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Irrational Fear

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plumtrees · 20/12/2011 22:00

I am 31 weeks pregnant with twins (our first children) and in the last 3-4 weeks have become terrified of something happening to my DH.

My wonderful Dad died suddenly 5 years ago and though I feel I've completely dealt with my grief for him, I can't help feeling my fear of losing DH is linked.

I feel ridiculously panicky about my DH and I don't really know how to deal with the issue. I'm not usually irrational or worried about these kinds of things but just writing this my heart is racing and I'm almost in tears. I'm so afraid.

Did anyone else feel like this when pregnant? Did it stop when their baby arrived? I'm concerned that this ridiculous worry will only get worse rather than better when the twins arrive.

Any advice gratefully received!

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kiki22 · 20/12/2011 22:14

Hiya, i'm not worried anything will happen to DP but i have become very clingy to him and i know i've heard others say they suddenly want there partners around them constantly when pregnant there have been a few threads on it, could be the same thing effecting you more because of losing your dad?

Have you told your DH how you feel? might help you feel better

nothingsoextraordinary · 23/12/2011 11:44

Hi plumtrees, exactly the same thing happened to me when I was pregnant. It must be hormonal because it wore off very shortly after the birth (in fact, my DH was so freaked out by seeing the C section that we swapped roles)!

It was horrible, though. I cried constantly.

Definitely just a pregnancy thing.

susiey · 23/12/2011 16:22

I am completely irrational and vunerable when pregnant to do with dh .
I am pregnant with dc4 and I always forget about it till it returns again .
Don't worry it passes almost as soon as your babies arrive!

It's completely normal

sunshinesue · 24/12/2011 11:10

glad to hear it's not just me. I went mental at dh becuase he was twenty minutes late home from work and didn't call. I wouldn't even have noticed before I was pregnant.

LennyGodber · 24/12/2011 11:16

I don't think it's irrational exactly, you need your DH around for you and your babies (congratulations!) and you know what it's like to lose your dad and don't want them to go through that for a long long time. Pregnancy is a scary time. I was terrified something would happen to the baby last time but now I have a DC it's me dying in childbirth that keeps me awake in the small hours.

Don't be hard on yourself, try to use logic when you are feeling panicked and get your DH on board with things like texting to say he's arrived safely when he goes to work or out to meet pals. Take care x

LennyGodber · 24/12/2011 11:17

oh, should have said my anxiety levels went right down the second I held my DC and pretty much stayed down til I got another BFP!

mumsrthebest · 28/12/2011 16:38

It sounds like its hormonal. I sound speak to your GP and he might be able to help you with your anxiety levels.

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