Bear with me. I am 17 weeks pregnant with dc 2. First pregnancy was entirely uncomplicated medically and despite being sick for 22 weeks I never missed one day of work and was working full time and commuting 3+ hours a day on public transport.
This time, it has not really been so straightforward. From very early in the pregnancy, I have had back pain that has been at times incredibly severe. At 9 weeks, the pain was so intense and all over and contraction-like I was in A and E where the doctors took one look at me and said sorry, sweetheart, you are miscarrying. It was worse than labour, I have never felt anything like it.. but in the end the baby was okay though my back flares up with no warning every 2-3 days while other times it is fine. Seeing physio about this.. I was signed off for the month of December because of it.
When I went off, my manager and I discussed what would happen when I would come back. I was due to take on extra sessions which had been agreed and I said I felt I would have to drop at least one of these, as I am also doing work-related MSc.
I train people at NVQ level and have to make up 11 2 hour sessions for the month I missed. This means that I have to work two late evenings, and on those days I am out of the house from 6am to 8pm because of the commute and having to do the rest of my job. I am contracted to work 22.5 hours but this will take me to 27.5 at work and I have lost the session I used to mark student work, which means I will have to do this at home as I was "paid" for it last term (even though I was off ill?).
I am also being asked to do one session in a new location even further away, which will be a four hour round trip commute for me.
It's just dawning on me that while I will be paid to work three days this term, I will have to work four to make up for the time I was off ill. And actually I'm not that well... it seems a bit mad actually. I know everyone has to catch up when they've been off, but I have to do all this and take on another session in another location and get paid less for it, all because I was sick? I have never been off.
To top it all off, I haven't been able to go back to work this week as I have randomly been struck down with a chest infection (and as have been hospitalised for severe asthma in the past, this is a dicey thing for me, especially as the doctor wants me to fight it out without steroids for sake of baby while my oxygen levels are okay).
It is all such a mess. What should I do?