Feeling down and ugly, want to cry ALL the time.

[Savannahrose]

Hi

I'm 24 weeks pregnant, and feeling horrible. I constantly have no energy with DD only being 7 months. I'm only 24, and having another DC due in April. I never have the energy to make myself look attractive and live in my leggings and jumper dress. I feel horrible. No matter how hard I try, I just want to cry as when I look in the mirror I see a horrible fat mess. My DH has no idea I feel this way and I feel he is always looking at OW when we're out. It's my birthday on Monday and we are going out for a family meal on Saturday. I bought a maxi dress last night and just look HUGE in it. It's got that bad that I don't feel like going. Also, randomly I will just well up and want to burst out into tears. I know my hormones are high but I can't help but feel low. I have a very colourful past with DH and have had an eventful year, including a premature labour with DD at 34 weeks.
Sorry for having a moan. I just feel down, ugly and alone.
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I'm so sorry you're feeling so low...I'm 30 weeks and feeling similarly huge and uncomfortable. FWIW I'd wager that you look absolutely beautiful and blooming even though you feel as though you look like you swam through a puddle and walked backwards through a hedge.

Chin up, chickie... you're doing a wonderful thing!

I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling so down, OP. 24w is a difficult time, and especially with a little one in tow already. As you said, your hormones are probably playing merry hell with you at the moment - I know I cried all the time at that stage, and I also wasn't very comfortable with my new rapidly expanding figure either.

Do you think you could talk to your DP about how you are feeling and get some reassurance off of him?

If not, I think it might help to talk to your midwife or GP about how you are feeling as you do sound very down. And of course keep coming here and 'moaning' (which you are not, by the way!) - that is what we are here for

Big hugs ! I'm not far behind you, 21 weeks and feeling exactly the same. Must be pretty common at this stage? I'm 21.My DP has even turned round and told me he doesn't find me at all sexy when I'm pregnant, I also have another one, a DS who is 2 n a half so not half as hard as you.feel for you, just chin up and remember what your bodies doing. That's what I keep telling myself not really working but worth a shot! I'm very weight conscious and has suffered from undiagnosed anorexia(to embarrassed/didnt believe it to admit it before now). So finding it difficult to. But please remember its not forever and the result is worth it 100x. I no I'd do it everyday of every year for my ds. I was a size 6 and now a size 10 but refusing to get on the scales. Maybe treat your self to the hairdressers? Or manicure/PEDICURE! Lol. But I do think you need to tell your DH, he can support you and comfort you especially give you a shoulder to cry on, sometimes that's all you need, a bloody good cry. So go ahead and don't bottle up, youl feel a lot better afterwards! Hope you feel better soon! Btw sorry for spelling! On my phone

Thank you all for your comments. It's nice to have people who are in the same position as me.
Yummi-I used to be size 6 too. I'm not a 10 but my bump has shot out this time. I lost all my weight literally straight away with DD, then fell pregnant with this one so back on it went I had a bump at like 8 weeks. My bump is measuring 28cm and I'm 24 weeks. I swear this one is a boy....but not getting my hopes up. My DH would be understanding but because I feel emotional everyday I don't want him to get annoyed with me moaning everyday :( don't want to bring him down with me. Plus it's Xmas......don't want to ruin the mood.
I know what we're doing is amazing and worth everyday of pain and fatness, but don't you just wish men could be pregnant!!
I'd pay to see that!
X

Sorry you're feeling so low Savannahrose, you are certainly not alone though!
I'm 27 weeks and feel hideous: big bump, growing bum and thighs, terrible skin AND I cut my long hair off just before I found out I was PG- I really regret this and it seems to have not grown at all! Grr

Maybe a little bit of pampering will make you feel a wee bit better? Have a word with DH to look after your DC while you have a bath? Or get your hair/ nails / make up done? Just a little treat to make yourself feel special.
I've totally given up doing my hair but when I force myself it makes me feel better if you see what I mean!

I'm sure you're looking a lot better than you think, happy birthday for next week

I got all emosh today. I'm 20+5 weeks with my first and havnt felt too bad on a daily basis but attempted to go shopping today and everything looked horrible. im living in the same 4 outfits and am in need of getting a few more bits, plus the of glam outfit for over Xmas and new years. I ended up in tears in the changing room! I look at other pregnant women and they look great with their bumps, I feel like my bump hasn't developed properly yet and I just look fat rather than pregnant it's a horrible feeling hey. I keep telling myself it's not normal fat but doesnt really help on down days

savannah As Bella says, have you talked to you MW/GP about this? Whilst we all have those days, to feel so low constantly isn't good and is a sign of antenatal depression and should be taken 100% seriously, not just dismissed by you as a normal pregnancy thing, or something that won't last. If you're feeling low for over about 30% of the time, then please see someone. Please don't just dismiss it as being a "pregnancy" thing as if left antenatal depression can be VERY destructive. The last thing you want is for it to ruin bonding with your lovely new baby. Talk to you MW of GP...difficult (I have a history of depression and kept thinking it wa either totally normal and I should just be able to "get on with it" or that I was so totally crazy they would section me), but there's no point in struggling if there are things that can be done to help.
The good news if it is AND is that you automatically popped to the top of the list thanks to being pregnant!
And def. keep popping back on here and ranting if you need to...have you joined your antenatal thread? I've found it very good to know what others are going through...

Hi I am 24 weeks and feel the same. Sat and cried for 3 hours ( and counting) today. Normally I'd have a glass of wine and chill but not able to do that. Feel fat and fed up to also, I know it will all be worth it but just so hard at the min. Keep your chin up though x