If i will be alone for the birth do i need to tell them or just turn up alone for my induction?

[Dirtydishesmakemesad]

For various reasos i will probablt be alone during the birth, I am being induced. Will i need to tell them I will be alone or just turn up alone on the day? If I am alone does it change anything about the way things will go or how i will be treated I am sort of nervous of being shoved in a room and forgotten :(

I had ds1 by myself. It was great and the MVs were fantastic. My dh is navy and I said he was on his way and my friend tried to follow the amberlance( she of course couldn't go through red lights and got lost!) so she missed the birth to. So it was me and 2 mv's. Dh was just about with me with ds2 and I found we were left more!

I am glad to hear that it went ok for you. I will be going in monday morning for the induction so i will pretty much just be lugging my stuff up to the ward on my own and then staying in on my own for the induction. Dh probably wont come and im a little worried about stupid things like will i be able to use the bath in labour if i am alone etc? what if something goes wrong who will be making choices for me? argh. I dont want to do it at all at this point!

I think you have to have someone with you when you are in the bath. So a midwife will hopefully stay with you

Why won't DH be with you? sorry to be nosey but I'm an insomniac and there is little else to do but be nosey x

I don't think you need to tell them, I'm sure there are many women who's partners need to stay home to look after other children so need to go it alone.

I'd suggest a comprehensive birth plan so that in the event you can't talk for yourself your wishes have been made clear. I'm sure the midwives will give you extra support being on your own to make sure you feel secure.

If DH is unlikely to be there can you take a trusted friend or relative? My best friend joined DP and I for my labour, I was induced and it took a long time, she really kept us going.

I don't think you have to tell them, but if it were me I probably would. It may mean that if they can do it that they'll try to assign a mw or student to be with you throughout to give you support.

Dh will hopefully be there - but we have four other children and finding babysitters for an unspecified amount of time is hard! - we have been told the induction could take hours or days. So he will be availible some of the time but other times he will have no option but to be at home. Monday for example he will be able to come for the afternoon (since SIL is free to sit with the children) but probably not early morning or evening!.

Definitely tell them on arrival so (if you want) they can see if there is perhaps someone who can sit with you if you are on your own.

If you end up on the drip or have an epidural then you should have a MW with you at all times anyway to monitor you and the machines :)

I also second (third?) the comprehensive birth plan idea in case you can't make your wishes known later on, take it in, ask them to read it when you arrive (and at shift changes) and you'll find that the midwives will probably do their best to make sure that they do what they can.

Wow that is hard. I wonder if its induction (the planned part) he could come and settle you in, talk to mws etc then be on call for the action scene if in anyway possible. Have you any friends that could rally round? even to come and sit with you in hospital for a bit. Not saying it is essential to have someone with you, lots of people do it without but you sounded apprehensive and a bit fed up from original post.

Oh dear dirtydishes would you be happy to tell us whereabouts you are? I'm sure a few mnetters would volunteer to help look after the kids a bit to let your DH go in? I'm in Newcastle if thats of any use? Although I do appreciate you might not want strangers in your house or looking after them