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Worried about miscarriage

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:04

I'm a first time mum, and found out that I'm pregnant on Friday.
It's a miracle, and now I'm worried about miscarriage.

I've got no symptoms, I wish I could just feel baby, or know that everything is ok.

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purpleroses · 20/02/2012 20:09

You won't feel the baby for about 4 months. But your emotions are probably all over the place right now. Just remind yourself that every day that you go though without sypmptoms of miscarriage is one day closer to the time when it's no longer a risk. And go easy on yourself if you're feeling wobbly - is entirely normal :)

purpleroses · 20/02/2012 20:09

Oh, and congratulations!

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:12

Ok, I red on mumsnet that the first three months are when miscarages happen.
I'd like to have a symptom of pregnancy, just so I know everything is ok.
Also why do I have to wait to march to see a midwife??

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justlemonade · 20/02/2012 20:27

Congratulations evilwater It's hard not to be paranoid at the start of your pregnancy. I have had very few symptoms in this pregnancy but with my first DC was sick all the time. It just depends how the cookie crumbles. Try to enjoy being pregnant and get lots of rest instead of stressing. If you're really worried, you could go for an early private scan - they cost around £80. However, I wouldn't go too early as there will be nothing to see (quite normal) which will make you even more worried. I went at 8 and a half weeks and saw the baby and heartbeat which made me feel much better.

purpleroses · 20/02/2012 20:29

You're right that the first 3 months are when they happen. But most people don't miscarry. And having no symptoms early on I had no symptoms at all til about 7 weeks and then it was just that I went off tea.

Start of March isn't long - but wouldn't expect to wait more than a week or two to see the midwife. In the meantime you should be taking folic acid if you're not already. That's about the only thing you actually need to do early on, otherwise just carry on as normal, avoid alcohol and try and enjoy it!

purpleroses · 20/02/2012 20:30

meant to say "having no symptoms early on is absolutely normal." my computer is playing up and deleting things

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:32

Just, thanks for the adivce. It's just so werid I thought I'd be sick as a dog.
I've gone from shock, to OMG what happens if I miscarriage!

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:35

Purple, thanks for the info. The websites I've been on say I should be sick, and be very emotional.

It's wonderful to hear from other women that everything is ok.

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georgethecat · 20/02/2012 20:40

Hello, everyone is an individual - some might be really sick, some might cry all the time and some get nothing at all! It also changes from day to day/week to week. I had one m/c and am now pg so remember the 8 week freak out from positive test to scan well. Very hard to do but try to relax, a lot of people feel the same way that you are feeling - you will get loads of support here :)

oikopolis · 20/02/2012 20:42

I'm 9 weeks and had two early scans (6wk and 8wk), baby is perfectly fine, lovely strong heartbeat etc.

I had absolutely no symptoms (besides increased thirst, but I wouldn't have noticed it unless i'd done a pg test iyswim) until 6weeks. And all I got then was some bloating.

Now at 9 weeks I'm a touch nauseous, and very hungry and thirsty, and I'm waking up for a wee every night. That's it. Again, if I hadn't had a test already, I could easily not notice the symptoms at all.

You will be fine. 25% of ladies who go on to have a healthy baby have no nausea at all during pg, for example.

oikopolis · 20/02/2012 20:43

and not everyone is emotional! I started to get a little more weepy about a week ago, but nothing dramatic at all.

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:45

George, thanks for that wonderful statement. I need to try and relax. Six tests cannot be wrong.

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:49

Oiko, it's nice to know another person is in the same boat as me.
I'd love to have early scans, but I'm pretty broke.

I'm starting to get exited, I still can't really believe this.

