Fed up with being pregnant

[Empusa]

Just needed somewhere to moan.

Pregnancy has been one of the most unpleasant experiences of my whole life, just want it all over now.

From the start I've had hyperemesis and was hospitalised at around 12 weeks due to severe dehydration. Since then I've been on a cocktail of anti-sickness meds every day, which hasn't actually stopped the sickness, just reduced it. I'm now sick once a day and can barely eat. I'm 30 weeks now, looks like I'll be puking right up until labour.

My ligaments hurt like hell, I have loads of pelvic girdle pain, and the braxton hicks hurt so much they make me puke.

I can't think of a single positive aspect of pregnancy.

On top of all this shit my mum is dying of cancer and probably wont live long enough to see her first grandchild born.

I'm worn out and fed up.

I had the same thing for my first child (except for the mum part), so completely understand how you feel.

The only piece of hope I can give you is that my DS is now 10 months and I would go through it all again as I love him so much :D

Hi Empusa - it's alright, its how many of us feel. There was almost nothing I liked about pg at all, like you I had hypermesis for most of the time and also BH that took my breath away from about 28w. The hormones don't help at all, and of course you have the awful situation with your mother, which I am so sorry to hear about.

It will be better when you LO is with you, and it will all seem worth it in time, but I know that's often not much help when you feel so shitty. Take time to do something you like, if you can, whether its to wallow in the bath, watch a favourite film etc. It will all be over soon but try to take care of yourself as much as you can until then. And above all, use us to come and moan to - so many of us have been through difficult pg's too and we understand and we're hear to help you xx

empusa, sounds dreadful and not surprised you feel fed up :(

So sad about your mum, that is one of the toughest things to go through at any time in your life let alone when your hormones are through the roof and your body is physically and mentally exhausted so cut yourself some slack.

I would say one thing re 'I can't think of a single positive aspect of pregnancy'

a beautiful baby?

I agree with bella, can you take some time for yourself and do something to help you relax?

Empusa, my heart goes out to you love, I couldn't not write back to you. I can't believe that you've lastest this long to come on here and have a moan, you've done so well to get to where you are. I'm just passing into the 2nd tri and I've been sooo f**king fed up with the relentless feeling of sickness and exhaustion (and i know this isn't nearly half as full on as hyperemisis). I have been alongside my OH who has lost his Mum to melanoma 5 years ago and over the past 3 years has been fearful of losing his dad to prostate cancer. I think until you experience shit like that you've got no idea how hard life can be. I suppose the one thing I want to say to you is that nothing ever stays the same and no matter how awful you're feeling it won't last forever. Is there any support (i was thinking counselling but it's not everyone's cup of tea) you can get from your gp / macmillan? Some people also swear by accupuncture but again I think it's one of those that you've got to want it to work. If you want to moan more feel free to pm me. X

I've been running through nightmare situations in my head about my mum.

• what if she dies while I'm in labour?
• what if she dies before and I go into labour during her funeral?
• what if there are complications and I can't get to her due to being in hospital and she narrowly misses meeting the baby?

I don't live near her either, we're about an hours drive, which she can't manage at all, and I'm worried I'll end up with a c-section and not able to take the baby to her.

I just don't know how to cope with all of this.

I also feel awful for wishing time away, this pregnancy has been really physically tough on me and I just want it over, but at the same time I feel like I'm wishing her death closer.

oooo emp it's bollocks isn't it the mum part. I have the same thing although mine is having chemo (secondary has gone to horrid parts now) but I fear may not be around too long with my only child and it has taken ages for us to get to this stage and wanted to share it with her, so I can understand how painful it is. If only they were on the doorstep hey? mine is hour and half away. I am feeling anxious and paranoid and just want everything to go well and have healthy baby, have been feeling shit, but not anything like yours, it must be really really tough. Sending you a big hug, and keep focussed on your new life, it does make sense, even when you can't see if for the darkness x