Anyone else feel like throttling DH/DP when pregnant?

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Hello! My first post on Mumsnet. I feel a bit scared...

Anyway, my reason for posting is that I can't quite decide whether I feel generally irritated and upset with DH because of my hormones or whether I have real marital issues! I seem to have lost all of sense of perspective.

Just wondered if anyone feels the same... I think I felt like this when pregnant with my other two, so I'm thinking there's hope.

oh yeah.
I got angry with my DP this weekend for..in no particular order:
Eating
Recycling
Putting his hood up.

:o

I had the opposite - nothing DP did while I was pregnant irritated me at all (whereas normally...)
i do have friends who are always like this in pregancy- but don't realise it at the time - its always "this time is different he is really annoying etc.."

Still angry with mine 29 years on ;0

Hey shipshape. I swear I was considering starting a thread on the same subject this afternoon!
How many weeks pregnant are you? I went through a phase of utter adoration in 2nd trimester and was really surprised at myself! Someone said "enjoy it because by the end of the pregnancy you'll want to kill him". So true!! At 39 + 1 I just can't stand him!! Hope it's only a phase again! The worst thing is that he's being extra nice to me in spite of it so I feel really guilty too!

Glad to hear this is normal. I'm 36 weeks and feel so irrationally mad at dh. I even feel angry for feeling angry at him I hope this phase will pass once the baby arrives or we are in for a rough ride!

oh yes packed my bags on sunday night, am otherwise quite blissfully happy but it involved him doing a 'spit' when we were on a walk which I think is disgusting and told him and then it esculated and I packed my bags. had to make up for it today with a chipolata sandwich for breakfast (for him gag at the thought of eating it myself and can still smell it!) anyway seems to have worked. am 20 weeks and mostly very happy and in love but every now and then just think he is a complete wanker...

All the time. MIL was coming over last Saturday, and I had been particularly lazy in the few days before as I hadn't slept well for nights, so house needed hoovered, polished, a general tidy up basically. But I then proceeded to get really mad at DH for going overboard with the cleaning - interpreting his actions (in my crazy, irrational mind) to mean I was a lazy, dirty slob who couldn't keep the house clean to his precious Mum's standards - saying, "It's not as if the feckin' queen's coming to visit, it's just your feckin Mum!!!"
He stood, hoover in hand, looked very confused.
I slammed the door and stomped upstairs crying.

I was contemplating divorce and life as a single parent for about the first eight weeks, then I got The Exhaustion and just couldn't face all the palaver, then it was all fine!

Still married 20+ years on and two more children .....same pattern really! :D

OMG that is my first pregnancy symptom

With this pregnancy and the last pregnancy I knew I was pregnant as I just wanted to kill DH! With this pregnancy I decided to do a pregnancy test after having my hands around his neck, lol.

I think the reason for this is usually I can put up with DH bad jokes, but when I am pregnant his bad jokes just make me want to kill him!

Not in my first pregnancy. I was sometimes mean, but mostly nice. At least he could always chivvy me out of a hormone induced rage by making me laugh.

This pregnancy? With a toddler to look after, too, I'm constantly knackered and pretty uncomfortable all the time and guess who I'm taking it out on? I do my best to make it up to him when I'm not in a grump and he knows it won't last forever, but I know I'm very unreasonable with him at the moment.

Thank you all so much - I feel better already!

I'm 23 weeks, so sadly no 2nd trimester 'honeymoon' for me. Admittedly, DH -though a good man and great father - is probably best described as 'emotionally retarded' when it comes to relationships. Normally, I can accept this, but pregnancy or PMT make me want to divorce him.

Today's gripe was that he left for work without saying goodbye to me or the kids (we were upstairs) - his reason being that 'he didn't have time'. It's not the first time. I was so angry about it I even cried. Is that pregnancy madness or justifiable anger? God, I don't know.

Thanks though ladies. You've made me smile.

Yes - definitely.
I'm not even sure if I am pregnant yet - but seem to have all the symptoms - including having spent all weekend being cross with DH for one thing or another when the poor man has really done nothing wrong at all! (eek - I really hope I am pregnant!)

I threw the kitchen bin at my oh whilst pg. He was loading the dishwasher incorrectly and would not listen to me correcting him. Tbh I am not sure how he put up with me but the smallest things were a massive deal to me and I would get upset or annoyed at the most ridiculous things

That's how I knew I was pg - nearly walked out over Xmas!!!
Now all is fine but I have occasional moments of weeping or stomping while he looks confuddled!! I now preface everything with "I think I'm being hormonal, but....."

