Pregnant or not?

[Cupcake1124]

Ok, so I need advice ladies!
I am 8 weeks late, I've done a few pregancy tests but can't seem to get a conclusive result. One day its negative, then no result at all, then positive and now back to negative. Has anyone else experienced this? And if so...were you pregnant?

No I haven't. But as far as I know, you can't get a false positive. I'd go to the doctor and get tested conclusively. It's worth bearing in mind that if you are 12 weeks pregnant - which you could be if your period is that late - your body will stop producing the hormone that a home pregnancy kits tests for. In other words, I'd test negative now - even though I can see the nearly-cooked baby jigging around inside me!

Good luck!

I know nothing about pregancy or what to be looking for. :(
I've been to the doctor, but have to go back with an early morning sample. Can anyone tell me what common symptoms are? I really just need reassurance from women who have gone through this

hi cupcake

there is no such thing as a false positive so if you have had positive pregnancy tests then you are or have recently been pregnant.

when i was pregnant with my DD i had a few days of this but i had only missed 1 period. i would definitely test with first morning urine and take the sample to your GP to be referred for a scan.

how do you feel about being pregnant? by the tone of your OP and subsequent messages i assume it is not something you expected? we are here to talk if you need to

There is something called the hook effect where the amount of hcg in your wee can flood the test and create a negative, even though you could be.

When was your last period? Were they regular before this? Some early pregnancy symptoms, sickness feeling sick tender boobs dry mouth horrible taste in mouth gone off food tired..... The list could go
on, take your first morning sample in and let the dr test, could you not make an appointment the gp could feel your tummy.

Hope you get an answer either way soon x

It really varies from person to person - I had loads of symptoms and felt like utter crap, but some people feel fine. A friend of mine didn't know she was pregnant until 5 months in!

I had:
swollen, tender boobs and tingly nips
extreme tiredness
nausea and vomiting - it felt like motion sickness
food aversions
swollen belly - my trousers got really tight
A bit of cramping - like period pains

Some people just feel like they have PMT, so it's hard to go on symptoms alone. Are your periods normally irregular?

If you think you may be pregnant, your GP could refer you to an early pregnancy unit for a scan - that would be able to show if there is a foetus and how old it is, so date your pregnancy. Depending on how it all goes, you'll then be referred to a midwife.

It's really hard to have to wait. I hope it works out the way you want it to. Let us know!

You're right, this isn't expected. The father and I have split and he is now with the woman he is cheating on me with. Just as I was starting to move on with my life I have been dragged back and now have to face him again. He knows what's going on and has told me he will be there for the baby but has no feelings for me and my heart has been broken all over again :(

the symptoms I have are complete loss of appetite, boobs feel bruised, feel sick and acid reflux sensatation, peeing all the time and no energy just wanting to lie down and sleep. I also have a history of a twisted fallopian tube and now im starting to panic myself by thinking that this is why it's not showing on a pregnancy test.

thank you SO much for your quick responses I really really do need them x

My last period was 1st week of November
I do have bad cramping and an almost sharp stabbing pain where my ovary is.
Do you think I could just ask for a scan so I could have a definate answer?

I think you should get this investigated urgently to rule out the possibility of ectopic pregnancy. It probably isn't that, but given you have an issue with one of your tubes, abdominal cramping and pains, and inconclusive pregnancy test results, the best thing to do would be to get it checked out as soon as you can.

Definitely! No period for that length of time plus your history means you should have no trouble getting referred. My sister had abdo pains and got a scan (turned out she was just constipated ).

I agree, you need a scan to rule out ectopic pregnancy with your symptoms and med history. Emphasise to your GP that you had a twisted tube, they won't read your med history from scratch so wont be aware unless you tell them.

Could that be why im having such mixed results??

My ex thinks im making the whole thing up to try and get him back (i'm not, I can't bear the sight of him)

A positive test followed by a negative without a miscarriage inbetween is also a possible indicator of ectopic. I'm not trying to freak you out, the likelihood is either that everything is fine or alternatively that you aren't pregnant. But always better to be safe than sorry.
book an urgent gp appointment, or phone the EPAU of your hospital. If you have severe pain get down to A&E promptly.
As I say, ectopic is rare and it probably won't be that but you do need to be sure.

:(
I'm due back at the doc on Monday so I'll keep on til I can get a scan.

Thanks so much for all your advice :)

Any advice on what I should do about him?

Sounds like an ectopic does need to be ruled out.
No need to be scared but a scan looks like the best way forward.

Your GP should have no trouble referring you to an epu if you let them know all the symptoms you have and let them know your history.

Sounds like the next few days might be a bit difficult for you but hang in there.

About him? About your ex?
I would just concentrate on making sure you (and the baby?) are fine.

When that bit is confirmed it coud give clues as to how to handle the father.

Haven't been on for a few days. It was an ectopic, the baby is gone :(
I KNEW in my heart I was pregnant and now...im absolutely devastated.

Oh no so sorry. How are you feeling x

Really sorry to hear that, cupcake. How sad. Your devastation is at your loss, and I think you need to be kind to yourself and give yourself lots of time to come to terms with everything that's happened - there's lots for you to deal with. I hope you have some good, understanding shoulders to cry on in RL. Look after yourself x

I'm sore, very sore.
Tbh I feel like a complete failure that my only real job in life is to be a mummy and I couldn't carry my wee one properly. I'm at a loss I don't know what more to say. I do, I have my friends and they have been brilliant. Thankyou x

Oh I am so sorry it has turned out this way for you :(
It wasn't that you couldn't carry the baby properly, it isn't your fault there is nothing you could have done. It's just one of those shitty bad luck things.

Hope you are getting good support from friends and family - take care of yourself xx

Hugs cupcake. Take heart!

Life can be a *itch! Don't take it personally. An ectopic does not reflect on your ability to be a mummy (which I do not think is your only utility in life). It is one of the flukes of nature. You had no way of controlling/avoiding this.

But I am guessing yoiu have heard this loads already. Have some chocolate, tea and biscuits. Cry a little, not too much and cut yourself some slack.

Hope you've got someone around!

Oh Cupcake I am so sorry :(
This in no way, shape or form your fault. Unfortunately it is just one of things, especially with an ectopic. Have you been offered counselling?
The ladies on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board are wonderful, I also found this website really helpful. Please be kind to yourself and grieve as you need to.

I'm so sorry, feel really bad for you :( Please don't blame yourself, as everyone says it's just one of those (very sad) things.