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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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anyone else think pregnancy sucks?

23 replies

heliz · 23/01/2012 17:00

or am i the only one?

Im nealy 10 weeks pregnant and im already fed up with generally feeling unwell, sickness and constipation/diarrhea feeling faint and unhappy and upset at the tiniest of things.

Please tell me things get better...

Just want to feel im not alone

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KatAndKit · 23/01/2012 17:02

Hmm yes it does suck a lot of the time. For me it hasn't got any better either, in fact it has got worse! I am suffering all manner of aches and pains. However, I had a scan earlier which was nice and made up for all the crapness as it reminds you that it's all for a good cause!

gigglepin · 23/01/2012 17:05

It does get better for most people.

But then after loads of mcs, i would dearly love to be where you are

Maybe pregnancy sucks for you at the moment, but thats not the wording i would use tbh.

Hope you feel better soon, im sure you will.

surfmama · 23/01/2012 17:09

well it is a difficult one, I am wishing myself to the end and not enjoying the journey as I am so paranoid something is going to go wrong (it's taken us ages and ages and ages to get here) but want to enjoy it. for me i will put up with any ache pain or niggle and didn't even mind the sickness as it meant i was pregnant! there was a thread on here recently for 36+ and ages to go, which made me feel awful, I thought by then holding a wee bub in my arms would seem much nearer. anyway, good place to vent so don't feel alone, tell us all about your aches and pains and we will listen!

BellaCB · 23/01/2012 17:28

Hi Heliz - at your stage I hated being pg, and tbh that went on for another few months due to hideous ms until well into the 20ws. After I started to feel better I started to like it a little bit more but it is still not something I have enjoyed at all. I'm very excited to be having a baby as I sure you are too, but there hasn't really been anything about pg that I have enjoyed at all.

It's fine to feel as you do - and remember how hormonal you are at the moment! - and you certainly aren't alone. As surfmam says, use Mnet as a good place to come and vent about what is bothering or upsetting you. I can guarantee you won't be the only one with that complaint!

melliebobs · 23/01/2012 17:29

Things do get easier honest. I didn't have ms but did have nautia and real bad fatigue Which come 16 weeks disappeared. Tbh I think pregnancy has been a bit bloomin boring. Apart from a really bad uti babies been nice to me. I'm sure shell make up for it on the outside

Boomerwang · 23/01/2012 17:53

I was exactly the same as melliebobs. I feel sorry for those who have miserable symptoms all the way through their pregnancy, but they should be in the minority (I don't know?). I've felt absolutely fine since about 16 weeks.

loudee · 23/01/2012 18:05

heliz I am 9 weeks pregnant and i am shocked by how bad I feel. I've always been terrified of giving birth and as such didn't really give the symptoms bit of pregnancy any thought. It's shaken my confidence (such that it was) as I already feel like a failure for not enjoying it. of course at the same time realise how lucky I am to even be pregnant and panic constantly about something going wrong, it's just taking a LOT more adjusting to than I thought.

You aren't alone!

jasmine31 · 23/01/2012 19:15

heliz I can sympathise with a lot of what you are feeling. I am 7 weeks and really hoping it gets easier. It seems strange feeling so sick and tired when you don't really look any different on the outside. It's especially difficult feeling crappy without really being able to tell people why, especially at work.
Like loudee I wasn't really expecting to feel unwell during pregnancy so it has come as a shock. I was focusing more on the giving birth/getting big and having to avoid alcohol.
Being pregnant is very different to what I expected and I don't feel at all prepared. But then I feel guilty having negative thoughts about it when it was what I wanted and when other people have had such a difficult time getting to this point. I definitely need to develop a more positive attitude! I think having a scan (if it is good news) will make it seem more real and all worthwhile.

Cinquefoil · 23/01/2012 19:22

I hated pregnancy so much: felt awful all the way through it - barely human. I remember thinking that I would never go through it again - it really was dreadful and I was incapable and crap and sick all the way through. I felt so rubbish compared to people who could manage to do things like get out of the house.

Now DS is ten months old, and I'm already thinking I'd like another no matter how bad that time is . . .

stripeyZ · 23/01/2012 19:45

Yes it sucks!

It has been such hard work all the way through & completely took me by surprise. I'm one of the 'unlucky' ones though. 30 weeks now & still have MS, along with a big list various other complaints!

Roll on labour I say.

dreamc1 · 23/01/2012 19:49

I'm not enjoying pregnancy either, 29 weeks on Fri. First trimester was awful, major pressure on my bladder, couldn't walk for more than 2 mins without needing to pee, only once was a uti, had nausea on and off.
Now, my back is playing up- degeneration of discs, hip bloody sore, hoppling along and waddling.
Munchkin moving and kicking which is loverly and reassuring, but in the wrong places.
I'm looking forward to April when munchkin arrives, don't plan on doing this again. Too bloody uncomfortable.
Having said all that, I'm very grateful that munchkin is doing well, it's a very much wanted baby.

twolittlebundles · 23/01/2012 20:03

Heliz, my first pg was shite. I was hideously unprepared to feel that way, thought I would love it and then didn't for various reasons. I found a book called (predictably) Pregnancy Sucks- it helped me feel a bit better about not being joyous about the whole thing and gave me a few laughs too. Hoping you feel better soon (p.s- weeks 9-11 were the worst for me, so it may well get better) :)

BeeWi · 23/01/2012 20:07

Fingers crossed for you, heliz. For most it does get better. It certainly did for me. Had awful morning sickness in my first trimester; low points included throwing up in my bin just before having to teach my 'lively' bottom set of teenage boys, having to duck out of my room countless times to barf during other classes, chucking up outside the window of a PizzaHut just as I was walking by because the smell was too much and also nearly getting taken off a plane in Bangkok because I was turning myself inside out with throwing up (and it was only halfway through the journey). I was knackered too! But then my second trimester came along and it was a breeze...felt like after all the sickness and exhaustion and stress of the fist trimester had gone that I'd gained a new lease of life. And now, at coming up on 34 weeks I'm still fine.