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MissCoffeeNWine · 20/02/2012 20:51

Congratulations evilwater! Try to be reassured that a lot of people don't get symptoms at all, and lots don't get them until weeks 6-7 when the hormones kick in. It's not all instantaneous, it's a strange time though when you know you're pregnant but can't feel a baby, I don't think we were ever supposed to know this early! Miscarriage is a risk, yes, happens to lost of women most of them happen in the first 3 months but you can miscarry any time up to 24 weeks - but there's often nothing that you can do about it. And then you get to worry about premature labour and then birth and then check the baby's still breathing when it's asleep and then worry it's going to pull the shelves over or fall down the stairs and then worry it might run off in the supermarket or out in the road and then you get to worry about it at school all by itself without you and then going out to play with friends and to sleepovers and then worry about it drinking or clubbing or learning to drive.....I actually don't think it ever stops. Welcome to motherhood

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 20:56

Miss, I think I might owe a apologie to my mum.

Yeah didn't think like that, 24 weeks. That must be crazy.
OMG I'm going to be a mum.

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funchum8am · 20/02/2012 21:27

I am 9+4 today having had two miscarriages at 6 weeks in the past. I had a reassurance scan today because of the previous problems and all was well. It is torture waiting for a scan and I don't know how I haven't climbed the wall so far!

However like a few others I have had almost no symptoms at all, yet I know that all is well from the scan. I think it's scary because so many other people are so ill but I guess you have to look on the bright side and think that if all is well, the lack of symptoms is actually a big bonus in many ways (e.g. keeping the pregnancy secret at work until you really need to tell people - I would never be able to keep it quiet if I was being sick!) Just try and distract yourself, have early nights (can't stress if you're asleep!) and eat healthily until your scan FINALLY comes around. GOOD LUCK!

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Evilwater · 20/02/2012 21:31

Funchum,
I'd love my pregnancy to be a secret. However I work on a ward where chemo is given alot.

Thanks for the luck I need it in truck fulls

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funchum8am · 21/02/2012 21:11

Ah that doesn't actually count as a positive about no symptoms then. Erm, just the lack of suffering then??? I used to get morning sickness envy when I was first pregnant (all three times) because it obviously shows you that you're definitely pg, but I have to say that if I did have it badly I would find life extremely difficult. The grass is always greener, eh. Sending more luck your way :)

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Evilwater · 21/02/2012 21:16

Thanks fumchum for the luck.

I'm getting less worried, and starting to accept I'm acutly pregnant. I hope everything is going well with you.

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Evilwater · 21/02/2012 21:17

That should be actually!

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WeeLors · 22/02/2012 11:00

Hey Evil (waves from other thread),

Just to reassure cos we're only a couple of days apart in our pregnancies, I don't really have any major symptoms at the mo either (was totally symptom spotting last week but had nothing I might not dismiss as PMS if I wasn't ttc). Got some very very mild cramping only occasionally (which I always hate because it feels like AF is on the way) and occasional weird sensations in bbs but other than that nothing. Its still such early days though, I'm not expecting it to really hit for another couple of weeks, if at all.

With my first pregnancy, sickness and tiredness etc didn't hit until I was 6 weeks, before that I think I just felt like I was going to start my period, which for me is quite a mild feeling anyway. Anyway, I had lack of major symptoms at this stage last time and had a very healthy pregnancy so don't worry. The first 3mths are always a time where a lot of women worry a wee bit but try not to think about it too much, just enjoy every day of being pregnant and having that wee secret that the world at large doesn't know about yet

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Evilwater · 22/02/2012 20:04

Yeah, it's pretty cool to have a huge secret.

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ElBelle · 22/02/2012 20:27

Hey EW

I'm in the same boat. 1st pregnancy and was 7weeks on sat yet not a single symptom.

I had an early scan Friday which showed a heartbeat which was very exciting (and emotional) but now just so paranoid it is all going to go wrong. Especially as every pregnant person I know spends a lot of time puking!!!

Iv been told by lots of people that no symptoms is ok and that everyone is just different..... Fingers crossed we are just getting an easy ride so far and everything is growing nicely inside

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Evilwater · 22/02/2012 20:32

Elbelle,
I'm glad we're in the same boat. I'm still waiting for my scan, but can't wait to get one. Just to hear the heart beat, to really know its there.

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