Sex and (very) early pregnancy

[Littlecherublegs]

Hope this isnt too much of a stupid question?!

Im about 4 weeks pregnant and we havent had sex since we had our BFP at the weekend. I'm not feeling particularly 'in the mood' at the mo (prob more to do with an annoying cold I have) but I just wondered if/when I do, is it ok to have sex?
ie. I couldnt harm the baby? Cause a MC? etc?

Im worrying more because I have had a couple of MC's before and would rather abstain than risk doing anything that might mean I have to go through that again.

If it is safe (which Im presuming it is), is it ok to have sex throughout the entire pregnancy or is there a 'cut-off' point where its best not to?

Sorry to ask - this is my first DC and I know Im going to have a million+1 silly questions!! some more!!

Thanks in advance!!

Sex won't harm your baby unless your partner has a 15 inch willy (well done to you if that's the case)

Sex will not cause a healthy pregnancy to miscarry and you 'should' be able to enjoy a healthy sex life throughout pregnancy.

I had a bleed at 6 weeks and they advise me to abstain for 2 weeks whilst things settle down, I think sex aggravates your cervix so best not for it to get a battering if you've been bleeding.

If you're worried then you could always abstain from penetration until you've spoken with the midwife - she will tell you exactly the same but you'll feel more confident if it comes from her. Plenty of fun to be had with foreplay and oral sex!

Cut off point is, I believe, when your waters break - risk of infection.

It's not a stupid question, if you've not had a baby before then how would you know all the answers? You can buy a lot of good pregnancy guides - I downloaded the mumsnet one which I found funny and informative.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I'm not surprised you're scared after your mcs so don't think you're being silly.

Impatientwino thank you sooooo much for your reply - made me smile as well as making me feel a lot better (and less silly!)

I think Im just being overly cautious after having a previous MC. Though by the sounds of it, sex is fine (when Im back in the mood for it - which will be very soon hopefully!!)

Thanks also for the congrats - cant believe Im pregnant!! Am soooooo excited!!

I have found it feels quite painful and I'm just over 6 weeks. This has never happened before :( so have been really put off. Have you found similar, was worried this was natures way of warning me off! Reading the above makes me realise that's daft

With any early bleeding they suggest you refrain from sex, to help rule out cervical errosion as a likely cause (what they did with me), but beyond that, go for it...when you feel like it...a lot of women go off sex throughout pregnancy, many just in 1st trimester but they get it back (oh gods, the 2nd trimester sex dreams are funny...watch out for them).