can I ask for some positive stories of successful pregnancy after early losses?

[kalidasa]

I am just experiencing my second 'chemical' pregnancy in the space of four weeks (faint positive test, followed by bleeding a few days later). This month at day 32, last month day 37. I know that such early losses are v. common, and probably much more common than most people realise (one thing I read said maybe 50% of all conceptions end this way). But I feel so worried that it will keep happening! I felt unwell both times from just a few days after conception so I have spent four weeks already this year feeling rough to no effect. I was so excited about ttc and now I feel daunted and anxious.

Any positive stories of a similar experience with a happy ending would be v. welcome! Also tips on how to relax about it all. Should we stop trying for a month or two? I'm not sure what's best.

I'm so sorry, i had 2 chemicals in 3 months before this baby, i had actually decided to quit for a bit when i fell pregnant, sods law, the only advise really is to try not to test to early, but from my experience thats next to impossible when you want that line so much, chemicals are very common unfortunately, my mum advicates not testing till you have missed 2 periods, but i think i'd be tearing my hair out, anyway i am now 33+6 so keep trying it will happen

I had DD, then 10 week loss, then 5 week/chem preg and I am now 37+2. I got pregnant the 4th time in our month off, had sex when we wanted and however! Also treated myself to some new clothes and CBFM for use the following month. Anyway, I was pregnant that month and have an unused CBFM sat in wardrobe! lol I think sometimes you need some time off and to relax.

It was a cycle or two after my chem pg, so like to think the chem was a practice run and a good sign that my plumbing was working. Rather than being negative about it, although I was upset.

Good luck :)

Hi I am sorry for what has happened. I am not at the end yet but I lost at 6.5 weeks in June after an early scan. I decided to wait until my first period after the miscarriage and then see what happened. I fell pregnant at the start of August. I am now 29 weeks and whilst I am not making any presumptions, I am hoping for a happy outcome.
My only advice is take any time you feel you need and then not to get too tangled up in charts etc (which I know is hard). Just have sex when you feel like it and because you want to. Friends have found that the whole timetabling sex thing put a huge strain on their relationship.

Good Luck! :)

Thanks both for responding so quickly. To be honest the testing was a bit irrelevant as my symptoms were so strong so quickly, especially the second time so soon after the first. Both times I had several days of negatives before a faint positive but I didn't really have any doubt that I was pregnant because I felt so ill and strange.

I think it's good advice to wait all the same. It would definitely be reassuring another time to see a really strong positive!

duvet thanks for responding too, I missed yours last night. I have charted for years (for contraception!) and always found it really fascinating and empowering but now that we're ttc I think I might ease off for a while, especially as we don't seem to have a problem with the actual conception. On the other hand, this time I knew as soon as I saw my temp drop that it wasn't going to last, which at least gave me 24 hours to prepare myself and to tell dp. So I'm not sure really what's best.

I had a mmc at 9 weeks and then an early loss at 6 weeks. It then took me a year to conceive dd1. When dd1 was 9 months old I found out I was pg again, even though I was bf and on mini pill. Was a shock but now have 2 dds aged 2 and 4.

Thanks pud1! These stories have really made a difference and helped me feel more positive about things.

I had 4 early mc, had scans/bloods, camera up inside, nothing ever found out of the ordinary, shortly after the camera up there fell prg with ds1, then came ds2 2yrs later, then 5 years later, dd

Back when i kept mc, I thought id never have a successful pregnancy, now I cant beleive i have 3 children, I hope that gives you some hope

I lost 3 pregnancies before 12 weeks in 2010. I'm currently 35+5 after testing for recurrent miscarriage. Push your GP and hospital for a referral to a specialist clinic. The miscarriage section of MN was a great support for me in my dark days.

Thanks. I've just moved house and haven't registered with a GP yet but I'm going to do that this week and go in to get the chemical pregnancies noted on my records in case it happens again.

LAF77 did they find anything from the tests they did? or were your losses just chance? Fantastic that it's worked out this time though.

3 mcs in 2006. Referred to specialist. Got pregnant (with minimal intervention) in 2007 leading to Ds being born 2008. Dd born last Weds. She was a very welcome surprise, as I am now 48.

Good luck!

sorry 47 not 48 (yet!)

1st pregnancy ectopic. 2 lovely babies since, no more losses. It's a horrible experience but common to so many people, don't lose hope.

herecomesthesun that's amazing! Congratulations. It's so nice to hear these stories.

I think I'd had 5 miscarriages before I had my DD. she is my little miracle. I have now had the same again but currently 4wks after an ectopic in October. Perhaps I am crazy but some things are worth the pain. If I can with my awful history there is every chance you can too. After 3 miscarriages you are entitled to be referred to a specialist. I am with professor regan and st marys who is rather fabulous. Hope this one will be different. Let yourself be ready and try again. (my DD was conceived straight after a m/c, not good for everyone but worked for me). Hang in there and hugs.

kalidasa I develop a blood clotting problem when I become pregnant. I was clear on all tests in a "normal" state. St Mary's in London helped me with their TEG test. I took 150mg of aspirin until 34 weeks.

You do have to have 3 losses to see a specialist. 1 in 4 women miscarry once, 1 in 10 miscarry twice, and 1 in 100 will miscarry 3 times. I hope your third time will be successful. If not, push to see a specialist, don't let them fob you off.