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Can I ask- when or did you stop having sex before birth?

22 replies

helgaw99 · 19/01/2012 13:27

Hi all,
32 weeks today and am quite aware that DH and I haven't done the deed for the last two weeks. I have been so tired and getting increasingly uncomfortable. Also last time we did, baby got very involved iyswim- lots of kicking and moving around which kind of put me off my stride!!
I am kind of thinking we should just get on with it, as in a few more weeks I really won't want to- Have any of you got to a point where you have thought- "thats it, no more until it's out!". Poor old DH, I feel a bit sorry for him, he is being brill though.
Hx

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FeathersMcGraw · 19/01/2012 13:30

erm, with DD1 we did the deed and I went into labour a few hours later (we didn't do it for that reasons!!), she was born the next morning.

with DD2 I was induced and again went pretty much until the end....

TopazMortmain · 19/01/2012 13:39

38 weeks, last week we did and not doing it again as far as I can see. Am too fat, sick, hormonal, it caused some bleeding which freaked me out and feel about as attractive as a vomiting walrus. Am sure I should be glowing smugly. But am not.

surfmama · 19/01/2012 14:01

oh my you sound like you've all done brilliantly, we haven't done it since finding out - currently 18 weeks and a bit. I feel like pants and oh says he feel funny about it, which is really sweet. just doing other things but actualy that's been only once... probably won't and don't really miss it...

patsdeadfrank · 19/01/2012 14:43

i tend to use sex as a bring the baby out kind of deal so have it right up until the gates open so to speak. also i am a right horn bag when pregnant.

ShesAStar · 19/01/2012 15:26

I'm 36 nearly 37 weeks and we are still having fab sex! We did it right to the end with DS and unless anything untoward happens we will be doing it until the end with this one - also since you can't have it for a while afterwards I am making the most of it!

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helgaw99 · 19/01/2012 16:16

I do agree that we should be making the most of it- right- action stations!!

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notso · 19/01/2012 16:23

With DS1 I went off it completely and funnily enough he was overdue.
With DD, DS2 and this time I was/am a right randy old thing, DH can't believe his luck, we have had more sex now I am pg that it took to get pg.
DD was born on her EDD, DS2 was two weeks early, we shall see with this one.

melliebobs · 19/01/2012 17:49

Pretty much 2-3 weeks after we found out

sleeplessinderbyshire · 19/01/2012 17:57

15 weeks done it once since we found out. was too sick tiol secently and now DH says he's freaked out by the fact there's a person in there. we didn't DTD at all when I was pregnant last time

roseum · 20/01/2012 00:22

40+4 and still having sex - definitely not gone off DH, or he me. Probably more sex now I am on maternity leave, as I'm not as tired as I was in the last weeks when I was working. No idea whether it will help bring on labour though. Does help me go to sleep

PotteringAlong · 20/01/2012 00:37

Had a month off - last had sex at 41 weeks, started again 3 weeks post birth.

BUT there's no right and wrong here, it's what feels good and right for you and your DH /DP. Don't worry about us lot!

lucyfluff · 20/01/2012 09:33

Oh god tried it last nite...30+3...the lack of suitable positions is getting pretty bad!! Sorry TMI!! Were trying to do side facing one another and the bump is definatly in the way and still wriggling!!

I also find it quite painful when I reach the magic orgasm!! Does anyone else get this or me just being wierd?!? and after he gives me braxton hicks for at least 5 mins!!

Really not lost the sex drive but actually think I want to give up now still with quite a while to go :(((

lucy x

TinkerMaloo · 20/01/2012 10:38

does sex always have to be penetrative? sometimes when you are big just a bit of mutual touching can be much easier lol.

orgasms towards the end did get a bit painful for me too lucy

with my last pregnancy i was horny as hell a lot and managed to keep at it, (though very rarely penetrative) til the end. but so far with this one i dont want him anywhere near me... im only 6 weeks though and feel like crap, hopefully the second trimester will be more productive...

ShowOfHands · 20/01/2012 10:42

It's a personal thing. No right or wrong, only right or wrong for the people involved.

Sex won't start labour btw, those people who were pondering.

Fo0ffyShmo0ffer · 20/01/2012 10:46

41 weeks but we had an ulterior motive which was to Get. Her. Out.
Didn't work by the way.

Do you instinctively want to though? If you are doing it to get it out of the way then I just wouldn't. If you do it because it's something you have missed and really want to do then dont let anything hold you back. Just have a go.

oreocrumbs · 20/01/2012 10:49

IIRC we kept going all the way to the end, not as frequent but I'm sure we did.

Also afterwards I was practically begging DP for sex from quite early on - he wasn't so keen having been slightly more traumatised than me by the birth !

But you just do what you feel like doing, and try and get comfy.

purpleflower123 · 20/01/2012 10:49

We continued all the way through. With DD2 I was in early labour last time we did with light contractions every 10 mins, as soon as we stopped and I stood up they started coming every 3 minutes and much stronger. She was born a couple of hours later

notso · 20/01/2012 12:08

Ooh! A labour shag, that is hard core purpleflower123.

horseynewmum · 20/01/2012 12:22

i've not had ssex since we found out as the sickness is very off putting. travelling is the worst set off so dont think sex is much better movement LOL

purpleflower123 · 20/01/2012 12:30

I was desperate to get her out! It worked

If the contractions had been closer or more painful there would've been no way on earth I'd have let him near.

LittleWhiteWolf · 20/01/2012 13:09

With DD we had sex quite regularly before she was born, although once I got a bump we had to experiment with positions. With DC2 I got a bump much quicker which caused some manouvering issues, this babys much more active which is a little off putting, we've had a toddler going through phases of not sleeping and just generally I haven't felt much like it. The last time we had sex was on Christmas Day (although I have to say that was pretty darn good). Am 30 weeks now and am feeling so rotten that I can't fathom having sex again until after this baby is born! Well, maybe around the due date to see if that helps get things moving. Is all about the practicalities rather than the romance for me

However DH and I are still intimate; we cuddle in bed and we kiss a lot (when I'm not in a grump...which is rare these days admittedly) so its not as if we've completely neglected that side of our relationship!

Bicnod · 20/01/2012 13:13

DH and I did the deed at 40+1 with DS2 (like purpleflower I was desperate to get him out!) and he was born the next day

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