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How many of your partners gave up booze just before the birth?

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gloucestergirl · 05/02/2012 12:49

If I am may ask for a quick straw pole about how many of you asked your partners to give up drinking just before the brth? Am 37 weeks and had an almighty barny last night as my husband came home drunk after work. Both the possibility of him being drunk when I go into labour and the money which should go on more important things were on my mind. Also being woken up a drunken idiot when I finally have got to sleep peed me off.

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Sanesometimes1 · 05/02/2012 15:15

dh gave up about a month before my due date ( not even a can of lager), last big night out was about 2 months before my due date.

pud1 · 05/02/2012 15:16

Mine gave up 2 weeks before with both dds

CumberdickBendybatch · 05/02/2012 15:20

Mine, as we're out in the sticks and needed him to be sober enough to drive.

Go easy though... a couple of nights out before the birth is fine - last chance he'll get for s while.

Stogan · 05/02/2012 15:22

When we were talking about getting pg my OH said he would give up but now at 8 months I don't think he has gone a week without a drink - peed me off for a while but watch me get my own back in a few weeks time !!! Grin

Tooblunt2012 · 05/02/2012 15:24

Mine didn't with any of our 3 - didn't even occur to me that he should. He's not a really big drinker though & we're also quite close to hospital etc so wouldn't have been an issue had he been drunk & I went into labour (which never happened).

MrsRV · 05/02/2012 15:37

Yep, my hubby is doing it off his own back which is fine with me. Think it was the story about another friend falling down stairs and going into early labour and having to phone her dad to take her to Hosp as hubby had been drinking that did it!!!

melliebobs · 05/02/2012 15:39

My husband isn't a massive drinker anyway but I don't begrudge him having the odd beer.

But he only passed his driving test in September so has given up on his own accord as he feels safer without! Smile

Rhinestone · 05/02/2012 15:39

DH has already said (unprompted by me) that he will be giving up at 7 months.

Nagoo · 05/02/2012 15:40

yes, he gave up about 3 weeks before, both times. And I went overdue both times, so about a month of no booze.

Except one night when we went out with his family and his mum was 'designated driver' as we stayed there. He didn't get very drunk then though.

chocoroo · 05/02/2012 15:42

Mine stopped drinking a couple of weeks before. In fact, we went out a week before my due date and I had a drink and he didn't :)

willowshimmer · 05/02/2012 18:03

We had the same barny a few days ago my OH was flabberghasted when I suggested that perhaps it would be wise to cut out alcohol a few weeks before the birth. He took it onboard but didnt understand the importance of it to me!! and if Man U are playing the day I go into labour I got no chance of a birthing partner lol Wink

motherinferior · 05/02/2012 18:07

Never occurred to me. I was too busy fantasising about the prospect of my first post-natal gin and tonic.

SausageSmuggler · 05/02/2012 18:08

DH did about a month before DS was due. He didn't have a problem with it though because he (quite rightly IMO) said it was more important for him to be there at the birth of his child. This time will be interesting if I go overdue though because baby is due 4 days before his birthday.

ayearoverdue · 05/02/2012 18:10

My DP stopped at 37 weeks just in case anything happened and I needed him, we got a bit more relaxed by 39 weeks though, I was bored with him hanging around all the time so we played it by ear, if I felt fine he went out and didn't get too hammered.

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gloucestergirl · 06/02/2012 07:21

Maybe I was just being a grumpy idiot. Easily done at this stage :) I just know that he would hate himself if he was too drunk when the baby arrives, and as he has really cut down it only takes 3 pints now!

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louby86 · 06/02/2012 07:29

My DH decided new years eve would be his last proper drunk night as he wouldn't forgive himself if he couldn't drive me to hospital, that was his own decision, nothing to do with me. If anything I think he was being a little over-cautious, I'm not due until next week, but it has put my mind at ease too.

QED · 06/02/2012 07:35

I can't remember whether XH stopped drinking or not. There definitely wasn't a big decision anyway.

Ragwort · 06/02/2012 07:40

No big discussion - but can't remember him drinking so much that he couldn't have driven around my due date - eventually we got a date for induction so he didn't drink the day before Grin.

I wouldn't have expected him to be totally alcohol free before the birth (but then neither was I Blush).

HSMM · 06/02/2012 07:46

My DH gave up 2 weeks before I was due
He came home really drunk about 3 weeks before and when he surfaced at midday, I just said ... what if I went into labour last night?He cut right down that week, then stopped drinking completely.

JasperJohns · 06/02/2012 07:52

I can't remember it being a big deal, but he wouldn't have gone over limit in run up to due dates.

Happenstance · 06/02/2012 07:53

Mine has limited himself to one a week at 32 weeks and will give up completely at 35 weeks, his choice.

Chandon · 06/02/2012 07:57

ehmmm,

at the time my DH did drink, as he was not able to drive anyway Hmm so we were always going to have to either walk to the hospital (as I did with DS1 Shock) or find a taxi (as I did with DS2 Grin ....poor taxi driver not too happy but I did not give birth in his car, although I was 10 cm dilated when we got to the hospital!).

I DO remember fantasising occasionally about an older, sensible man, rather than a younger slightly hopeless one....

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