can't do anything to help her (can't bend down/walk with her due to PGP, got a serious waddle and can't really get off the sofa without pain). Then she can't cuddle into me cos I have this painful hump where my stomach used to be.

Also had most of the other things you mention. Don't know how to help but carry on moaning if you need to, you're certainly not alone. Can you offload any work or get someone to look after your little one for a few hours so you can just get your head down and study/sleep?

Feel totally overwhelmed too, and being tired just makes it worse and worse. Try to get an hours sleep in somewhere and don't beat yourself up about it :)

Yes. This. I'm only 30 weeks but booking c/s for 38. 2 months left?? I can't face it . SPD, knackered, heartburn. I have stopped puking though, so that's good...

confuzed - why isn't your DP helping out? Does he know what you need?

I am 32 weeks and utterly fed up. And I love being pregnant but honestly, this time I can't wait for it to be over and just be able to move normally again. In fact I just had to pause in my reply to painfully shift my whale like figure from one side to the other. Lying in bed to alleviate the horrendous swelling in my feet.

Can't wait to start my mat leave next week.

Keep moaning confuzed - I hear you!

toddlerama would it be so bad of me to say I'm envious that you have 8 weeks left even if it is until a c/s. Pretty sure ill get slated for that. lostlenore glad I'm allowed to complain :) I really have never felt so down. I can't cope another 9 weeks if not more. My DS doesn't have naps..sleeps from about 9pm and wakes about 7. This is recently, used to sleep for 12 hours a night! Heaven. Not anymore. He's very demanding, very needy. He acts like a 1 year old and does very little for himself. Busy potty training at the moment, been a week and god is it hard. No one to have him, my Partner says to do my work when he's in bed but I have no energy. Currently sat waiting to find the energy to get off sofa and have a bath. But I know when I get up I have to tidy up first :( I give up.

sod tidying. Just shove it all to the corners of the room. I am whacked out by the time my dd goes to bed, so with good intentions to do things in the morning or when she sleeps I put stuff off, only to find I'm also knackered in the morning. Hence I am now happy with a clear centre of the carpet and space to sit on the sofa. We have clean clothes and I put the dishwasher through but not much else - I don't iron or dust if I can help it, and dinner is of the shove it in the oven and forget it kind (emphasis on the forget, total baby brain). This will pass, and you won't be a slattern for ever if i keep saying it it will be true

Just got ur message bushymcbush. My partner, well I'm not sure he thinks I can carry on as normal and I can't. Now he's wondering why I don't want to cuddle n kiss him n have sex. Maybe because I'm in so much pain and exhausted. And as for the tidying lostlenore I can't leave a mess...I hate it. I am up at 6 and won't get back till 6 in evening tomorrow as I'm at college so I couldn't possibly leave it. Even worse coming back after a day being busy to a mess..I really hate mess and I think that's why I'm so worn out. Put myself in hospital for a few days last week...well my partner said I'm to blame..cleaned all windows and curtains and carpets monday (last week) was in hospital tuesday till thursday. when I cam home...washing pile was like mount vesuvious!

Give me what you have got! I'm in awe of your sparkling shinyness!

Seriously though, you put yourself in hospital? Is home perfection worth your health?
Try to take things easier, just for a while. I wish I had your homepride genes, but I am pretty much crippled by working four days straight (and to prove it, two months ago after a weekend on I bled).

12 hour days at 31 weeks sounds like an awful lot. Can you go on maternity leave before bubs arrives? How does it work with college?

I'm only at college thursdays and fridays..I have definatly calmed down since last week when I bled. That's why I was kept in. I'm just so worn out. Ok...I'm gonna tidy up DS toys and leave the rest. Doesn't help he can open his door and keeps coming out his bedroom..so I'm up and downstairs like a yoyo. Urgh :(

Isn't it even more fun when people tell you they loved being pregnant ? I look at them blank..... and wonder didn't you have constant sickness/indigestion/piles/constipation and all night hip pain .... oh that must just be me.... twice ! Then they ask if you are going to breast feed, not bl**dy likely... after 3 months of eating only Readybrek due to indigestion the last thing I want is to have to stick to no curries/chillies/spice/etc for another 6 months. And I might actually want to drink the odd rum and coke or a Pimms. And I'd like not to have sore boobs. I want my body back !! Sorry.. rant over...

