Just had midwife appt through, will be 11 weeks by the time I have it, AIBU to want one sooner?

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I had a mc back in Oct and was kind of hoping to see her sooner. Last time I had my booking in appt at 7 weeks. By the time I have my appt I will 11 weeks and due a scan the week after.

It's fantastically unusual to have a booking in appt at 7 weeks. Usually it's 12 or 13 weeks.

Having said which, if you are particularly anxious after your mc (which I understand; have been there) it is always worth asking if you can be seen earlier.

Best of luck.

Agree with the other poster that 11 weeks is the norm. You could see your GP if you have some specific health questions. I stand to be corrected but the midwife won't be able to do much at this point (I am not sure that they can hear the heartbeat at that stage etc).

I do understand why you're nervous of course, it is a horrible waiting game.

Lots of luck that it all goes smoothly.

I've never heard of anyone booking in as early as 7 weeks before. Where I used to live it was 8 weeks at the earliest, they preferred after 10 weeks. Where I am now its 10 weeks, meaning everyone has their 12 week scan nearer 15 weeks because of the time needed for them to sort out scan appts. Its a bit useless really.

TBH though, other than fill in some forms there isn't anything the MW will do much at 7 weeks. If you have any scares early on just call the GP or the early pregnancy unit at the hospital if you have one (EPAU or EPADS)

I'm in the same position, pregnant straight after miscarriage and booking in/scan not til 14 wks. Have phoned to ask for earlier appt and was told they are so short staffed that unless I had an emergency warranting a call to EPAS, I just had to wait.

Very disappointed and plan to have baby at a different (less short staffed!) hospital. I guess there's nothing you can do short of going private?

All three of my booking ins have been after 11 weeks. In fact, with the second pg I didn't even get that far as I had a mc at 11 weeks.

TBH, seeing the mw makes absolutely no difference to any outcome. All she does is go through a load of forms, nothing that can't be done later.

I had an app with my GP the week after I got my BFP and had to battle the receptionist for it as she didn't want me seeing GP but go straight to MW in a few weeks, I just told her I needed to discuss whether my medication was suitable and she couldn't argue with me.

I had my booking in app with MW at 7w+2 but that was only because I could have been up to 9w - 10w if you went by my LMP. My GP's surgery doesn't like to book women in until 8 - 10ws.

MW didn't mind but as other posters have said having the booking in app doesn't alter the outcome of the pregnancy. I had issues early on in the pregnancy and had 3 scans prior to my NF scan at 13wks but they were all via GP ref to EPAU. I spoke to the midwife once during this time (10wks I think) and she said until I was 16wks regardless of whether I'd been booked in I was under GP care if there were any issues ie another MC.

It did confuse the life out of me but I'm lucky to have a great GP & EPAU at my local hospital.

I don't think YABU, but if you think there is a problem you may just have to push anyone and everyone to make sure you are seen by someone and reassured. You can always book a private viability scan if you're nervous, I did it for a friend who had repeat MC's and they are great, happy to refer onto hospital if there appears to be an issue.

Personally I don't think it's unreasonable to want it sooner, though as other posters have said it isn't the norm to have it earlier. My view is that not everyone is so well read up on all the pregnancies dos and don'ts and may continue to do plenty of unhealthy things during their pregnancy before having the chance to see the midwife. Having a booking in appointment to be told that you need to be taking folic acid for instance when you're pretty much out of the first trimester anyway isn't much use. So I agree, they should be sooner. Unfortunately very often they're not though and there's little we can do.

When I used to work in maternity care I used to argue passionately that women should be able to access midwifery care in the first trimester - for this kind of situation, and for advice on diet, folic acid, smoking etc.

But it won't happen because of resources. They simply don't have enough midwives already, without extending care into the first trimester. I was told, rather brutally I thought, that the sheer number of early miscarriages means it isn't cost-effective to provide midwifery care before 12 weeks.

OP, when I got pg shortly after miscarriage I was DESPERATE to see a midwife and get reassurance that everything was ok. Those weeks just dragged by (especially as I bled throughout). It was a really, really horrible time and I am hugely sympathetic to how you are feeling.

My local EPU allows us to self-refer. After a miscarriage, I self-referred, and had three scans (8,9, and 10 weeks) before the 'official' dating scan. Would this be available to you?