Irrational worrying - 12 week scan

[LordyLady]

I guess I'm just at the beginning of a lifetime of worrying as a Mum, but I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow and I'm more worried than excited. It's stupid, I've had no problems so far (apart from a fainting episode at about 6 weeks) and have had rotten MS (the sign of a healthy foetus?!) but I guess it's normal to feel a bit of anxiety....isn't it? I don't help myself by going on the internet waaaay to much and accidentally reading horror stories. Help me sort my silly head out ladies!!!!

I was exactly the same as you. We found out I was preg at about 7 weeks and my partner wanted to tell our parents, friends etc and didn't seem to understand why I wanted to wait until I had had my scan. I'm known to be a worrier anyway and fear im jynxing things if I get to happy or carried away. It's a wonderful experience having your first scan, as soon as the little bean pops up on the screen and you see a healthy heartbeat you will calm down and relax. I suffered and still do (32 weeks) with morning sickness and even though I hate it and its a pain, I consider it to be a sign of a healthy baby.

P.s take a bottle of water with you, I nearly fainted when waiting in the waiting room after being sick that morning. Good luck

Its perfectly normal to worry..but it won't help to get yourself worked up. I have a 7 year old and I'm now 16 weeks pregnant again. I worried constantly about everything during my first pregnancy. I'm still worrying now and he's seven! I worried exactly the same way before my 12 week scan 4 weeks ago. I was so nervous and its easy to think the worst but normally everything is fine! When you see your little baby wiggling around on the screen you will be so relieved and happy. Its like a weight being lifted of your shoulders. Good luck with your scan and the rest of your pregnancy!!

Thanks so much! I know everything will more than likely be fine, but you know how you get bombarded with information about things you didn't even know existed before? Then when you wake up at night for the inevitable wee they go around and around in your head driving you mad! Once I hear the little heart beat I think I might start blubbing with joy, just can't wait to be able to relax a bit and start telling people why I've been hiding away for 3 months. It's been a bit pukey, lonely and tearful so far!

Oh god i'm so paranoid at the moment i've never been like this in my life!

The first scan is AMAZING, you will be walking on air this time tomorrow i couldn't stop looking at the picture for about a week!

I was bricking it, i was convinced that there was no baby there and it was a phantom pregnancy, i had my 20 weeks scan 2 weeks ago (it's a girl ;) and i still thought the sonographer was gonna say 'nope, no baby there' i'm going back to have it completed next thursday and i'm still getting worked up, i've waited for weeks to feel her move now i panick if she doesnt for an hour - more trouble than it's worth!!

Good luck for tomorrow i'm sure evrything will be fine, let us know how you get on xx

I'm a bit of a worrier at the best of times, I think it's a bit like damage control kind of being prepared for the worst but it's stupid, the wise mamas amongst my friends keep telling me enjoy it...a bit hard when I've been puking and desperately tired but they are right. I just need to CHILL. Will definitely post back tomorrow all being well, know exactly what you mean about expecting to see an empty womb there...I only did one test as DP said doing another one was ridiculous and 2 missed periods are a pretty good sign that there's a bean in there! Try not to worry Millystar (says she, Queen Worrywart), I'm sure we'll both be fine!

LordyLady IKWYM about thinking there will be nothing there. I was so paranoid about this that I paid for a private 'reassurance' scan at 9 weeks (NHS scan wasn't scheduled until 14 weeks because hospital so busy!). Even when you have missed your periods and feel like crap it's still kind of hard to believe until you actually see it with your own eyes.

I found the 12 week mark to be a huge turning point as I stopped worrying about MC QUITE so much!

Perfectly normal to be worried. I am 12 weeks and I am very worried (and I have had my scan already)... Was also worried with the last pg. Try to translate your worry (i assume to refer to nervous jitters) into something positive - read good books on pg, gather information from reliable sources, understand the reason for your worry and how you can address it (cinema, relaxation, more research).

I am 39 and my 12 wk scan was last week with fantastic results a beautiful wriggly baby and good health prospects (1:1600 down risk).

Good luck for tomorrow

Hello ladies, just back from the hospital and everything is fine! Millystar you were right, it's AMAZING!! Was so glad to see the little bean in there kicking about and having a merry old time. I hope you're all feeling ok today and thanks so much for helping to put my mind at rest

Yay!!! So pleased you did report back, lordylady. My 12week scan is on Tuesday (3 sleeps!) and like you, am terrified I've made a terrible mistake and there'll be nothing in there! It's reassuring when others feel the same but all is ok.

I hope you can relax and enjoy it a bit more. X

Great to hear OP, fantastic news! Good luck to you princess

Yaaaaaaaay! It's crazy isn't it?! A positive test, no periods, sore boobs and daily puking and I was still not quite convinced. Princess, you'll be fine and totally blown away when you see your little baby swimming around in there, it's incredible. Best of luck, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted and I can now start to enjoy it! xxx

Congrats lordylady that's great news. I am so glad you posted this as my scan is on Tuesday and I have been exactly the same - fretting like mad. All the sensible advice has made me feel a bit better, thanks all!

LordyLady I'm so happy for you :) There' no explanation for the feeling you get when you see the little munchkin for the first time :)
My first scan was an emergency one and it was such a relief seeing him bobbing around inside me totally unaware of the stir that he was causing.

Thought I'd jump back on and say I had the scan and all was perfect (it looked perfect to me, anyway!). The most incredible thing, to have this baby in you and you can't feel it at all. Waving away :)

So any other nervous doubters like me and LordyLady - it seems those pee-sticks really do work! I'm growing a baby!!!!!!!!!!

I'm am so glad to hear it's not just me!! I have two more weeks to wait until my 12wk scan and it's killing me! I keep thinking that there will be nothing there, so thanks PrincessSugarPlum and lordyLady :)