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Why dnt I want to talk/think about baby or being pregnant

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Sarahmarie2505 · 14/12/2011 17:02

I'm 11 weeks pregnant got scan booked for Nxt tue . My mummies already expressed SHE IS COMING ! But when her or my hubby ask
Me how are u or oh when the baby is here etc etc I clam up and don't want to talk about it? It's like I was so tired the other day I couldn't keep my eyes open then my mum said oh that's ur hormones I jus snapped at her I was like I Know! It is my third I no what it is! Grrrrr im just so aggitated it's horrible ! I also used to knit a lot I can't even bare the thought of doing any ! It's really weird I jus cannot b bothered to do anything!

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pixie04 · 14/12/2011 17:08

I'm on my first so only have one experience to go by but I've felt that way on and off throughout my pregnancy. For it's been everyone saying stupid stuff and irritating me or the fact that I feel like I have no personality and not who I used to be. This baby is very much wanted so feeling like that makes me feel guilty if that makes sense.

Do you remember feeling like this with your previous pregnancies?

MrsHoarder · 14/12/2011 20:50

I feel like that sometimes: its hormones plus the overwhelming hugeness of the responsibility. Just stay calm.

Also, if you don't want your mother at the scan, many hospitals will only let you take one other person into the room, so you can gently let her down that way (and a lot will let you pay for a photo for her to see afterwards).

staylucky · 14/12/2011 22:02

Hi Sarah, also on #3 here too and tbh by now you've prob seen and done it already! In a similar way, don't find pregnancy talk all that thrilling. Guess the things you find exciting 1st time around aren't that big a deal (or don't seem so) Plus you know what's coming LOL. You know those middle months of feeling GREAT are coming too though x x

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Sarahmarie2505 · 16/12/2011 11:24

I'm not actually getting any happier about this situation . I posted on here when I found out that I was scared and wasn't sure we have done the right thing . I thought I would feel better but I'm feeling worse ! I'm actually starting to feel disgusted at myself that I've been unresponsible ? I'm really upset about feeling like this ! I'm starting to show already and it making me too embarassed to go to work as we wear t shirts as uniform and everything is getting too tight I'm sure ppl are guessing already I jus want to hide and cry : ((

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Cewafwb · 16/12/2011 13:35

Sarahmarie i am the same sort of. This is number four and am 17 +1. It has a huge mistake/accident and we really fought to decide what to do. Realised we couldn't 'get rid' so have gone ahead, but have told almost no one. I don't want to tell anyone, I don't want to talk about it. I hardly have a bump as am in complete denial. I am not grumpy or cross, just in complete denial. I feel for you as I feel weird feeling like this too! x

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Sarahmarie2505 · 16/12/2011 16:36

It's really strange I don't want to tell anyone but I'm going to have to : (

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Cewafwb · 16/12/2011 17:49

me too. did one today, thankfully she had a great reaction and sympathised - made it so much easier when I didn't have to shoot them down in flames - but then I think I shouldn't be admitting the fact that I am not keen!

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Sarahmarie2505 · 16/12/2011 18:53

Lol I've told a couple of ppl still got to tell work :/ and my nvq teacher : / think someone had a suspicion today she kept kooky at my belly which was hanging over my jeans cause they are really tight now ! It's so hard to b good when I'm so blinking hungry now OH wants kfc and to b honest I'm too tired to
Cook woooops I'm gonna way about 40 stone by the time I give birth! Another fail : ((

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Bibbo · 16/12/2011 18:56

I knit a lot too but cannot be arsed since getting pg (am also 11wks). I wish I could be bothered as I really love it!

am sure the urge will return in 2nd trimester

lljkk · 16/12/2011 19:08

Pregnancy got very boring by the time I got to 3+.

staylucky · 16/12/2011 21:20

Sarah, am sure you'll feel better about things as time goes on x I told only a couple of v close friends to start of with who could cope with me stressing about it 'being the wrong time' and 'oh god, we've not enough bedrooms' and 'things were just starting to get easier' Being mates they've been able to forget all that now that i've come around to feeling happy and excited. People might suspect you are pregnant but are v unlikely to actually outright ask you until you feel ready to tell them x

claricestar · 17/12/2011 08:45

I'm on surprise number 3 too and for weeks felt irritated and embarrassed by other peoples curiosity and excitement while me and dp were in denial and just getting on with it. Now I'm 30 weeks i feel a lot better about it and am starting to get excited (about maternity leave!)...but people are still shocked when I tell them we are not thinking about names or anything until after Christmas!

RosyRosie · 18/12/2011 11:49

Sympathies, this is my first and i don't particularly want to talk about it/hear the stupid comments/endlessly shop for baby stuff. the fact is, i'm having a baby, it's a normal part of life, it'll be nice when it gets here and I'll love it 9do already) but we don't have to go overboard!

Also, i was so sick and tired up to around 13weeks that ALL energy to do ANYTHING except obsess about what I could and couldn't face eating just got up and left. I was quite depressed actually because I'm a real hive of activity with lots of stuff to do, plans etc and it all just....went.

You'll probably come round at some point! :D

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