Hello,
I won't go into the details of why I have got to this stage but my husband has been so unsupportive, dismissive and generally an arse all the way through my pregnancy that I now feel stressed and on egg shells if he is even in the same room as me.
I am not sure if we can work things out but, regardless of that, I really do not want him near me during labour. I can just imagine the comments he will come out with and frankly I would rather have a friend or a doula as I know I can trust them to be a supportive birth partner.
But can I ask for him not to be there? Obviously as soon as the baby is born I would love for him to see her and bond with her (if he can get it together enough to do that) but will not being at the birth make that harder? I don't really care if he's pissed off with me as I think I need to do whatever makes me more relaxed but I don't want to undermine his relationship with her.
Any advice greatly appreciated.