something is wrong..i know it.

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I feel really bad but I am certain that something is wrong with my baby, I'm 29 weeks pregnant with DS2 and from the very beginning I have convinced myself somethings wrong, from 6-10 weeks I bled, all was fine, I've had a lot of pains, everyday, I get regular braxton hicks. I in my gut feel that something is wrong. Is that normal? I am so worried, he doesn't feel the same as my first, like his movements and kicks, are very different. Is it normal to worry like this? There's something telling me that something going to go wrong!

It sounds like the initial b
Ending has spooked you and went on for so long that you. Minced yourself things could not be ok. They can. Would you honestly feel like this if you had not bled? Can you pay for further extra scans for more reassurance, you will tie yourself in knots for the next 11 weeks!

Initial bleeding...

No two babies are the same. DC2 feels very different to DD.

However, if you are concerned then call your MW. Don't ignore any worries you have. It's not worth it.

Convinced as opposed to minced.. Sorry, should probably just go to bed and stop typing....

My midwifes been being useless, at appointments she rushes the checks, doesn't ask or talk to me about how I'm feeling and any worries, I have tried before she just said "oh your one of them drama worriers". She had a go at me for phoning her, apparantly, before 20 weeks I see GP with problems, and from then on straight to hospital.nothing to do with her! :/

Op is there a MW drop in near you? If you phone the labour ward they should be able to advise you how you can get to see a MW?

You need someone to listen to you. If you had someone listening then you would not need to be worrying!

I know how you feel, I'm in my second pregnancy (16 weeks) and so far have already been to A&E once because I was convinced I was miscarrying... turns out I wasn't!

I think it's normal to be more worried with your second pregnancy because whilst in the first you had no idea what to expect, this time around you can't help but think that you know what 'should' happen! Possibly millions of MNetters (if there are that many) have said that all their pregnancies were different and that you can't judge subsequent ones by the first one.

It's very likely that your feelings are due to normal pregnancy stress and that everything is, in reality, completely fine and that you will have a lovely healthy baby. I'm guessing that you have been to the doctors to get checked out already, so my advice would be to try and chill out (easier said than done, I know!) while keeping an eye on yourself and visiting doctors again if anything changes.

Big hugs - it's horrible worrying about the little person on board...

Everything is probably just fine. I was the same in my last pregnancy (with DC3), mainly because I had had a MMC the year before and partly because the pregnancy was different to my previous two in many ways (I had morning sickness every day until delivery, DC3 seemed to move a lot less than either DC1 or DC2 and there were no "big kicks" at all.) DC3 was (and is) absolutely fine.

Having said that, if you feel something is wrong it is always worth speaking to your MW - if only to put your mind at rest.

I've had plenty of check ups, and all seems fine. But theirs a gut instinct I can't seem to drop.you know what I mean? It doesn't help everyone saying I'm so small! Only got a little bump, but midwife again says its fine, yet midwife and doctor which I've seen at hospital both said I need to get my midwife to send me for a growth scan but she won't listen to me.I can't really afford a private scan or I would be straight there!

The people you saw at the hospital can refer you for growth scans, it isn't just your community midwife. If you want to you can change your community midwife - just phone up the supervisor of midwives and tell them you wish to change and they should sort it for you.

Your consultant should book you in, or the mw at the hospital, your drop in mw wouldn't do that for you, she could refer you to the consultant but i don't think she makes the apt for you.
Phone the receptionist for the consultant dpt and ask to spk to your consultant, express your concerns, tell them your normal mw isn't supporting a growth scan and you need them to do it for you.
I am sure you are fine, i think after the first one you know all the things that can go sooo very wrong, and it is hard to believe that you won't end up being someone that happens to.
Until you get some rl support, come on here and let off steam etc, it will help a little.
Let us know how things go.

Thankyou,I'm not consultant led.although at the beginning I was told I would be due to my low bmi. But nothing else has been done about this, my bmi was 18 I think. Weighed 7 and half stone. Even the sonographer at my 20 weeks scan said "ill see you again for your growth scan" and I said I'm not having one, she was shocked as I'm 'petite' and was underweight. I don't know, maybe I should fork out for a scan for reassurance. I do have a lot of pains and basically feeling unwell a lot. Just want him here with me safe and sound. Pregnancy can be so scary.

In most areas you can book yourself an appointment with the consultant - it doesn't have to be done via referral. Ring the maternity unit direct.

I can really sympathise with you op-I have felt exactly the same with my pregnancy (28 weeks with baby number 4 ). I had a bit of spotting at the beginning and have spent a fortune on private scans (money i really didnt have but the panic and worry was overwhelming).
I was not like this with my other pregnancies, i spent the first 12 weeks constantly going to loo to check for bleeding, then till 24 weeks panicking about having a late miscarriage and went for cervical length scans and now i just worry about all the other things that could go wrong.

I have no explanation as to why i feel like this so probably am of no help whatsoever, I just want you to know you are not the only one. I have had so many extra checks and the hospital have been great they saw me a couple of times when i was concerned as the baby hadnt been moving much and i didnt feel like a time waster they really tried to reassure me.

You should speak to your midwife or doctor maybe they could offer extra checks?mw appts just for reassurance ? Sorry you are feeling like this, i know how hard it can be-all i want to do is relax and enjoy being pregnant but i cant. good luck.