So stressed

[Sandra2011]

I have moved into a new house few weeks ago.

I feel so stressed and worried about it that sometimes I stay up nights thinking about all the things that should be done.

Unfortunately my husband has a really relaxed attitude regarding organising and decorating.

We also have an au-pair arriving (for our 2.5 year old) after New Year. Her room is not even half finished.

I cannot do anything as my son is so wild and has to be watched all the time. He doesn't do naps anymore.
I've also been suffering of bad hip pain for the last 12 weeks.

We don't have any relatives in this country and no friends in this area.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant.

Is this just hormones?

Sorry to hear you're feeling down. Can you look on Mumsnet local or NCT local sites to find other women in a similar position (familywise) to yours?

Not just hormones, though I'm sure they don't help. Sounds like quite a stressful situations you're in. I'm sure the pain and sleep deprivation aren't helping either. I'd try to see someone about the pain and do whatever it takes to get some decent sleep.
Jkklpu has a good point - why not try to find some activities you can take your toddler to (to tire them out!) - could be a great way to meet people. There might also be some 'bumps and babies' groups that you could join.

Sorry you're feeling stressed. I definitely feel less able to deal with stress in pregnancy which could be the hormones. Moving house is up there as a major life event too and Christmas doesn't help!

Could you talk to your DH & explain this & that you will need a bit if extra support with things at the mo?

Although it may not be perfect, try & focus on the au pair coming & that this will free up some time for you before the baby arrives to get some jobs done.

Are you a list person? I find organising my stress helps! Also means I can delegate easier.

Hope you get settled soon.

Agree with all above. Moving house is pretty stressful at the best of times so it is hardly a surprise that you have finding it tricky with a young child and pregnant.

I would suggest some serious prioritising here. Sit down with your dh and make a list all all the things that need to be done and then put them in order of priority. Agree with him the things that absolutely have to be sorted by a certain date, make sure it is the bare minimum. You can then relax a bit about everything else on the list. They will get done but as long as the au pair has a bed to sleep in and the vital tasks are done all else is a bonus.

You might find then once you have done this it is not nearly as bad as you thought.

Good luck with the new house and the little one :)

I agree with posters, moving house is one of the most stressful things you can do.

My husband said last night ne was starting to stress about everything we needed to do and I said you have to put these things into perspective.
Some people dont have any money to do any of the things we want to do in preparation for a new baby - new furniture for room, new floor, floor the attic... and they would be just getting on with life as it is and would be more stressed about a lot more basic things. If these things don't end up all done then its not the end of the world, as long as the baby arrives healthily and we can afford the feed it and keep it warm then the rest is a bonus.

I think if you are honest with the au pair as to how things arent all finished in time, they will understand, and if rooms arent finished in time as long as they are clean and livable, you have to content yourself that you are doing enough, you already have plenty to keep you busy with a toddler, and although i'm sure you would love to have everything done and dusted, your health and stress levels are more important.

Good luck with it all!!