I really hope it passes for you too and those who've still got it bad you have my utmost sympathy!

ilovedjasondonovan · 23/01/2012 20:11

Hated being preg the first time 9 (after a MC as well). Being sick 5+ times a day and working F/T was no fun.

But wanted DD1 to have a sibling, so put myself through it again.

The day DD2 popped out I was elated. I was so high (and no, I hadn't taken anything) for days after thinking 'hooray, I never have to be preg again'.

But it will get easier for you - for most epople around the 15 week mark things do improve. Hang on in there - its well worth it at the end of it all.

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heliz · 23/01/2012 20:27

Thank you so much for all the replies, they have made me feel alot better and give me hope that I will probably feel better after a few more weeks. :)

Obviously i am pleased to be pregnant and I know that it will all be worth it in the end, just wasnt prepared for how im feeling especially since this pregnancy came as a bit of a shock.

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CathFin · 24/01/2012 19:44

I'd just like to join in too, I don't enjoy pregnancy one bit but the end result it worth it. Otherwise I wouldn't be having my third!
Delightfully this time around I've got hyper salivation - gross!

It's good to have somewhere where you can vent!

Doodlegoogle · 24/01/2012 20:46

You're not the only one! I'm extremely grateful to be pregnant and wouldn't change that for the world. I'm also well aware that I could be having far worse problems and in many respects have been very lucky. However, I hate feeling ill and I'm sick of feeling this way too. I had no idea how tired I'd be and the constant nausea and faintness is incredibly dispiriting. I'm 14 weeks and for a brief couple of weeks thought I was past the initial stages and felt human again but alas its all back again now.

I'm sure it will be worth it and live in hope that it will fade again in a week or two.
My partner and I had been thinking we might ideally want 4 depending on how we cope but the thought of spending a year in first-trimester-dom is not appealing, particularly the thought of coping with looking after children whilst feeling like this!

Heres hoping we all feel better soon!

SausageSmuggler · 24/01/2012 21:00

I think so but it's something I keep quiet because I feel guilty about thinking so. This pregnancy has been pretty easy, as they go. In the early weeks it was the feeling of having a permanent hangover, then the SPD, the stretch marks, the inability to reach stuff I want to. There's so much more for me but I can't be bothered to think of them all. Thank god it's not forever and the end result is so worth it.

CathFin · 25/01/2012 07:19

Doodle - I had to get a long way past my last pregnancy to feel like doing it again, but there's nothing like the entertainment my kids provide every day and I know that once the baby arrives the pregnancy woes will fade pretty quickly!

Sausage - I try to only moan online - if anyone asks most of the time I just say 'I'm fine', which I mostly am, its just difficult losing so many aspects of what your body can normally do/eat!

HardCheese · 25/01/2012 07:26

Things may well get much better, OP, so don't lose hope. At ten weeks, I was still feeling sick, weary, and just appallingly fragile all the time, but things did settle down a lot. I'm 32 weeks now, and even though I have insomnia and am often very tired, I can honestly say I've enjoyed being pregnant - and the baby movements etc later on are exciting and make up for a lot of the needing to pee/tiredness/ligaments behaving oddly!

MillyStar · 25/01/2012 15:48

I'm 29 weeks and i'm fed up now i have been for a few weeks!

I've had no symptoms either no morning sickness or anything so i can't imagine how people who have 'difficult' pregnancies feel!!

I would never moan away from Mumsnet though, i've got friends desperatly trying to get pregnant and would kill to be in my position no matter how horrible it was, i know how lucky i am to have this miracle inside of me and every kick in the ribs makes it worth it, i'd do it a million times over for the little chubs in my tummy ;)

ArtyJennie · 25/01/2012 16:22

Yes- i hate being pregnant. I'm jealous of all the 'blooming' happy pregnant people who can get on with enjoying life. i'm 10.5 weeks. i'm puking every day, i can't enjoy anything i usually do (eating/gym/tv/out with friends/wine etc) I feel like i constantly am about to spew. I'm exhausted but can't sleep due to feelings of spew! I basically feel like every day is the hangover of hell. My last preg was the same and went on for 20 weeks. I am never having any more children after this one. Rant over! :)

Zanzicat · 25/01/2012 18:52

I also don't like it. Am obviously delighted to be pregnant, especially after previous loss but I just find the whole process so stressful and anxiety provoking. Added to that the sickness that has gone on throughout virtually whole pregnancy - am 32 weeks, the exhaustion, back pain etc etc, for me it's just a means to an end to get my baby here safely.

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