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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Can you be too laid back?

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 20/12/2011 16:53

I am just wondering we are 21 weeks and 2 days pregnant and so far we have had no concerns about pregnancy and the birth or even the what happens after. I have been the day reading up like a mad woman since we found out.

We have been buying baby items for a while now and only need a cot, wardrobe and wooden changer. (God I love Ikea)

As first time parents should we not be having more concerns??

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xmasmummytobe · 20/12/2011 17:54

Not at all, that's great no point getting yourself wound up when there is no apparent need. You seem well prepared so don't see anything wrong with being laid back.

Enjoy feeling laid back. X

sunnysunchild · 20/12/2011 17:55

Nothing wrong with being laid back remotely! You are going to have the rest of your life to worry about this wee one! :o

themothershipcalling · 20/12/2011 17:57

Not at all! I was just the same, I loved being pregnant, found the whole thing very chilled and enjoyable and was the same as you, read everything so felt prepared. Even the thought of giving birth didn't scare me!

Relax and enjoy!

musicalmrs · 20/12/2011 18:19

Hi YummyMummy! I'm just a little behind you, at 19w+2, with our first. We're also laid back - so laid back that we haven't bought anything ourselves for the baby yet! We'll be doing so in the post Christmas sales though.

It's best to be laid back for both yourself and the baby, so enjoy it while it lasts!

babybouncer · 20/12/2011 18:21

YummyMummy you are way ahead of where I was at that stage. You seem very prepared as well as laid back!

indicababy · 20/12/2011 23:25

Laid back and relaxed is best, just remember to address some of the things that do worry people in pregnancy so you have plans on how you want to handle them if they do crop up x

idlevice · 21/12/2011 08:27

You may find it ramps up as you go further on. I'm tried to feel v laidback with DC1 but I did feel a tiny bit pressured to buy buy buy from every angle & after I had DS it seemed like an amazing revelation that the shops were still there & we could just go out & buy things we needed!

Also reading up etc is good but it's one of those things that until you've done it you can't know all the ins & outs, & even then everyone's experience is different so don't worry that you've not done enough research or preparation etc

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 14:02

Thank you all so much, I was begining to worry about not worrying (there is an oxymoron if I ever heard one)

The CMW laughed when she saw the babies room. MY DP have recently moved into our new home and the babies room is well underway, all jungle themed and cute.

She has advised me that I should address any issues I have before they become too big.

xmasmummytobe when are you due?

Thank you sunnysunchild , although I did go an buy a reward chart in preperation and decided on the naughty step (might try them on DP)

Thanks themothershipcalling, I love being pregnant watching my ever increasing bump and feeling DS funky dance moves.

musicalmr oh Sales need to hit me a few of those perhaps.

babybouncer there is organised then there is my DP and I lists for lists LOL. Guessing we are going to need this when DS is born.

indicababy thanks for the advice tying to address things as they come up.

idlevice there will always be shops and boy do I know it. Trying not to fall into the we need everything for baby.

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SootySweepandSue · 21/12/2011 14:06

That's a great way to be enjoy.

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 14:15

Thanks SootySweepandSue. xx

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nickelhadababyYesLord · 21/12/2011 14:21

I was really laid back in my pregnancy.

As Isbn was born 16 (offically - it was midnight! I still say 15 days over) days over, I was too laid back for the hospital staff, and the midwives etc. But I was just doing what my body told me to do.
And Isbn is fine. She didn't even look overcooked.

The only things I would say to be aware of and zealous about is the iron and vitamins.
I kept forgetting to take my pregnancy vitamins, and I did have low iron, which was a problem because I had a PPH (thankfully not a big one - just under 2 pints) and am now on iron tablets, and am very weak.
If I'd taken my vitamins properly all the way through, I might not hav ebecome quite so anaemic through the blood loss.

Have to say, though, your definition of "laid back" is funny to me, cos we didn't prepare any baby stuff before the birth.
she's sleeping in a moses basket cos we havn't got a cot, and we didn't get a car seat until after she was born (mainly because we hadn't expected to go to hospital! )

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 14:25

nickelhadababyYesLord thanks for the advice.

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TheBreadstick · 21/12/2011 15:16

Hi Yummy Mummy!

I'm 25 weeks with my first and haven't bought a shred yet - either for the baby or me. Still squeezing into my jeans just about! Also haven't started reading the various books/leaflets/Bounty packs that I've been given by people. I guess I'll start thinking about all that in New Year? (mind you, I'm the type to usually cast my eye over the IKEA instructions after I've put the furniture together!)

What would you rather be, laid back or a mumzilla!? I've come across both with my friends and families pregnancies and believe me - the laid back mums-in-waiting are far nicer to be around!

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, and enjoy!

Bread x

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 15:18

Thanks Bread. i am trying not to stress out as it is bad for our DS.

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TheBreadstick · 21/12/2011 16:04

In that case you should do whatever feels right for you Yummy. If planning ahead and preparing things like your nursery etc well in advance stops you from feeling stressed out then who gives a monkeys what other people think!

Similarly, if you're the type of person who likes to leave things and not worry too much in advance (afterall I've heard a rumour that baby shops are open 'after' you've had them too ) then it goes without saying you shouldn't stress out about getting things together until you're ready!

Bread x

Xmasbaby11 · 21/12/2011 16:49

ooh you sound really organised! I didn't get baby stuff until later but still it wasn't stressful. Just do things whenever you feel like it, that way you'll be ok if you get tired later on or have it early. The 2nd trimester is great for getting things done! I loved pregnancy until I hit 35 weeks, now 39 ... happy memories!

Davinaaddict · 21/12/2011 19:15

I was really laid back in first pregnancy and actually when DS came along (also 16 days late), he was a really chilled out baby. Not so much now he is an almost 2 year old crazy toddler .

This time round I'm not as laid back, which is much more like the 'normal' me who is normally a lot of a control freak Enjoy it while you can!

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