Thank god I'm not the only one that wants to strangle my Dp, I've gotten so bad I try to keep out the same room as him. I feel really mean for getting annoyed at him but can't help my self. The sound of him breathing sounds like gale force wind right down my ear!!!Grrrrr I'm 37 weeks and hoping this is a phase and will go as soon as baby comes, the smallest things upset me, tonights example... He mixed my peas and sweetcorn on my dinner plate which made my blood boil and resulting in my getting very cross and sobbing trying to eat, needless to say I feel awful for making such a fuss!!!

Yes me too, looked up budget hotels in the area so I could do one for a few days - then I got over it. :)

Not pregnant, but could definitely throttle DH tonight. Arsehole that he is.

On topic though, yes, felt like that quite a few times over really minor things. It went
DP: Why Are you crying?
Me: because you didn't put the recycling out, you bastard.
DP:

Poor man.

I've just hit that time, though, tbh, I'm like that when I have my period too. It's partly hormonal, partly I'm fed up feeling crap and just want to sit and watch telly to take my mind off it. Poor chap, we've only been married since December, and he's at a loss as to how to help me.

During my 2nd trimester I had DP issues. I just wanted to do it all on my own, I got really insecure, controlling and selfish and felt like I didn't want to have to make compromises with someone about MY baby and MY life and that I'd be better off doing it all alone. I remember feeling really mad at him because he came home at 7.30pm and not 7pm like I had been expecting him to. I hadn't asked him to be home at 7pm and he doesn't always come home at 7pm but I had assumed he would, so when he didn't I was livid!

Seems to be quite a common phenomenon! Dancechick, like you I'm just the same at the time of the month (the week before) so I guess it must be hormonal. I just have this irrational anger with DH - to point where I really hate him over fairly minor issues. I don't get angry with anyone else.

I keep trying to think loving thoughts, and even flick through my wedding album now and then when things get really bad, but as soon as he walks through that door at the end of the day, the mist descends and I spend the evening resisting the urge to moan at him about something.

Have just had a think about all the things DH has done in last week which made me want to kill him (and which, of cousrse, I haven't held back in telling him):

The way he loads the dishwasher
The way he unloads the dishwasher
The way he hangs up the washing (not that he hangs up the washing very often but on the odd occasions he does, he does it all wrong)
The way he leaves his shoes sitting (not neat, together, but just kicked off and messy looking)
The way he eats
The amount he eats
The fact he needs a bib
The way he does planks at the gym
The way he does press-ups at the gym
Then way he lifts weights at the gym
They way he always misses bits when he wipes the worktop
The way he leave the cushions uneven on the sofa when he gets up
The way he makes a cup of tea (puts far too much water in, and doesn't leave tea bag in for long enough - criminal)
The way he never notices when he drips anything on floor/down cupboard doors
The way he ties the bin bag
How noisy he is when typing on his laptop
How obsessed he is with his Ipad
How he flicks down every channel on the Sky TV guide, instead of using the page down button (aaaargh, that one drives me mental!!)
The way he always manages to get into bed before me even if I go up the stairs first
The way he sprays toothpaste all over the tap in our bathroom
The way he closes the curtains
The way he writes (like a 4 year old)
The way he says words ending in 'ing'
The way he walks (he swings his arms far too much)
The way he drives
The way he took ages to get my MacDonalds out of the bag on the way home on Saturday night (car full of drunken friends, me being taxi driver. I'm sure he gave me mine last just to wind me up)
How noisy he is when breathing
The way he falls asleep within 5 seconds of his head hitting the pillow
How annoying he looks when sleeping (may be related to over the above)

Clearly, I am a fruitcake.

Oh, Missgiraffe, you've made me laugh so much - thank you! Which is just what I needed after taking the dog for a walk and thinking about all the annoying things DH does - to the point where my blood was boiling by the time I got home.

Think I should make a list too. Might be therapeutic.

Very therapeutic Shipshape , I recommend it. I think I hate him a little bit less today

My DH thought it was very telling when he went to google 'pregnant wife wants to kill me'. You only have to type in 'pregnant wife wa' and the first suggestion is:
pregnant wife wants a divorce

Teehee

I had a full on strop with my husband the other day because he came home on his break with HIS lunch and nothing for me!! How dare he! He sat there eating the most delicious looking sausage and bacon baguette, I could of cried and I got an instant bag on (still not telling him why when he asked what was up because I knew I was being stupid!)
Then today I could of wacked him because I rang to say could he pick something up for tea as I am feeling to tired and sick to cook and he sighed at me! arghhhhh!!