Scared of miscarrying again , is something wrong with me?

[sweetness86]

Hi I have 2 sons aged 5 & 3. Inbetween first and second son I had a MC at 6 1/2 weeks. I got pregnant in November 2011 and had a miscarriage again at 5 weeks.
Im pregnant now only 4 weeks Ive already bought a few tests to see if the line is getting darker and becoming obsessive about it. Im so worried its affecting my everyday life already and I have weeks to wait yet until the scan.
Also as Ive had two but not in a row will I have another? Has anyone been through this Please help .

Also not sure if I posted on the right board so sorry if its wrong.

Nothing wrong with you at all - it's totally understandable for you to be so worried given your history. I was exactly the same but have tried to embrace the 'positive mental attitude' and the fact that - no matter how high our chances of miscarriage we still have a GREATER chance of a happy, healthy pregnancy

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Hi there is no getting away from what you are feeling and it is completely normal, I had three children before having a miscarriage in March last year.

Devastating and I wasn't sure if I could allow myself to try for a much wanted 4th to complete our family.

I do know that I had done nothing different than I had with my other three, and truly believe it was just something that wasn't right with the baby and sadly it wasn't viable.

I am now 30 weeks pregnant, and this pregnancy has been the most nerve racking as well as all the usual pregnancy fears having had a loss the first trimester was almost unbearable,such a roller coaster of emotions. Fear one minute and excitement the next.

If you can push for a reassurance scan, do I had one at 8 weeks you wont see much but it helped me knowing it was in the right place and had a heartbeat.

Please try and put the tests away, you really can't stop a miscarriage its not something we have any control over you will only add to your anxiety if one line is fainter than another.

There is no reason this pregnancy will end as sadly, you have had two successful pregnancies, try and keep busy, this first trimester will be long and emotionally tough but try and allow yourself as many positive thoughts for each negative one.

I wish you the very best, take care x

Thankyou so much for your reply your words make sense one day at a time thats all Im thinking about right now.

Thanks more I am trying my best honestly. I just think if this one ends badly I will get s depressed this time.
Im going to ask the doctor for an early scan if possible to put my mind at rest a bit and not get to attached to the idea.
The ironic thing is the Due date is the exact due date of my first miscarriage in 2008 x

That is a cruel twist of fate, with the due dates, my due date would have been 11.11.11, very hard day as everyone was talking about how great it would be to be born on that day,while I was grieving my loss.

You are stronger than you think, having been through early pregnancy four times, just take each day as it comes. You will worry about every cramp, and check the toilet paper constantly but you will allow yourself to plan for the future the further into your pregnancy that you get.

And about the due date, what helped me was being pregnant with this little one at a time when I would have been expecting our little angel. If its some comfort then maybe its a very special connection between the two,rather than a negative connection.

I am 6 weeks pregnant after two miscarriages at 6 weeks in 2010. A very helpful tip from MN was to just keep thinking "today I am pregnant" and try not to allow your thoughts to run away with your sanity (incredibly hard I know). I have done tests about every 3 days and it has provided some reassurance but I know deep down it is a false sense of security as lots of things can happen that don't affect hormone production. I am going to seek a scan at 8 weeks as I think I'll go mad waiting til 12 but even then there are no guarantees. As others have said, we have no control over this and just have to keep busy and take one day at a time.

Hi girls thanks for your replys although I wouldnt wish MC on anyone its comforting to not feel alone in this.
Funch I have decided not to test again now as its just not worth the heartache and the relief will only be temporary until the next day.
More thankyou for your kind words deep down I think I know nothing anyone says will make me feel better its something only yourself can deal with in your own way isnt it. But speaking to others about it really helps especially as no one else knows yet.

Tilda I dont feel pregnant either and its worrying but I did diarys with both of my boys pregnancys and it would good to see symptoms didnt kick in until about 7 weeks so I think its normal. From 7 weeks with both of my boys I started being sick so it will come in time x

Sending you ladies as much zen as possible, we took three years to conceive and then had 2 miscarriages in a row. It is the most god awful thing and you feel so alone, but we're not. Eventually we were blessed with an amazing son, and am now 22 weeks pregnant with another child, no miscarriages in between. I think it is random, it is natures way of sparing us long pregnancies only to produce children who can't live, and the only thing we can take charge of is our own positive approach.
BTW my symptoms never kicked in til after 8 weeks so stay POSITIVE ladies!
xx

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks on the 17 November last year but am now 4 weeks pregnant and am terrified of it happening again this has made me feel a bit better that I'm not being silly or am alone in feeling like this

Totally normal, happened to me & I obsessed about symptoms until my scan, poking boobs to check if they were sore then getting sore boobs from poking them too much :) When I got to my scan I burst into tears as I thought the baby would be dead (I am quite a sane person usually!).
It is horrible but it does happen to a lot of people, however it is very few unfortunate people that it happens to repeatedly.

I am so sorry for all you ladies ho have bbeen through this too but nice to know I am normal in how I feel. I have woken up still worried but theres nothing I can do just wait and watch xx

Me too I feel so miserable its supposed to be such a happy time when you find out your pregnant but its not for me its just worry.

I hope you manage to get through the day I'm cooking a dinner and trying to keep busy to.

Keep in touch xx

I was in this situation this time last year after a MMC, went for a private scan at 8 weeks, I could not have waited until 12 weeks. Cost 60 I think, but well worth it (esp when they said it was twins!:)) for the reassurance.

i had private scan at 7 weeks +2 as i'd previously had a miscarriage at 12 weeks (most likely a blighted ovum so i wanted to know something was there). All looked great. Found out last week at my NT scan that baby died at 8+3. I don't regret the private scan. It reassures me that it was mostly likely a chromosomal problem as sonographer said baby was well attached and various other good things, heart beat was great etc. Also i found out i have good supply of eggs . However if i manage to conceive again i wont be having an early scan. It only reassures you for a little while.

Silver congrats on your twins amazing news!

Blackcat so sorry to hear of your second loss it must be devastating to think all is ok from the original scan and then its not . My heart goes out to you.

Today hasn't been to bad but I feel zero pregnancy symptoms which is quite normal for me until 6-7 weeks but still makes me anxious.

Thanks all for being there xx