How Early Did You Tell People?

[0FrillyKnickers0]

Hi ladies :) I got my BFP this morning and DH and I have been talking about when to tell people. I understand that it is common to wait until 12weeks and I appreciate why, however...when did you all tell people? DH wants to tell close family and close friends on Christmas Eve...but I'm just a bit scared! Honestly, the tables have turned...it used to be me that wanted to tell people straight away and him wait until 12 weeks! Is it normal to tell people when just 4weeks pregnant? I'm guessing not...This is DC1 btw.

Congratulations!!

I think tell people you would tell if things went wrong. (Not that they will....) Last time, I told noone except close family but then when I had a miscarriage I wanted to tell friends for support and had to tell work for the time I had off. I then had to explain that I was pg but hadn't told them and now I was miscarrying. This time, I am also finding it useful to have people to help with the not drinking at xmas parties so when I order a G&T I get T.

We are telling parents and grandparents on Christmas day, I will be 10 weeks then. I won't be telling anyone else until after the scan. I am quite a private person though.

At the moment (and for the last 6 weeks) only me,my DH, my best friend and my boss have known. I think it's a very personal thing and only you can decide what is right for you.

Good luck for Christmas day,you'll be very excited that morning!!

0FrillyKnickers0 It did upset me, I was excited to tell her and really disappointed at her response. Now that I'm full term she is hugely excited but unfortunately it's left a bitter taste in my mouth. I've enjoyed pregnancy (mainly) and this little baby has always been my baby right from the BFP.

I did really treasure having a secret for a while though so there are pros and cons to telling people.

I told my Mum about an hour after getting my BFP, DH did the same. We are both very close to our parents and wanted them to share our excitement. The rest of the family got told as and when we saw them.

I told my two best friends pretty much straight away, everyone else at 12 weeks.

We waited until 13 weeks to tell parents and siblings. I have asked them to keep it quiet for the moment re wider family and friends because I don't want everyone going on about it over Christmas and will probably be content for word to get around in a couple of weeks. But then I have MC in the past (at 6 weeks) and was very glad no one knew so DH and I could deal with it together and we didn't feel everyone was watching to see whether we had conceived again. I think my reaction was quite similar to flowerflo though and not everyone reacts like that. Equally you shouldn't feel pressured by DP's enthusiasm. I have a friend who told everyone (against her better judgment) as soon as she got a BFP and then felt very embarrassed to untell them a few days later when she got her AF. Good luck with it all and have a wonderful Christmas, whatever you decide about sharing your happy news .

DC1 only told my mum, dad, brother and sister before 12 weeks. They would have guessed anyway, plus I wanted their support.

With this pregnancy, told same family a few days after we found out. Then told oldest friend at 7 weeks because I couldn't keep it to myself and had to tell a few people at work as a risk assessment had to be done at 10 weeks.

I am at people not telling people before 20 weeks - how did they hide the bump?!

with my first ds everyone the day i found out including facebook!

then i had a MC with my second (didnt know i was pregnant until the MC) then kept the MC a secret which slowly came out over time, prolonging the grief of it!

with my third pregnancy-now- told quite a few people at 5 weeks when i found out and just announced it yesterday pubilicaly when i had the 12 week scan with pics on facebook.

each time diff each time felt right! some of my friends thought i had made a mistake telling everyone about this pregnancy so early but after the secret of my miscarriage it felt right..and i figured if i had another MC i would want those people to know

good luck,do what feels right for you xx

DD - after 12 week scan
DS1 - after 12 week scan
DD - at 14 weeks but lost her at 19 weeks
DS2 - 24 weeks before I felt brave enough to tell anyone apart from our parents

We told my parents at 10 weeks, (after having had an early scan at 9 weeks) but didn't tell DH's til after the 12 week scan. It was hard to keep it to ourselves at first, but I'm so glad I did as it was good to have that private time of getting used to the news before telling anyone else. We felt also that if something goes wrong and you have a MC and tell family after, then they feel for you and get their sympathy and support. But if you've already told them and then lose the baby, then the loss is magnified because it is their loss and disappointment as well as your's.

I, like one of the previous posters, was shocked by the negative response at telling parents-in-law at 8 weeks. We told them on christmas day and my father-in-law literally had a heart attack with the news (in hospital within 2 hours of being told!). It was a generational / cultural thing I think, they felt you don't talk about a pregnancy until it is highly visable, and then only if necessary.

We got the same negative reaction for each of the children. I waited til 11 weeks to tell them on the last and had the next 28weeks being told we were foolish for having a 3rd child. They love him now though!

What I am saying is that not all people react well to early pregnancies being talked about. So do be choosey over who you tell.

I am pregnant again and (if this pregnancy is viable), I will not tell anyone around me, including parents-in-law, they will have to work it out for themselves when they see a bump. I have already told my mum and dad at 4 weeks, but they do not live nearby and they are thrilled at the news and always supportive.

Sounds like you will have fun telling everyone on Christmas day, I hope it turns a special day into a double celebratory one for you.

With our first pregnancy we told people right away. A week later we MC'ed. Telling people early also means including them in the disappointment and grief if things go wrong, which after the MC we decided in future we would need to protect them from. With our second pregnancy my mum found out at 5 weeks due to me being admitted into hospital with suspected ectopic pregnancy, she told my younger brother before we could tell her not to let anyone else know. The rest of my family found out after the 12 week scan, and OH's side are finding out on Christmas day when we'll be 14weeks.

I am intending to wait until 12 week scan is done but I think its going to be hard to hide over Christmas especially as I wont be eating most of my favorite foods. If anyone guesses going to ask them to keep it to themselves and hope they do

I am now 11 weeks and family and close friends know. Work were told at about 7 weeks as I was so sick and also I needed a risk assessment completed.

I have my 12 week scan next week and we will then go fully public.

I've decided to tell work when I go back in the new year Don't know what the hell to do on New Years eve...DH has a gig and I have been freaking tired recently. I was in bed at 9.30 last night. I'll just have to grin and bear it I think!