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Doodlegoogle · 03/02/2012 01:21

Firstly, please have a bit of patience with me - I know I am being neurotic.

20 week scan due very soon and we are having a debate about whether to find out the sex or not. When we first talked about it DP assumed we would of course find out and he wants to know. My initial position was that I didn't want to know. We don't really mind if it is a boy or a girl - we'd probably slightly prefer a girl but its only a very slight preference.

The thing is I know someone who was told they were having a girl and actually it turned out to be a girl with a winkle Confused

I really hate the idea of getting used to the idea of it being one or the other and then it turning out that was wrong. I know the chances are very slim but still, I know of 2 people it happened to.

I explained this to poor DP who has been lovely and has said we don't have to find out if I don't want to. I'm now very stupidly doubting this is the right thing to do after all I am a complete idiot and he laughed at me for some time I had mentally got used to the idea that we would know and I'd have to deal with it and think I'll kick myself if I have to wait another 20 weeks to find out. I'd also been thinking if the scan tells us its a boy then it will be good to get any very slight disappointment over with there and then so I can just be really happy when he's born (as long as he's really a boy!)

If its a boy or a girl I'll love it dearly but I really don't want to feel even a tinge of disappointment when he or she is born and for some reason this simple dilemma is getting to me.

I think I am over analysing things. Grin Help!

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Alligatorpie · 03/02/2012 04:56

I think it is pretty uncommon that they get the sex wrong, but yes it does happen. If your dh doesn't mind, then I wouldn't find out. We didn't with our first and I think it was better not to know ( others will disagree). This time I sort of want to know, because I think our six year old will be disappointed if it's a boy, and I wanted to prepare her...but we had the 20 weeks scan last week and she didn't want to know. So we will wait!

I think once you have the baby, you will won't care at all and their will be no disappointment at the sex. You will just be happy to be holding your baby.

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