Dh has really upset me

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I'm 23 weeks pregnant and as is to be expected a bundle of hormones,dh has just said to me,after i had a moan about him waking dd2 at 6.20 this morning by making so much noise,am i sure i will cope with dc3? as i always have a face on and am always moaning about something and he is sick of it and i'm dragging him down!!
I'm really upset and cant stop crying

Aww bless you that is horrible, you need to tell him that when you have the baby you won't have all the hormones and pregnancy stress at the same time. I hope he listens to you and apologises and gives you a big hug

I presume he's heading off to work so just sees you stressed out in tge morning and doesn't taken into account it's because if him!

argh bless you sending you big hugs, maybe he's having bad day today. im a proper grump and my dh has been great but we keep out each others way if he's in a bad mood too. he has also joked i should move out for the next 9 months!!!! i do know i am a proper winge bag though so appreciate im not the easiest to live with x

I think you have my husband!!! I too 'have a face on me', moan all the time, am never happy blah blah blah - I feel like shouting back at him "Being married to you what do you expect BAST**RD!!". I am 24 weeks pregnant, lost a pregnancy at 18 weeks last year, have a 2yo with the terrible 2's - we also had to sell our house due to finances - I'm not trying to score points here. So I think I have a reason to be pretty pissed off. I am also slightly resentful that my husband gets to go to work, look smart, behave like a normal person and talk to normal people - he gets away from the constant mind numbing chore that is having kids (love it really). The men dont' have to deal with changing, uncomfortable bodies, and the hormones etc. I find it staggering that they cannot get it into their heads that they just need to be a little sympathetic - surely it's not that hard??? Clearly it is! I know I'm a pain in the arse, but if they were a little more understanding/picked up their crap/stopped being patrionising etc, we would not moan so much. I too have had a good cry this am, so you have my sympathy and a big hug:) You'll get through it - good luck for the remaining weeks xxx

Thanks everyone

nice to 'see' you going

I'm really sorry for your loss adivic

He really does'nt get it,he thinks you just walk around with a bump and get the odd kick every now and then,much as i love him he really isnt putting himself out for me at all and i'm just doing everything as i normally would.
When he left this morning it was my fault again as now he will be 'stressed at work all day'.The other day i worked from 8.30 til 3 then came in did all of dd2's homework with her,made the tea,then took dd1 to a dance class,came back got dd2 ready for bed,did story,bath etc.Then went back to pick dd1 up,came home again made lunches for following day and finally managed to sit down around half past 8!!
During this time DH was driffting in and out of sleep on the sofa,as he had been at work 8 til 5.30 and had man flu felt ill.

That description of your day is awful, and really why should you be so busy if you're not a single parent? Did you ask him to collect dd or make the lunches? Maybe try a "well you can either collect dd or get the lunches made, you pick" type thing, to at least share the load.

Tbh igggi dh spent a week working away recently and it was actually easier as there was one less person to look after
No i didnt ask him to do any of those things because i know what i would have been met with,i need to start though before i crack,i have said to him i would be alot better if everyone helped me out a bit more but then it just gets turned on me by him saying things like 'are you sure you will cope with having dc3?'

He can't deflect things like that. Maybe find a time to discuss when you have more 'space' like the weekend, so he might be more responsive. Why not try saying no, I don't think I will be able to cope with dc3 - just to see what he says?
I am 24 weeks and dh does a lot with ds, makes dinner etc, but he still thinks it's fine to go to the football every weekend and leave me with a preschooler!

My other half said to me last night, he loves me being pregnant, ive turned really calm and lovely to be around .

maybe me being pregnant is my default setting, and the rest of the time im actually a cranky nark and constantly moaning at everything (which i actually agree with but wouldn't dream of telling him so)

Waves at my virtual friend mrsh

Sending you lots of virtual hugs ((((((((((()))))))))))

This makes me sound mental but I once wrote a log of all the things I did that day to show to my DP when he got back from work. He was really taken aback that 1) I felt the need to and 2) how much I actually did! He was proper sheepish for ages... it was quite funny really...