Anybody else's OH really annoying them?

[missduff]

I'm 9 weeks pg n my DP keeps pissing me off, and to be fair, it's usually really minor things.

He annoys me if he's not here, he annoys me when he is here, I HATE it if he has a beer or a fag. I had a paddy because he wouldn't get me chocolate cake at 11.20pm, when I say get me cake I wanted him to go out and get me some!
Everything he does just pisses me off!

Before I got pregnant I was totally in love, never argued, soooo happy, if I had a problem I would discuss it with him like an adult.

There is a more serious side to this tho, now that I feel like this it's making me doubt our whole relationship, our future together and whether I want to go through with this pregnancy.

I've got a 2yo DS and I split with his dad when I was pregnant but that was a long time coming, we weren't good before I got pg and he went off the rails so we ended it.

I know a lot of how I'm feeling is probably based on my past experience, I know I have a lot of fear, in fact I'm scared of everything. Scared that we won't manage financially, scared that we'll split up and I'll end up on my own with 2 kids.

I've tried talking to him about it but I don't think he really takes it that seriously, he just tells me that we'll be fine.

I wanted to get pregnant but now that I am I'm doubting the decision, but then I know that if I didn't keep the baby i'd regret it massively. DP is the best thing to ever happen to me and I don't want to throw everything away.

Please can someone just tell me that how I'm feeling is normal?

It is normal and your DP is telling you you'll be fine because you will u just need to start believing it x

I went right off my OH just before Xmas, which I think is when I conceived, ironically!! Just found out today that am pregnant but I nearly walked out before Christmas as he was soooo annoying!!!! xx

Do not underestimate the power of hormones!! They're crazy, crazy things that mess with your head and body and emotions!

Don't panic, and don't make any decisions whilst you're feeling like this. It isn't a true feeling anyway, and will pass.

Take some time for yourself and go with the flow. I explained to my DH that I may behave oddly and he understands and takes me with a pinch of salt!

Good luck

Yep, hormones. I was really pissed of with DH for the first 6 months at least. DD is due in 4 weeks and I'm feeling quite peaceful now. Now idea when he stopped being annoying though.

I've been annoyed with my DH for the duration of this pregnancy!

I'm really pissed off with him ATM as he's just called to say he's going to the pub after work Nevermind that I've been throwing up all day, looking after DC too and he knows I need to do some work from home tonight. He's so bloody inconsiderate and I'm annoyed at FIL for asking to meet him for a bloody drink after work!!! Don't they know I'm pregnant! Lol!

Yes, I keep glaring at my OH behind his back and wishing he would just spontaneously combust or something. And I know it's nothing he's done, he's lovely and good-temperered as always, it's just me being irritable. Sounds like your OH is doing his best and it's probably just hormones.

I mean, not just hormones - that sounded a bit dismissive. You obviously have proper reasons to stress too, because of past history, but just because you're feeling stressed right now doesn't mean there is a problem with your oH.

Yup. He's being lovely (If I was in a rational, non hormonal frame of mind), god bless him he's just trying to make me feel better.

Yet all it does is wind me up!!! Grrr.

I know it will pass when these bodily changes settle down - fortunately he knows that, otherwise I'm sure he'd be getting mighty pissed off

apart from being obsessed with my boobs, no not really :) lol
sometimes it can be annoying when he goes in for the occassional grope randomly but he says he loves them and if they keep him happy then its all good!!

I felt like that with DH when DS was a newborn (he's now almost 2).

Looking back on it I do blame the hormones... now that I'm pregnant DH can be annoying again, but I do blame these new hormones

I know that isn't very helpful, but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone!

offers around slices of chocolate cake to everyone

Thanks everyone, I do feel a little better now and tonight I've tried to ignore the hormones.
I think it's also not helping that we hardly have sec anymore as I'll go to bed at 9pm and he doesn't join me till about midnight, if he dares to try and touch me up I tell him to do one!
Also hardly have a cuddle in the evening as he's usually having a beer and the smell knocks me sick.
Tonight I calmly asked him not to have a beer and he agreed, so we've now had a cuddle and I feel much better, amazing what a difference a cuddle can make

So glad it isn't just me, my poor husband is trying his best as well and all I seem to do is give him grief, glad it seems to be fairly normal and hormones tend to be responsible, I was all worried we were going to split up or something because everything he does at the minute drives me mad

lalabaloo I could have just written what you wrote word for word. DP is the kindest, sweetest, most thoughtful guy I have ever known and he is bending over backwards for me at the moment, waits on me hand and foot and then I'll snap at him over nothing and make a big drama out of absolutely nothing.
I apologised tonight for being so difficult at the moment and he said 'it's ok I just ignore you' lol. He doesn't really ignore me but at least it's nice to know he's not taking it to heart.
Luckily he had 2 kids with a woman who was hard work even when she wasn't pregnant so that probably gave him some good training. Lol