Is anyone else finding it difficult keeping it a secret????

[goingmadtrying]

Hello

I am 6+6 with twins and am so so excited I am struggling to keep being pregnant a secret :)

I have told our close family and friends but just so excited want to shout it from the roof tops

Also I'm finding being pregnant with twins a lot more difficult in that I'm shattered and look rough, I'm wondering whether I should tell work?????

What have you ladies done????

I'm about 11 wks and so exhausted and grumpy I feel I should tell people but want to wait til I've had my scan (another 3 wks away and no early scan so a bit paranoid).

We've told close family and I told my head of department at work as I felt so lousy, but my line manager is new and crap so will wait to tell her. I suspect Christmas will be hard to keep quiet from my eagle eyed friends tho!

Congrats on the twins

i managed to keep it a secret for about 8 weeks before i told everyone. I found it really stressfull trying not to say anything that might give it away and making excuses for not drinking and looking crap was hard so i thought fuck it and told everyone.

I looked at the reasons for keeping it a secret and the only one was incase i MC and i kinda thought it's a crap reason for me (not everyone) i wanted to tell people and if i did MC i wouldn't want it to be this big secret i would need to struggle with, i MC before and couldn't have got through it without all the support i got. So what i'm saying is if you want to tell the world why not tell them?

Teutcher im a grumpy cow, and for being exhausted well my poor husband is getting the brunt of it at both ends!!!!Congrats on your pregnancy, how annoying having to wait that long for a scan, Ive had some bleeding so I had an early scan on Tuesday which is how I discovered it is twins :)

kiki I know what you mean, I think I would be a horrible person to be with if I unfortunately miscarried, so on that score think i would want the support. My main reason for not telling work is that Im due my appraisal next month, and although Im not guaranteed a payrise would be left thinking if the fact im pregnant played a part in it But its so hard grrr wish the 12 weeks went quickly.

I am really happy and excited that Im having twins,but am under no illusion its going to be easier, I feel so so tired and I cant see that improving any time soon???

I'm 6+4 (with just the one!) and definitely struggling to keep it under wraps too. I keep picking up my phone to call tell my friends, but so far resisting. I agree the miscarriage risk is the only reason why not... On that front I have to say one thing that is putting me off telling anyone is that I have had to tell my boss and her reaction was 'hmm, 6 weeks is still very early...'. This is my first pregnancy and I'm completely terrified of miscarriage - the thought of anyone else responding with a 'still very early' i.e. 'it could still all go wrong you know' is enough to make me want to keep it under wraps a bit longer (lest I shoot the messenger!)... 12 weeks is SUCH a long time though, and I imagine with twins it is double the excitement!

If you have a nice boss you could tell them on a personal basis i did but didn't officially tell work until after my scan.

Peasandyoghurt your boss sounds like a bitch can't believe she said that to you!! i don't think a lot of people would say something like that but i think after 8 weeks people are better with the news for some reason.

Hello,
I am 5+6 and I am going with the idea of telling the people I would tell if I had a mc. I had a mc in April at 9.5 weeks (but only measured 5.5 weeks) and my DH and I had not told anyone except for parents. We then needed support so told close friends and because of the time I needed off work for repeat scans and an ERPC, I also had to tell work. So this time, I am telling the people I would tell if I did have another mc.

I intend to tell work after my early scan next week - if it is ok - just so that there is a reason for my odd behaviour - I spend 50% of my time feeling crap and 50% of my time stressing and panicking because I don't feel crap!

This time it is particularly difficult keeping it quiet with all the christmas parties etc. Luckily I also look quite rough, so the excuse I left early and didn't drink because I am not feeling great is quite believable.

Having said that goingmadtrying if you can keep it quiet before an appraisal, it would be a good idea as you don't want it going against you. (I know they can't legally do that but if they think you are leaving in 6 months or so it may affect how they feel your future is going.)

My OH is a nightmare. He can't keep it secret for love nor money he's so excited so I've come to the conclusion that family as close friends whom we'd probably like support from should anything go wrong is ok.

Asking everyone to keep it off Facebook and general knowledge until after scan though. I will tell work after scan.