Anyone found out sex when hospital policy won't allow?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

ds has ASD and is expecting a girl. Our lives will be he'll if it isn't and we will need to prepare him. Is there any way round this that doesn't cost money?

Did the hospital give you a leaflet or something saying they wouldn't tell you the gender? I got one that was quite strongly worded 'this is an anomaly scan, NOT a gender scan, you won't be finding out, don't bother the technician about it because it's not going to happen' etc etc etc. Perhaps not exactly those words, but that was definitely the sentiment! I went in thinking I wouldn't be finding out, but was pleasantly surprised when the technician said 'would you like to know the sex?'

I think the strong wording was to stop people coming in and getting very het up if they weren't able to tell the gender.

There are usually private scan companies which will tell you for a fee, such as baby bond.

Thank you.

Yes I know I coukd go private, but quite apart from not having the money right now, I would not subject this baby to an additional scan.

Grrrrrrr.

Perhaps you could try just explaining the situation to the sonographer at your scan, it can't hurt to ask.

ummmmmmm then if the its not hospital policy and you dont want to go private not sure how you will swing it. you can prob ask at the scan. if its painfully obvious then they may well say, but it isnt always a sure thing given the position of the baby, even if the hospital was willing to tell. so what would you have done then?

it can be obvious, even to the untrained eye. Both my boys were clearly boys iykwim I agree that it can't hurt to ask, I think a lot of sonographers can get het up if people go in just wanting to know the sex and pester while the sonographer is concentrating on actual diagnostics, but once that's all done and dusted, my sonographer asked if I wanted to know, even though by that stage I already knew. I think it might be harder to confirm a girl yourself though.

Pats, I can always seem to manoeuvre my babies into whatever position is needed.

I suppose to us those the sex IS what we are going for. There is no result that would lead us to abort and having a child with ASD it isn't as if we see clear scans as some kind of guarantee.

To be fair, I don't think most people see the scan as looking for conditions to abort. Far better if an anomoly is picked up at a scan which you can then prepare yourself for surely? So you are going for more than just finding out the sex.