am i mad for wanting baby no 7 part 2

[gemcgem]

hi im a mum to 6 want to be mummy to 7 !
my DH works full time , we own our own home , and have been married for 11 years in june .
BUT all mine and his family have TOLD us "dont you dare have any more"
but i really want another baby , i just love been pregnant , giving birth and breast feeding .
we dont ask for any help off any one , i can count on one hand how many times we've been out on our own in the last 11 years . should we listen to every body else or go with OUR hearts ??
i just dont want people to reject our baby , and im scared of how many " OH NO'S" we'll get instead of congrates .

im re posting because i recived so many negative responces from "how can you afford it " to " your children will grow up feeling unloved because you carn't possable spend enough time or give them enough atenttion "

"why did i post " becuse i love to hear what "normal " people make of my "un normal " family !!
i dont just loves babies , you'd think id learn on here to explain my self better !
i love the hole package , watching them grow , who they will all be . i carn't wait to cook sunday lunch for all my grown children and there children , i will be the proudist mum / grandma.
and my older children , DO NOT parent there younger siblings ,( i possible ask them to pass me a baby wipe from time to time) if anything im allways been told i do to much for the older ones , i love to be busy !! i carn't sit still , and to me ( this will get me some more stick ) children ARE NOT hard work ,we have a great night time routine, they all sleep through the night and have since 4 to 6 weeks of age!!
i do 2 loads of washing a day and love sorting out there out grown colths , it brings back lovley menories .
we dont have familiy days out every weekend but we do at least once a month , we enjoy going to the pictures, bowling , going to the seaside , football matchs.
they all do out of school actitives too .
its what i do and i do it great ! if a singer sings well they bring out more ablums , if a actor acts great they make more movies , so if i can and do bring beautiful well rounded , caring , sharing children in to the world AND we ( me and DH) can provid for them should it really be a problem ??

i asked all my children one to one " do you feel unloved because theres 6 of you ?" they all answerd NO , "i love you mummy and you love me and i love all my bros and sis's" . with the exception of my 11 year old who said " no because you wont buy me a tiger" just proves how spoilt he is . lol.

also do parent's who both work 9 till 5 with there children in care , do they provid enough attention for there 2 children ??

my question in the thread is " should people reject a baby because its number 7 and not 2 ?? " NOT do i love my children and can i afford them , if i couldnt and dont, i wouldnt have any more full stop !

p.s sorry for the spelling , i hope you dont judge me as a person on my tpying grammer , im a bit old school .

nope cause from as far back as i can rember i allways said i wanted 7 ( think it was beauty and the beast , caston wanted" 6 or 7 straping lads" ) my gran used to say "wait till you'v had 1 then you'll change your mind" she's eating her words now :) 7 is just my magic number , some little girls want 2/3 i allways said 7 .

I think you sound like a great mum and there's no reason why people should tell you not to have any more. If all your children are loved and cared for then I don't see why not. This is my first pregnancy and it's been rough but I can tell you that I already can't wait to have more. Don't let anyone tell you it's not right to have 7 follow your heart!

Good luck!! :)

I think you are mad but only because I also think I am mad for wanting no.3 :o

Seriously though, only you can decide whether it's right for you to go for no7, and if you're up to the challenge ;) then go for it. Basically what I mean is make your decision on what is right for you, not what other people think.

I always said I'd have 2 or 4. I've currently got 3 do I either give give one back or go for number 4!
I come from a large family so not much was said when I went from 2-3.
If the children are loved, well cared for and you have the time and patience to cope then where's the problem I think.

I'm not entirely sure why you felt the need to start a second post asking exactly the same question.

Especially since it appears you're not interested in any response that goes against what you've already apparently made up your mind to do.

If you want 7 children then fine.

I must say I resent the implication that parents who put their children in nursery are somehow not capable of giving their children as much love as those that are with them all the time.

Hi gem, i read your 1st thread, didn't comment, as it seemed pointless really, you seem set on having no.7 so whats the point?

I am going to be honest, yes, i think you are batshit for wanting 7 kids.
You say you are a good mum, i can not dispute this, but you only have your opinion on this, none of your children are teenagers yet, so can not give you a reasonable answer to how they feel their childhood has been.

I do not think that anyone who has an extensive number of children can do their best for each child, i just don't.
Logically you do not have a lot of time for 1-1 time with each child, that just gets worse the more you have.
The more children you have, the more stressful and unfair it becomes on them, you, support if you suddenly can not look after them, either physically, or financially, nothing is ever certain, and the risks get heftier with each child.

And really, on a personal level, i find it sad that you appear to have nothing else but your children to keep you happy, i mean it is great you don't find children hard work but maybe this is why i truely think you won't be fufilled with no.7 when they get to 2-3 yrs old and will start wanting another 'baby' to mother.
If you had something else, like a hobby or Volunteer position or god forbid a small PT job that got you outside the house you wouldn't feel the need to keep on having children to satisfy you.

I think you really need to look at why all you want to do is raise babies.
Im not saying its wrong, but i think it is unhealthy to only have this in your life.

Good luck OP.

i dont know why but all i ever wanted was to be a mum !?!? may seem wrong to some , but i get what your all saying , and yes i must have some switch i carnt turn of like other people , i do sometimes wish i could life would be easier sometimes with out the "pang" .
thanks for all the messages and it gives me a feel insight into what people local to me must be saying .
i may be mad , but thats me

maybe i do need another hobby

Why are you posting this again? You don't listen to your respective families, who presumably do know you, so why would you bother listening to us?

Well obviously you're not listening to us, hence the new thread.

Yes we've heard it all before, how much you love your children. You're beginning to sound like Peter Andre.

Comparing yourself to a singer putting out albums is madness. Absolute madness. If by your own admission you do a good job, why not focus on the ones you have and continue to do a good job with them? Why the need to do it time and again to show what a good job you're doing? That's the part I find utterly bizarre. Your dc aren't projects that are finished the moment you feel the need for another baby. Also, you mention other people having a switch that turns off when they're done. Actually, I've read many many threads on here over the years where posters say that that longing never really goes away. It's biological. But most people listen to their head over their hormones, and realise they have to stop at some point. I am one of 5 and even though we were fairly spaced out, there was just not enough of anything to go around, materially or emotionally. If you can honestly provide everything tht each of your dc needs in that respect (emotionally and time-wise rather than materially) then good luck to you. Most wouldn't be able to.

thanks i love pete why am i posting again if you read the opening thread you'll find your answer , i didnt explain myself well enough in my 1st thread and had people thinking i was a baby mad looney , i wanted to explain my self abit better , but it seems im still a baby mad looney , who needs help and a hobbie

Starting a second thread seems a bit attention seeking tbh.

Why don't you give it a go on the AIBU board? May be more fitting than on a pregnancy bard if it is you're genuinely in love with having a bigger family rather than just being pregnant/having babies.