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Very scared somene has told dp's ex i'm pregnant

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faintpinkline · 04/02/2012 13:33

Appears they saw us at the hospital when we went in for scan.

She's assualted me a few times in the past and I'm really really scared what she'll do now sittting in house with all the curtains closed and doors locked and i'm so frightend.

I don't know what she'll do. got awful headache, dps at work and worryng abut dd too

I haven't even told the people I want to know yet :(

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ahhhhhpushit · 04/02/2012 13:40

Call the police (local number not 999) and register your concern. Say she has assaulted you in the past and you genuinely fear for your and your DD's safety.

How do you know she knows? Has she made a threat? If so obviously tell the police that.

Emsgale · 04/02/2012 13:49

If she says or does anythi.g tgen phone the police x

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faintpinkline · 04/02/2012 13:50

She told dp. :( Shes not made a threat yet but herknowing is enough to terrify me

i know she'd have had to know at some stage but fgs I'm only 13 weeks, I see as little of her as I can help. She may be sensible she's already got a suspended prison sentence for something else and is still in the suspension period (lovely woman!!!)

Want someone to tell me i'm just being silly but her behaviour is so bad i'm really scared

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DexterTheCat · 04/02/2012 13:55

ahhhhhpushit Say she has assaulted you in the past - Yes great advice. Lie to the Police and wonder why they won't take you seriously!!!

If you feel the need to go to the Police tell the truth, although from what you say nothing has happened just your perception of what may. I had this and used to get threatening drunken phone calls in the middle of the night threatening to kick the baby out of me and telling me DP didn't love me etc etc. I told DP to sort it with her otherwise I would go to the Police and it stopped.

exexpat · 04/02/2012 13:59

Hmm Dexter - did you not read the OP: "She has assaulted me a few times in the past." No one is advising her to lie.

Police should be notified.

Kayzr · 04/02/2012 14:00

I would ring the non emergency police number.

Dexter did you read the OP?

2blessed2bstressed · 04/02/2012 14:01

Dexter - OP said that ex HAS assaulted her in the past. She wouldn't be so worried otherwise!

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faintpinkline · 04/02/2012 14:01

She has assualted me in the past so I woudn't be lying to police - I said so in OP. She's got a caution for GBH and was previously arrested on another count which I didn't persue. Both times she hospitalised me.

Sorry you've had such a rubbish time in the past dexter its a horrible thing

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jaffacakehips · 04/02/2012 14:04

First things first..huge congratulations of your pregnancy Smile how was the scan? You now get to tell the world your exciting news. Please don't let this vile women take this amazing moment away from you and DP.

What has/did your DH say? She told DP what?

Call your local station and inform them about this women. Clearly she's not a very nice women. I'm sure she's jealous of your happiness. Which sadly says more about her than anything else. I know you are scared but don't let her into your head...or she's won.

Please enjoy your pregnancy, you are not being silly.

Take care x

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faintpinkline · 04/02/2012 14:04

will call police sorry it seems the obvious thing to do but can't think clearly

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jaffacakehips · 04/02/2012 14:08

The most important thing is your safely and that of your baby. If you feel threaten in anyway shape or form you MUST tell the police.

RabidEchidna · 04/02/2012 14:19

OP register any concerns with the police
Dexter, learn to read

ahhhhhpushit · 04/02/2012 14:36

Dexter bog off! Read the OP a little more clearly next time yeah?

morethemerrier · 04/02/2012 14:52

Not much experience but I just wanted to agree with above that you need to register your concern with the Police.

Also, I just wondered, as she has assaulted you twice before is there a restraining order in place that you can call them if she comes anywhere near you? Does anyone know if that is possible for the OP to pursue this to give her a greater sense of protection given the history and her current situation? Hmm

Congrats btw and try and enjoy your pregnancy.

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faintpinkline · 04/02/2012 14:52

Police were lovely. they've put an alert on me / my address and told me to call 999 immediately if she even comes round. they said not to answer door to her under any circumstances and said dealing with her is their job not mine.

Going to try to relax now :(

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jaffacakehips · 05/02/2012 13:48

Hope you're feeling better today faint?

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 05/02/2012 13:53

Oh, that's FAB, sometimes it's the luck of the draw who you get when you ring isn't it!!

Hope you are enjoying your lunch with DD now Grin

NeedlesCuties · 05/02/2012 15:34

You did the right thing by ringing the police.

Don't give her or her feelings a second thought, she clearly isn't a nice person. She seems like a bully :(

Your DC and your unborn baby are your biggest priority and you can't spend the next 30-odd weeks of your pregnancy in fear, and you can't bring your baby home from hospital with that over your head.

Hope you're feeling more relaxed soon.

oikopolis · 05/02/2012 16:47

Just reading your thread now OP. I love to hear when the police are so reassuring and supportive, glad they've told you it's their problem to deal with. What a horrible woman :( I hope you're able to relax a bit from now on.

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faintpinkline · 06/02/2012 20:22

Well so far she seems to be leaving me alone which is good.

The officer I spoke to had previously had the dubious pleasure of meeting arresting her so he knows what she can be like. One of his colleagues called round today to check I was alright which was very kind. He said he was the local officer responsible for our beat and gave me his mobile number. I have to say our local police are bloody brilliant. They are saying because of the history they are treating me as vulnerable while I'm pregnant

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