guilt, guilt guilt .... such a bad mother!

[rosebery]

So I'm 38 weeks pregnant and due an elcs a week tomorrow. I feel huge, slow, have pain from spd and haven't slept through the night for weeks. Regular side effects of pregnancy, I guess!

I have a gorgeous ds who is only 2.5 and I feel like I've treated him horribly today - I've been so very tired and snappy, and he's really borne the brunt of it. I feel so bad. Also, my dh works long hours with a hefty commute, and it's rare he's home before ds goes to bed ... By which time I'm practically asleep on my feet.

I'm not really sure what my point is . As a starting point, please tell me how to keep my cool, my patience and a sense of humour! :)

first of all good luck for tomorrow, you poor thing you sound like its been A rough ride, ds will.not remember and tomorrow is a new day, make sure you give him a big cuddle before bed just to re-enforce your love for him. tomorrow you will have a beautiful bouncing baby x

Maybe u would feel a little better if u apologized to ur ds and gave him a huge big hig and kiss just tell him mummy is very tired and even mummies make mistakes sometimes ) I've done this before and a cuddle feels so lovely when ur feeling a bit down. And then just give Urself a break! Your tired your pregnant and it is hard many if us have been there. Just sit down have a snuggle watch a silly cartoon with your son and treat yourself and your dh if he's home in time to a take away or something . Just please don't beat Urself up over something that every now and then can't be helped. :)

Thank you both for your kind words!

Had bath, milk and stories with lots of cuddles. I said sorry for shouting and that I loved him. He asked me if I was hurting and did I want medicine? Bless.

As you say, tomorrow is another day. (and breathe ...... ). :)

Bless him . Hope all goes well tomorrow!!!!! :)

I'm a vile mother... 40+8 with my 3rd, and I'm so moody. I feel very guilty about how my children have to cope with my grumpiness - especially when I snap at them when they try and cuddle me because they accidentally dig their elbows into my boobs/bump. I also feel guilty about them being shipped from pillar to post while I have appointments and when I do finally give birth - I don't want them to associate the new baby with their mummy becoming vile, moody and unavailable...

Ooops, that's about me! I suppose I'm just trying to say that you're not alone! Good luck.

phlossie - looks like I'm not alone :)

Here's to buckets of patience and an unswerving sense of humour (except I think I've lost mine down the back of the sofa).

Elcs is next tues, but thanks all for good wishes!

I had my baby on Tuesday! A lovely home birth while ds and dd were asleep in their beds. We're all really loved up, and my dcs - esp ds (who is now ds1) - adore their baby brother. And I feel relaxed and happy too.

I hope you elcs goes well next Tuesday, and you feel much more relaxed and happy once baby's here. It's amazing how well a new baby 'fits' into your family! x

Wow. I was just about to start a thread about what a vile, humourless tyrant I have become (38 wks with 2.9 yo) and someone has done it for me.

phlossie - huge congrats and thank you for the positive feedback. It's nice to think that in a matter of days (I hope) I may go from being velociraptor to sane human being.

Congrats, phlossie! So pleased to read a positive story. :-)

project, nearly spat my tea out at 'velociraptor' - a fitting term indeed! All the next with your new arrival too.

Best, not next. Grr to predictive text.

Thanks rosebery, you too. How are you getting on?

Determined to get through today with no velociraptor-like outbursts. It's not that DS doesn't require firmness sometimes (yesterday it was dashing off into other peoples' gardens while mummy struggled home with bump, shopping and his sodding bike, which he'd abandoned). It's just that everything is so much easier if I can retain some kind of sense of humour instead of morphing into catsbumfaced, arm-waving harpy.

know how you feel! I'm only 16 weeks and feel like I sway back and forth between snappy and impatient with DD aged 3, and feeling guilty and showering her with affection. Poor thing must be wondering what happened to her sane, reasonable mother! Although, on my sickiest days, I have managed to convince her that because she's been such a good girl, we're having a special cinema day where we close the curtains, turn the lights off, cuddle in a blanket and watch all of her favourite DVDs back to back. She thinks its a mega treat while I snore behind her. Bless her heart.

Oh, poor you. I am so grateful the sickness is behind me. We watched a lot of Pixar for a few months, too. Got to the point where the tv was known in our house as the Third Parent.

I managed to stay pretty serene yesterday. Today, however, my husband jovially hip-bumped into me as was bending to pick up washing. I burst into tears.

If only I could spend the last few weeks in a darkened room with a cold flannel over my face. Why, why did I not spend all of my last maternity leave doing that while I still could?

Bit of an update for you. Looks like I had a good reason for turning into a bad tempered old bint ... I was probably in early labour!

Our beautiful daughter was born on Fri evening an hour and a half after waters broke. Managed to get to hospital with 25 mins to spare! No time for cs, so Tuesday's date is cancelled. Note to self: you know you had all those braxton hicks?? Well, they were the real thing.

Bit stunned, bit surprised, but very happy. And can't wait to give ds a very big cuddle. :)

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!! :o that's fantastic news !

Oh, congratulations! And that's two lovely birth stories on one thread. See - all you (formerly) grumpy ladies are atually spreading joy to those of us who are still waiting...