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Totally p**d off with bleeding

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rubles · 11/01/2006 15:28

Please can you give me some moral support. I am, I hope, still 9 weeks pregnant, but I have just been bleeding pretty much all the way through.
I have had heavier days and lighter days, but it just doesn't stop. I have been for two scans so far, the last one was last week, and they couldn't see the cause of the bleeding on either occasion. There was a normal sized embryo and a heartbeat so at that point I was feeling confident that it was OK, and it is just something that I do...but I have just started getting another heavy episode of brighter blood, so now I am thinking 'here we go again...panic, upset, epu'. I either feel really disappointed that it might be all over, or really angry at my body for playing these tricks on me - why can't I just be normal?? If it is going to be unsuccessful why couldn't it have happened weeks ago??
Also, I am p**d off because I have never had any symptoms - no sore boobs or anything. I am so, so jealous when I read on MN about all the other pg ladies who are feeling sick as dogs or really tired because I have had no symptoms at all so I really cannot gauge how the pregnancy is progressing. I know they feel dreadful, but I would give anything to be feeling dreadful in a pregnant way.

Has anyone else had NO symptoms at all? I feel like my baby is just hanging on in there by a thread. I'd love some moral support.

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mummytosteven · 11/01/2006 15:37

poor you having to go through all this. once you are 8 weeks PG and they have seen a heartbeat on a scan, the risk of miscarriage drops dramatically. I am sure I know some people who have no symptoms; btw it's common for symptoms to tail off between 10 and 13 weeks, so don't worry if you continue not to have any.

Tabs · 11/01/2006 16:04

How frustrating on the bleeding Rubles - hope that a cause can be isolated and that it's something minor. I can confirm that you're not the only person to have no symptoms. I got some constipation at the start of the 2nd trimester, but that's pretty much been it for me all the way through (until I got mild SPD, but that was much much later). 37 weeks now and not a day spent feeling sick or with sore or enlarged boobs. I wanted symptoms too for reassurance (as I'd had missed m/c previously), but feel quite lucky now that I didn't get any!

Are you going to go back to EPU to check out the latest bleed?

trace2 · 11/01/2006 16:10

so sorry you feel like this but how did you know you was pg then?/

pucca · 11/01/2006 16:14

Rubles...So sorry to hear about this, and here is me moaning on about how rough i feel I have my fingers crossed for you, and hopefully the bleeding will stop soon Are you gonna go to EPU again? may be worth it to put your mind at rest, that is what they are there for.

Good Luck and i am thinking of you.

Trace2...I gather RUBLES missed a period and got a positive pg test, that is how she knew.

Tabs · 11/01/2006 16:23

trace2 - can't speak for Rubles, but I was charting temps and hence suspected at 11 dpo that i might be, so tested and hey presto I was!

trace2 · 11/01/2006 16:25

wow tabs so you just went with good instinks then?

Tabs · 11/01/2006 16:36

Had been charting long enough to know that the pattern was definitely different, and had just ordered some more HPTs so figured I had nothing to lose in using my last one up!

serenity · 11/01/2006 16:48

Sorry to hear you are going through this rubles. I can sympathise with you as I went through the same thing with DS1 and DS2 (but strangely enough not with DD) It's very frustrating, I used to promise myself after every bleed that I wouldn't panic the next time, but I always did.
They never found an actual cause with me, but one of the possibilities was a cervical erosion or polyp which was bleeding in reaction to the pg hormones. There have been quite a few threads about bleeding in pregnancy, so I think it's actually quite common - just not really talked about.

I won't say try to relax, as I know that's impossible, but hold on to the fact that bleeding doesn't automatically mean bad news, and it will get better.

Good luck x

bunny3 · 11/01/2006 16:54

I bled through to 20 wks with dd, then again from 28 weeks till term. I also had absolutely no sickness and a worrying scan at 12 weeks (enlarged nuchal fold). I was so scared for the hole 9 months and had numerous trips to the hospital - including one in the middle of the night. Anyway, she was eventually born healthy and perfect at 41 weeks . I remember how many tears I shed during that pregnancy but it was all ok in the end. Good luck.

bunny3 · 11/01/2006 16:54

whole not hole

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rubles · 11/01/2006 17:28

Oh thank you all, it is so nice to get some warm messages and support. I really appreciate it.
I don't think I'll rush down to the epu, I feel like I'm there all the time, I'll try and hold off and see what the next 24 hours bring...I might need nerves of steel though.

Serenity, I too have said several times that I am not going to worry any more, but then when there is another heavier bleed i start on the whole rollercoaster ride all over again.

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joanna4 · 11/01/2006 21:22

I went through this with my dd on and off relaxing then back to bleeding i hardly dare breathe too much i couldnt tell anyone for ages i was pg just in case. She was born 8lbs 12oz and 2 weeks late she is 9 years old now and worth every minute of worry.Hang in there.xx

Marne · 11/01/2006 21:39

Hi rubles,
im 30 weeks pg and i have been bleeding on and off throughout my pg yet the baby is fine. I have to go to hospital each time as my blood group is negative and i have to have anti-d each time. Each time i bleed i have to stay in hospital and have a scan etc.. (getting to know all the midwifes very well). Also had this problem with my first pg but only bled 3 times.
I hope all goes well for you and i hope you start to enjoy your pregnancy. Good luck.

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rubles · 12/01/2006 06:41

Well, it seems like this time might actually be it....I have now been bleeding for over 24 hours at a heavy rate, so have used 3 panty liners and now two normal sanitary pads. This morning there were very tiny bits. I can only assume that the next 24 hours are just going to be even heavier, so I think in my head i have let go of any hope now.
It's Ok, I think. It obviously wasn't meant to be born. I would have preferred this to have happened 3 weeks ago, though.
Strangely I have a very strange sense of relief mixed in there with the disappointment...maybe because I am free of the worry now, because I never sensed things were right and now the worst has happened, it's over.

Thanks for listening.

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HellKat · 12/01/2006 07:09

Rubles - {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} hunny. I'm now currently going through my 5th miscarriage. Exactly like you said, it did'nt feel right. I have'nt started the "bright red" bleeding yet but am having bad pains (only 5 wks pg) and so far the epu agree that it does'nt sound viable. As you said, I'm wishing this to hurry up so I can get back to some sense of normality. if ever you need a chat I'm here and if you ever decide to try again, there's a wonderful thread called "TTC after miscarriage". The girls are wonderful as they've all been through it to.
Wishing you love, luck & happiness hun, stay strong xxxxx

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rubles · 12/01/2006 07:54

Oh don't be nice to me or I'll cry!

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HellKat · 12/01/2006 07:58

Oh darlin' it'll get easier.
Did'nt mean to make you cry .
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tabs · 12/01/2006 09:46

Oh Rubles - hoping it's not the worst. Just wondering as they thought that the baby looked okay on the last scan if it could maybe have been a twin that didn't make it which you are losing? Certainly I'd get yourself a scan to be sure.

Hellkat - so sorry to read that you're having another m/c too. Seems so unfair .

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