Completely overwhelmed - help!

[mrsgreedy]

Sorry to be all moany but I am feeling completely overwhelmed by everything!

I have a 9 year old daughter, 3 year old twin boys and am very very very heavily pregnant with another set of twins!!!!!!!!!

I feel so awful as instead of being eternally grateful for my wonderful family the idea of the second set of twins arrival fills me with dread!!!

I accept that I am very blessed in many ways but this pregnancy was totally unplanned. My 3 year old boys have been challenging to say the least and suddenly the harsh memory of having twin babies has come flooding back - I was hallucinating through lack of sleep and my nipples were like raspberries from all of the breast feeding.

Somebody please tell me this is just hormones at work!

Gosh, that does sound like you have good reason to be overwhelmed!! What support do you have? Can you start sorting out some childcare of the twins so you can focus on the baby twins? Can you delegate all of the some household tasks to your DH / DP?

And if it was unplanned, maybe get some different contraception! Or take DH / DP for the snip.

Congrats by the way! Hope it's easier than expected and it'll all be worth it.

I've not had twins so I've no first hand advice but I wanted to offer you some support & sympathy. I'm finding 1 hard enough to deal with!
Can TAMBA offer you any support? Can your local SureStart provide any support? Or can you afford additional childcare eg night nanny, daycare etc?
Good luck I'm sure you'll find lots of ways to cope & everything will workout much better than you think xx

Totally agree with you, DH will definitely be going for the snip!

Twins seem to run in my family, as even though my mum didn't have twins my grandma had 2 sets! She had 2 sets of boy/girl twins, how lucky is that?!

We had only ever planned on 2 children, our second child turned out to be twins and now we have a double bonus on the way!

I am having the twins by elective C-section as I did my first set (had a natural delivery with DD though) so that helps me feel more in control of everything and helps me to plan.

I have my mum living quite nearby and obviously my DD will be at school. The idea of the school run with 2 sets of twins fills me with dread though!

Sorry to sound so negative. A lot of this is because I am HUGE (think bump going past knees!) and so uncomfortable. But this could be the easy bit!!

The pressure to breast feed doesn't help at all. I did it for as long as I could with my first set of twins but it is so hard feeding 2 at a time. Impossible to be discreet and so embarassing flashing my gigantic boobies to whoever happened to be visiting :/

My friend has just had twins and the first few weeks have been a difficult time for her, they are settling in to a good routine now but I still wouldnt want to swap my one for her two! I think the thing to remember is that once they are here and your getting those beautiful smiles somehow the hard times seem a little more bearable - and they dont stay small forever

Re: breast feeding totally agree its a ridiculous amount of pressure and particularly un-needed when in your situation, but thats all it is pressure, you have to do what is right for you and your babies, you have the benefit of experience so dont be bullied

Good luck and dont feel bad about the way you are feeling its normal and understandable