Looking for reassurance - sensitive subject

[8abyDust]

Hi,

I am looking for some reassurance and quiet embarrassed about asking. I am 7+1 with first child. I had a chemical pregnancy earlier in the year. Me and DH have been trying for a baby for 2 years so this one is very precious to us. I am very fearful of miscarriage, my symptoms stopped very suddenly so went for an early viability scan yesterday which was fab, baby was fine, strong heartbeat and the right measurements for how many weeks I am. Despite this I still can't shake this fear of miscarriage. I read somewhere that the majority of miscarriages come from pregnancies that were not viable in the first place and mine has 'officially' been classed as viable. I suppose what I am looking for is people that have had early scans and everything has been ok or the opposite if that is the case. My DH seems to have completely got his hopes now we have seen baby but I am very much under the view of we are still not out of the woods.

Hope I have written this sensitively. Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you

sorry I meant quite, not quiet

I think after any kind of loss it's natural to be anxious but do take some reassurance from seeing the heartbeat so early. The stats say that after seeing a heartbeat by 8 weeks your risk of mc drops to just 2%.

I've been where you are and know how stressful early pregnancy can be. However, after 2 losses I'm now 24 weeks pg (and have had a million scans!) and am starting to believe there might actually be a baby at the end of this! I still have the occasional wobble but MN is a godsend!

If you'd like some support the ladies in the Freakout room on the conception boards are a mighty fine bunch and are always happy to welcome new members (so to speak). Best of luck with your pregnancy.

Mouse x

I hope my pregnancy history is reassuring...

I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy resulting in one working fallopian tube and one working ovary which was on the opposite side. DH and I had an 'accidental' pregnancy which resulted in a MC. I couldn't find reassurance in conceiving - just the pain of another loss.

We tried for almost 3 years before I fell pregnant again - we had early scans and although I was reassured I was still absolutely terrified, so I know where you're coming from. The baby I was terrified of losing is now 8 years old and currently moaning at me that she doesn't want to go to bed / school etc etc :o I am now pregnant with DC4 :) In total I have had 3 losses (one was a chemical pregnancy about 5 years ago) and with all of the lovely ladies I have met through the journey of pregnancy / pregnancy loss they all feel like you and I.

Good luck and lots of sticky baby dust for you.

I had 2 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy and am now 32 weeks. I had a scan at 6 weeks prior to starting some medication, but I didn't find it all that reassuring at that stage. What really made a difference to me was a scan at 9 weeks. By that point, if all is well and the growth between 6 and 9 weeks is correct, you are highly highly unlikely to miscarry.

However, a good scan at 7 weeks is still very reassuring even though things can go wrong at that stage. Usually, if things are not looking good, there might be some early signs (slow heartbeat, smaller than expected measurements) and since you have had a good scan, try to tell yourself you have at least a 90% chance of this pregnancy progressing well.

I didn't get to the "we're out of the woods" stage until the 20 week scan. But don't let the worrying get out of hand if you have no symptoms of miscarriage and no particular reason to panic. Easier said than done I know.

Thanks ladies, all very reassuring!! Nice to know I'm not alone in my feelings.