feeling down at the drop of a hat

[Rachy1983]

Hi
I am 19 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I am 28 and work full time.
I just want to talk with you ladies about how I am getting upset at the slightest thing, which i totally know is normal, however I am also finding I am unable to deal with or cope with situations I would normal sail through.

I am having some problems with a work colleague who, up until a week ago, was a close friend.

She seems to have taken a dislike to me and I can only think this is due to the amount of time i have off sick from work but it is all pregnancy related! It may also be because i am pregnant and she cant have children.

Whatever the reason is I am struggling to get into work every day as I feel so low and she is my work partner so i sit opposite her. she is constantly making comments on everything I say, when I ask questions about our job (im still in training really) she gets shirty but previously was more than happy to help.the list goes on when it comes to changes in her behaviour towards me.

Normally I would confront her but I just cannot face her deniying it or whatever I just want to hide behind my front door.

xx

Feeling up and down is normal, yes, but if you're not coping or you're not having 'ups' then talk to your MW. They need to rule out antenatal depression and can put support system in place for you.

Re: work collegue, you have 2 choices. Assume she's struggling with your happy news and let her be, or just sit down and talk to her. If she continues to be an arse, is there anyone at work that you can talk to about the scenario?

I can empathise with the "time off work" paranoia. Mine wasn't baby-related, but I hated it, and it made me 400x worse (depression and cripplingly bad migraines). It really does spiral down, so please, talk to your MW or GP and get some support. We're always here for you too.

Hi OP, sorry to hear about your problems.

If this only started a week ago it could be that there is something else going on in her life that is making her snippy and unpleasant.

You are, as you say, much more likely to be feeling sensitive right now (you wouldn't believe some of the things that make me cry at the moment), so stuff that might normally go over your head/be water off a duck's back is naturally going to upset you more.

Maybe if you were friends before you could ask her if she's OK, just say 'You don't seem your normal happy self' or whatever, even if she denies it/doesn't want to talk about it she might realise that she's being a cow and ease up a bit.

Agree with Oeisha that you should speak to your MW or doctor if this isn't the only thing getting you down though.