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Do they take your baby away at night in the hosp?

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MillyStar · 05/02/2012 16:50

my mum has just terrified me and said when she had me and my brothers we were Put in the nursery at night and just the mums slept on the ward!

Please tell me they don't do this anymore there's no way I'm being separated from my baby girl ;(

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CoolRunnings · 05/02/2012 16:52

They don't do this in the UK as far as I know. They wouldn't take your baby without permission anyway. Don't worry

lostboysfallin · 05/02/2012 16:53

No, they don't

ValarMorghulis · 05/02/2012 16:53

No not as a matter of course. Only if baby needs some extra attention.

SauvignonBlanche · 05/02/2012 16:53

No they don't.

PotteringAlong · 05/02/2012 16:54

They offered to take my DS to the nurses station if I wanted but I said no, although the option was there if I wanted it.

SenoritaViva · 05/02/2012 16:55

They used to back when I was born in the 70's. 'Now there are signs everywhere to take your baby with you wherever you go... times have changed!

Coconutty · 05/02/2012 16:56

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LynetteScavo · 05/02/2012 16:56

No, although 13 years ago they did offer to sedate me so I could get a good nights sleep, and put DS in the "nursery".

I politely declined.

I think they don't have enough staff these day to put babies in separate rooms.

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MillyStar · 05/02/2012 16:56

Ahhhh thank god for that i was in a panic then I had visions of me having a showdown with her tucked under my arm lol

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GrownUp2012 · 05/02/2012 16:56

Not as a matter of course. My DD was taken away to the night nursery and returned for feeds only, but I was having a difficult time with health issues and she was a very unsettled child.

milk · 05/02/2012 17:05

Had my DS with me the entire time :) Even wheeled him around with me to watch TV :P

whomovedmychocolate · 05/02/2012 17:08

You wish.

Seriously they haven't time to do anything with you or your baby on your average NHS ward, you will be lucky if you SEE a midwife unless there is something wrong with you.

WipsGlitter · 05/02/2012 17:11

They took my DS2 away with my permission. I'd not slept in about 36 hours. I didn't mind, felt much better for a nights sleep! You might be begging them to!

Meglet · 05/02/2012 17:12

They took DS in the second night as we hadn't slept and things were getting miserable.

They didn't take DD, although TBH I would have been happy for an hour or two on my own.

My mum was horrified with modern post-natal wards and the babies crying and waking up everyone else, lack of sleep for the mums .

notcitrus · 05/02/2012 17:12

Only if the baby needs special care.
Actually I ended up in a right state in the first night (still attached to drip/catheter, couldn't reach ds, filthy sheets, ds howling despite being fed) and a MW suggested she take him and rock him at the nurse's station and took him.

Cue me having total hysteria because I didn't know she was a MW or how to get him back, but I sent the interpreter to chase and was told it was fine, and within about 20 minutes she returned with ds who had calmed down.

Pootle78 · 05/02/2012 17:13

They offered to take ds to the nurses station last year when I had him, I declined on the 1st and 2nd night but after 25mins sleep in 3 days I accepted on night 3 as they said they could get him to sleep. He didn't and screamed for 1 hour and I got 40 mins sleep.

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 05/02/2012 17:16

Not unless you want them to.

The midwives took both of mine for a couple of hours in the middle of the night when they wouldn't settle so that I could get some sleep, but I had had a c/s (both times) and I think they do try to look after you a bit more if you need it.

Bunbaker · 05/02/2012 17:19

It is usual for you to have your baby in a little crib next to your bed. In my experience they only take your baby away if you are desperate for sleep or there is something wrong with the baby.

ArcticRain · 05/02/2012 17:21

They took mine away for about 5 hours each night , but I think it was because I had had a traumatic birth , and was to wound up and upset to sleep .

Hulababy · 05/02/2012 17:23

I allowed them to on my second night after the birth of DD for a few hours so I could try and sleep. Had had a 50 hour induction with no sleep and then a c section and really needed some rest in order to be able to be well enough to go home and look after DD properly.

But no, they don't take your baby away at night without your permission.

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MillyStar · 05/02/2012 17:24

My mum just made it sound like they took them away and they weren't allowed to sleep on the ward with you at all, it's understandable is some situations but she just said it as if it was definite!

I'm so relieved

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Lightofthemoon · 05/02/2012 17:24

whomoved you wish indeed!! I asked them to look after DS for 15minutes so I could express some milk as it had come in and he wouldn't latch on and was screaming his head off.

The midwife came back about a minute later and said she couldn't settle him and just left him screaming in the cot next to my bed whilst I pumped my boobs.

Was the middle of the night and was so stressed about keeping everyone awake :-((( I think it would be better if they did actually offer to help look after your baby after what you've just been through giving birth!!

DamonSalvatoreIsMyLoveSlave · 05/02/2012 17:33

They offered to take dc3 from me about 1am on the first night because she wouldn't settle (and I think they felt bad I'd had really long attempt at vbac, loads of pushing and had another c section!). I was bottle feeding so that wasn't a problem and was so grateful for the sleep (hadnt slept a wink previous 2 nights). I kept thinking I was going to drop my baby because I couldn't stop myself falling asleep. It's not the norm though these days.

Ragwort · 05/02/2012 17:37

Yes - DS was very unsettled and as the ward were quiet they took him somewhere so that I could sleep - I'd had an EMCS and wasn't quite with it anyway ! They would bring him back to (try to) b/f (that's another story ............)

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