Ah, the unwanted comments begin.

[FutureNannyOgg]

I'm 10 weeks now, and apparently it's noticeable.

Was in Tesco today and the checkout assistant asked me "how long do you have to go?" and then (DS was in the trolley) "I expect you want a girl this time around?"

Well firstly it's none of his business, and I'm also a bit mortified that I look pregnant enough that a stranger would presume, I was in an outdoor coat and everything.

I was a bit vague like I didn't understand the question (I was a bit thrown tbh) then said something about just wanting a healthy baby, but I was sorely tempted to pretend not to be pregnant at all.

I lost my last pregnancy, so I am a bit in denial as it is, I don't really want to talk about it to anyone, let alone random strangers. I also really wish people didn't assume it's ok to comment on a pregnancy uninvited.

I'm just a grumpy cow aren't I?

HA! sorry clandy that made me laff out loud. How could people be so rude? don't they have a filter between their brain and gob?

I know! I was mortified and cried

I remember coming into work when I was pregnant and seeing a (slightly less pregnant) colleague, who greeted me with "Oh thank goodness, I was feeling all huge and pregnant this morning, until I saw you. Thanks, so glad to be of help.

I wonder whether people in general just don't understand what a late pregnancy bump looks like - most pregnancy models seem to be about 6 months (pre cankles, obviously) and I wonder if people who aren't used to seeing heavily pregnant women simply don't "get" it. I was always measuring on dates, but people always said how big I looked. I am fairly short in the waist though, so maybe I just stuck out more.

I loved one of the comments I had in work after I'd started letting people know. One of the blokes that I've known for years who's always been a sarky git turned to me and said, so are you planning on having it normally or for it to burst out of your stomach "Alien" style. My reply? "We'll see what happens". He was really pleased that I didn't take offence (although if he'd been nice & sincere, I'd have asked him if his missus had killed him and exchanged him for a Stepford BF).

I had a man I knew from work stop me when I was around 8 and a half months pregnant last time to tell me he was sure I was having a girl because his wife was nowhere near as big when pregnant with his son. He said she didn't gain weight anywhere else just had a nea bump whereas I was HUGE, I mean seriously it was all on my face and everywhere I'd really puffed up hadn't I!

Made me feel great as you can imagine!

I'm due in April and have an 8 month old. Just gone back to work for a few weeks before I start mat leave again. I'm generally easy going and wasn't offended at the usual comments last time but you can imagine the comments this time, mainly "are you mad? That will be hard work!" (I know that) and "was it planned?" (No but good news now we're used to the idea :) ). The first type get me down most as I think "if you haven't anything nice to say please don't comment", the second type of questions are really personal and often asked by people who don't even know me so it's hard to answer honestly without feeling I've betrayed my baby before it's even born :(

I know a lady who has baby twins and a toddler, and her Dr told her, every time he saw her "you know 3 under 5s is my definition of insanity". Great, really helpful...

You're not being grumpy, OP - those comments are irritating and intrusive. Frankly, I think pregnant women should be a lot more grumpy, if it would contribute to lessening the stream of inane drivel you end up dealing with, almost always from strangers or people who hardly know you.

I am almost always thrilled to be having this baby - my first - and I've generally enjoyed the pregnancy, but that doesn't mean I have to be Little Mary Sunshine in the face of other people behaving like idiots.

Oh yes, the "what do you want" comments. I generally respond to people who should be more polite with "a puppy", which puts a stop to that line of enquiry for a while.

I also got told at 20 weeks that I "didn't look pregnant". Of course I didn't: its not long after you're supposed to get a bump and bad morning sickness had made me lose a stone in the first trimester!

mrshoarder know what you mean. I lost nearly 2 stones through sereve sickness in pregnancy but if anything its made my bump appear bigger and at 21 weeks I had someone who said 'not long now', I went 'not really another 20 weeks.' their face was a picture.