Omg you said it all for me! There was one particular person I was thinking of when reading that.. My sister. She's 16 weeks pregnant with her first. And snaps at me saying hoe amazing being pregnant is and how she can't wait to be huge with a bump and want to be pregnant for as long as possible and how she wants to breastfeed because she wants to be a good mum!! Like seriously, I had to stop bf my son at 6 weeks because I wasn't producing enough which broke my heart and I've chosen to bf for 2 weeks and then stop. But nope she's called me a bad mum for that, and also a bad mum as she thinks mums should stay at home with their children instead of working, I felt quite proud that I'm getting a career. She makes me feel so horrible for hating being pregnant.

SO glad to read this, have been feeling madly jealous of those counting down to mat leave as my 3 (5, 3, 20mo) won't let me take leave from mumming, even though I'm no fun with SPD, broken nights (me, can't even blame them) and heartburn. Feel extra guilty because this will be my last pg and I want to enjoy it - I've never been to fed up of being pg so early before :(

How long gone are you? Bless you doesn't sound to good for any of us!anyones welcome to have a good moan. I haven't been diagnosed with SPD that's the thing, they've told me to try accupuncture is it? And told me that my pelvis has been made very weak due to my first pregnancy.

Hang in there you 3/4 through. Felt rancid throughout my pregnancies, so much so I feel great post birth, sleepiness nights and all, no jokes. Be kind to yourself, rest as much as poss it does make a massive difference. If no child care is available for toddler, try to,nap when he does, failing that early nights. Take one day at a time, do only what is essential and what you enjoy. HTH

Being pregnant is rubbish! I'm 30 weeks and am managing SPD really well. I've been seeing a chiropractor since 5 weeks which I think has helped as it didn't kick in 'til about 26 weeks. It means I can sit comfortably and sleep OK whereas in past pregnancies (this will be DD3) sleeping has been hard.
Do as little housework as you can get away with - do not hoover, it hurts. Get your DP to help - be specific about what you need him to do.
I'm not enjoying being pregnant, but I'm also not looking forward to having a new born baby again. Aaaargh!

So haoy to read this!
I have 6 weeks to go on saturday it seems a life time away!!
I thought the world was just full of pregnant women looking at me in disgust as I hate every second of this pregnancy and they love it reminding me how precious it is and how lucky iam!
Lots of my friends are popping out there babies left right and centre all having the opposite sex to what they have got already and having super fast 2 hour labours my last labour was 24 hours ending in forceps!!
I have had 2 bleeds 5 uti's the baby is being closley monitored due to being small and issues with my placenta I have spd and sciatica! Along with a very willfull dd who is 2 on monday the omnly good thing is she is very indipendant and does sleep during the day still for around 2 hours. Im wishing for a boy so I dont have to do this again I just cant face it im absloutly misserable my poor dh must think he lives with jackle and hyde! But I must say hes fantastic and helps ALOT!
And breath!!!!!!
Thanks ladies!!!!!x

Aww not good there's so many of us whose had enough! My partner gets it in the neck to bless him, although he doesn't help out as much as you'd expect x

I'm 30weeks and definitely looking forward to having a baby instead of a bump! Nice to see you again harecare, chiropractor is doing great things to keep me mobile (can't get out of school run) but walking so slowly and it hurts to turn over in bed :( house looks like a bus load of toddlers has hit it so no change there! Must stop hoping for an Easter baby as its going to seem like a painfully LONG time if it doesn't arrive at 37wks exactly!

Oooo I like the sound of easter baby...I didn't actually think about that..so I'm due 25 th what dates easter??

Can't remember the date but I'm due 30th and Easter Monday is 37wks exactly!

I'm planning on spending 2 hours a night bouncing on an exercise ball from 36 weeks. DD1 and 2 both went over, but with their aunty's wedding on May 5th I could do with this one coming early.

Easter Sunday is 8 April: my due date!! I'm 33+4 and even though I've not got SPD/Piles etc (yet) I'm so fed up with pregnancy too! My bump is big and heavy and sore, my maternity trousers barely fit...with over 6 weeks to go!

And I'm so achy and tired...

Plus I'm just generally impatient and want to meet the little one - even though we are NOT ready!