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Confused and a bit peeved with my midwife!

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McPhee · 21/12/2011 11:51

So I had my booking in appointment a few weeks ago, she dated me at 10+1, which is what I'd thought. We talked about all the scans etc, and I said I wasn't interested in having the Nucal Scan, which she said was fine. So I was told to wait to be called for my first scan which I presume would have been a dating scan. It's my first baby, so am not entirely sure of everything. As I was getting close to 12 weeks, I still hadn't heard anything to someone advised me to call the Antenatal dept and ask if there was anything in the pipeline for me. Well, they'd not even heard of me and had not even received any details about me. I immediately got in contact with my midwife and she re-faxed everything across. Now I've received a letter asking me to come for a Nucal, without even having had a simple dating scan. So.....should I just go as it's a chance to see my baby, or kick up a stink. I'm still not really sure when this babys official EDD is Now I'm 13 weeks and although I had a scan last week because of pain and bleeding, it wasn't a pleasant experience, but was full of stress and anxiety.

Thank you for letting me get this off my chest.

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ThatsNotSantasBabyBelly · 21/12/2011 11:53

It'll be too late for a nuchal fold scan I think so would just be a dating scan.

Go! You'll be able to see more than you did last week, and never turn down a chance to see baby

MotherPanda · 21/12/2011 11:54

hello - the nuchal and dating scan are all-in-one, they don't do separate scan appointments for these unless you are high risk etc.

your midwife could have been confused because you said you didn't want a nuchal, might have thought you didn't want this first scan at all.

VivaLeBeaver · 21/12/2011 11:56

It may well not be your midwife's fault. I would think its more likely that your details have been lost by the clinic. But go, just tell the sonographer you don't wnt the nuchal fold measured and they'll just do the dating part.

ThatsNotSantasBabyBelly · 21/12/2011 11:56

Sorry I am talking out of my arse - it seems it has to be done by 14 weeks. Listen to Panda she talks much more sense.

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McPhee · 21/12/2011 11:58

The Nuchal isn't until the 5th Jan, by which point I'll be over 15 weeks?? All this pregnancy lark is so confusing lol

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user59457812 · 21/12/2011 12:04

A nuchal has to be done by 13+6. However, if you are not bothered about it then you can just have a 'normal' dating scan when they'll check the baby's measurements and heartbeat etc.

I know it's frustrating but unless you want a probability score for Down's and Edward's from the nuchal, the timing isn't really important (apart from for your reassurance, of course).

IslaDoit · 21/12/2011 12:08

It might not be the midwife's fault at all. Paperwork gets lost from time to time. It's a pain in the bum when it's yours but they will be processing literally thousands of women each year so even the best department will slip up occasionally. I bet she did fax it but either the fax machine ate it (not unknown), there was not enough paper at the other end or most likely someone picked it up at destination and then got distracted.

At your next scan (20 weeksish) you'll be given your notes to look after.

MP's right. Nuchal and dating scan tend to be done together. You'll have got a standard letter. Go to the appointment but state to the sonographer that you do not want her to measure the nuchal fold. S/he will make other measurements and check everything is progressing normally and give you a revised EDD.

Congratulations!

IslaDoit · 21/12/2011 12:10

X-posted with op's second post. No need to say anything if will be 15 weeks.

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McPhee · 21/12/2011 12:12

Thank you. My partner said we should still go, so we will. I just wasn't sure whether I needed to contact my midwife about it, but I guess there's going to be little that can be done this close to Christmas anyway.

Thank you for letting me witter on

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IslaDoit · 21/12/2011 12:27

If you can't witter when you're pregnant then when can you?!

Honestly, by the time you've spent the next 6 months schlepping about being poked and prodded and sat about in waiting rooms for about half a day this will be all forgotten. Welcome to the baby production line! It's totally worth it in the end but it is hard to adjust to being at the will of the Nhs machine when you've probably not had much to do with it before.

Good luck - hope it all goes well

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McPhee · 21/12/2011 12:53

I seem to spend a lot of time talking tosh at the moment, much to my partners amusement Yeah, I've not really had anything go do with the NHS before, and have felt a bit out of control with it all. I'm so used to just getting stuff done, that waiting around for other people to do stuff is a bit foreign

Oh and I've done the waiting around in waiting rooms last week, when I had a bleed...I think I passed that test

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